Hi people of TSR!
So I've recently started college, good times. My nicest class so far has been French as the people in it are kinda friendly, we even have a facebook group for our class ahah.
So basically next week someone in this class has organised a cute meal out to celebrate half term or whatever. Technically everyone's invited but personally I'm pretty sure I'm not really welcome - I'm quite quiet and not very 'cool' - you know the sort. I'd quite like to go but I know that I would end up huddled awkwardly in the corner. Also they all know each other quite well already whereas I haven't 'hit it off' with anyone even though they're all polite enough to me.
So basically, should I go? Will it end up being a fun way to step out of my comfort zone or would I be ruining it for everyone else, who may ashamed to have me tagging along and forcing myself in them, the shy one who thinks she's invited but is just totally ignoring social etiquette?
What do you guys think?
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- 13-10-2016 19:40
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- 14-10-2016 18:57
I think it's very mixed. Because like you say, it'll give you a chance to better get to know them but if you don't enjoy those type of social situations, then it'll be a bit bad on your behalf.
I think you should give it a go because it's just a meal. Its not like it'll be a full day out and besides, if you start hating it you could just go. I don't think they won't mind if you go because if it's the entire class going you're a part of it and therefore form it's personality. They'll understand you're just not talkative.
I'm kinda like you too. I dislike spontaneous friendships to gain numbers, I like to develop deep personal friendships, most of which don't reach that level until 2-3 years except in rare situations. And until that point, I don't see the friendships I have as having any real base value. I can't just make friends after an hour of talking.