What to talk about with a quiet work collegaue?

Ok, so theres this guy who is my partner, and we work in a hospital selling things. We dont chat in wards, but to and from wards and in the lift there is uncomfortable silences some of the time... and i try to spark up a convo...but he sorta kills it. Most of the time i asked about the job, but now that i know everything about the job, nothing else to ask. The odd, how was your week bla blah, that finishes in like 2 seconds. Sports...he likes rugby, i don't know anything about rugby...so i tried everything, but i just want a conversation going and flowing. If it helps, he works at a hedge fund (trader), i asked him about his job tons... but now nothing left to ask...he was talkative about his job though. But it was me initiating all conversations. So how do i avoid the silence, and what can I chat with him about? ...hes around 30ish.

Reply 1

Chewwy

17

i don't understand... he works at a hedge fund, and also in a hospital??

Reply 2

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Maybe hedge fund traders need to make some extra money in hospitals? Everyone knows that old people are all ****ing loaded. :smile:

Reply 3

I_am_the_mob

1

I don't really have many conversations with 30 year old men but the girl I sat next to in history all this year was very quiet and I found that if I just talked and talked she would eventually join in. We became fairly good friends in the end

Reply 4

Mos Def

OP

17

Its a voluntary thing lol, sorry forgot to mention. He doesn't seem that old... 30 is quite young tbh, he could be in his late twenty's.

Reply 5

Cyril Sneer's Nose

1

Have you tried asking him about his favourite music & films? You might even like the same genres etc.

Reply 6

Mos Def

OP

17

It'll be like this: 'Ohh what films do you like' .. him 'Oh i dont watch films much' ...me 'ohh right sucks'...silent pause. LMAO

Reply 7

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You could ask him to lend you a couple of hundred grand? Or ask him if he's bought any snazzy cars/houses/girls lately?

Reply 8

Cyril Sneer's Nose

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T_Bag

It'll be like this: 'Ohh what films do you like' .. him 'Oh i dont watch films much' ...me 'ohh right sucks'...silent pause. LMAO

Lol, he sounds a bit odd. Well if he doesnt want to talk, then just leave him to it then. Dont feel awkward about it because its obviously what he wants. Just be friendly when he does talk, & in time he might start making an effort. People can be strange at times. :s-smilie:

Reply 9

Mos Def

OP

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You could ask him to lend you a couple of hundred grand? Or ask him if he's bought any snazzy cars/houses/girls lately?

lol... we don't talk about his money :rolleyes:

Reply 10

Wangers

16

books...wine...school - if he boarded theres a bunch of stories there....

Reply 11

Clubber Lang

15

Keep chipping away - you'll break him eventually!

Actually one thing I am fairly good at in real life is talking..and talking..and talking... :biggrin:

Even tho I am fairly shy for meeting people first time I find it quite easy to get people to talk .Had a simialr situation at work with a new guy where my friend kept trying to talk to him and got the sort of responses you got whereas when I talked to him it was OK, lol

Spose you just need to find a topic in common..somehow!

Reply 12

supernova2

11

Ask him if I can have an internship.

Reply 13

Mos Def

OP

17

haha the commoners of the IB thread are all insisting we chat about his job/money, hehe ... He gave me like a ton of advice regarding IB etc, and how he got where he is... so nothing more there. I'll askl him about books ...but the way these guys are...they don't have much time to read and stuff, meh i'll try lol.

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