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    Okay so about 3 weeks, my cousin decided to ditch me on a day that I really needed her even though she'd said weeks before and even the night before that she would be there. She didn't bother to call or see me afterwards either but I accepted this because its not the first time she'd done this. We'll be super close for a while then all of a sudden she'll stop answering my calls and messages and make endless excuses about why we can't hang out then months later she'll mysteriously come back and cycle repeats. I decided that she was unreliable and I was not going to attempt to contact her because I am sick of having so many bad friends in my life especially since whenever I confront her, she'll put it down to me being too clingy or overemotional.

    She texted me today saying that she needed to stay over at my house for a couple of days (probably because of an argument she's had with her mum) and of course I said that it was fine because at the end of the day I do care about her and won't deny her support if she needs it. I'm just upset that she only decided to contact me when she needed something from me and I also know that if I was in the same position as she is now (which I have been many times), she wouldn't let me stay over at her house because of a stupid reason like "You're annoying" and then would tell me that I should just suck it up. Even though when she's in this situation I have put all my angry, hurt feelings against her aside because I know she needs my help right now.

    Am I allowed to mad that she wouldnt do the same for me? And I am justified in feeling used at this moment?
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    Your job is a good distraction from this I hear
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    You are being used i think. and you should be mad, but tbh i commend you for letting her stay over despite all the crap you've had to put up with.
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    (Original post by homeland.lsw)
    You are being used i think. and you should be mad, but tbh i commend you for letting her stay over despite all the crap you've had to put up with.
    Surely if I refused to let her stay, it would just seem like I'm being petty? Besides she's family so...
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    (Original post by bluemadhatter)
    Surely if I refused to let her stay, it would just seem like I'm being petty? Besides she's family so...
    it might do, but tbh i don't see why you should let her stay over, especially with her general behavior towards you. it's all well and fine being the good person, but i feel like that would encourage people to walk all over you.
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    Just because she's family, it doesn't mean she can treat you like crap and expect you to just suck it up. Family can be horrible sometimes.
 
 
 
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