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    I am currently an undergraduate who has just started my third year at uni and honestly I am not enjoying it in the slightest.

    In my first year I was thinking of quitting/deferring a year but I let my parents persuade me to stay on and finish. In their minds you might as well have all the debt and have something to show for it rather than quit and have no degree.

    Now I am full of regret for not quitting as I am now in my third year and dissertations and essays are looming over me, plus the subject I am studying doesn't interest me.

    I have a few friends but they aren't on my course, and I don't feel as though they are true friends I can talk to. The people on my course are nice enough but they are all involved with extra curricular stuff together which I am not apart of. I wish I did get more involved with societies and clubs but in my third year I think that it is too late.

    I just really need some advice/help if anyone has been through the same sort of situation.

    Sorry if this doesn't make sense I just needed to let it all out.
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    (Original post by Student_Lizzie)
    I am currently an undergraduate who has just started my third year at uni and honestly I am not enjoying it in the slightest.

    In my first year I was thinking of quitting/deferring a year but I let my parents persuade me to stay on and finish. In their minds you might as well have all the debt and have something to show for it rather than quit and have no degree.

    Now I am full of regret for not quitting as I am now in my third year and dissertations and essays are looming over me, plus the subject I am studying doesn't interest me.

    I have a few friends but they aren't on my course, and I don't feel as though they are true friends I can talk to. The people on my course are nice enough but they are all involved with extra curricular stuff together which I am not apart of. I wish I did get more involved with societies and clubs but in my third year I think that it is too late.

    I just really need some advice/help if anyone has been through the same sort of situation.

    Sorry if this doesn't make sense I just needed to let it all out.
    Hello

    I'm sorry to hear about the situation that you are in. I can only imagine how hard it is for you now that you in Third Year and having that regret.

    However, my advice would be this; look at the silver linings. Despite this feeling, you have still made it TWO YEARS through university and are obviously still doing okay as you are still on the course. Therefore, be proud in that achievement alone. You may not enjoy your course but it doesn't mean you can't learn! Enjoy your lectures, try to see the things that you wouldn't have seen if you weren't at university studying this course. History is EXTREMELY interesting - my housemate studies it and she is fantastic to have around to talk about History. You are doing well. Keep that in mind.

    To deal with Third Year; break it down into smaller, achievable goals. Just tell yourself to make it to Christmas and see how you feel and then the next break and keep going like that. If that's too much, just think, I'll make it to the next weekend or day and see how I feel. Manage it in smaller chunks. Have a day where you sit down and PLAN your time. Give yourself plenty of breaks, chuck in some activities that you love and work hard. Get your head down and just think at the end of this, you WILL have a degree to show for your hard work.

    If you are still struggling, reach out to your Learning Development and Counselling Support at university - they will be able to help.

    Good luck!
 
 
 
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