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    I'm so angry I am shaking.

    I start a work placement on Monday (the only opportunity I have gotten since finishing uni months ago) and so obviously I need this weekend to myself because it is consuming my thoughts and I'd like to prepare as much as I can to try and convert it into a full-time position, but I literally cannot get 5 minutes to myself.

    My brother is getting married next month and there are 3 events for it, so I've had to manage and organise literally every aspect of it because the rest of my family refuse to do ****. I'm the family ****ing doormat.

    For example today, the invite cards were ready to be collected (1 hour 30 mins drive away) and I already told my mum I'm busy today so ask my dad or brother to go pick them up. My dad refused to go collect them and my other brother refused because they're both so consumed with their jobs (they work together for his business) and it's UNFAIR that I'm then FORCED to do EVERYTHING because they don't want to get involved in any of this.
    I'm having to do EVERYTHING and I have no time for myself or my own life.

    So then I had to go drive my mum to go pick them up and spent half the day there in another town. Then we went to a place to eat lunch and I can't even sit for 5 mins without her demanding more from me. Demanding that I phone up this decorating company to ask them for a quote. Can I not get 5 ****ing minutes to myself to eat in peace?

    Then we come home and then she makes another erratic plan to go to my cousins house to give them an invite straight away and expects me to go with her? because we "have to sit at there house for a bit" and expects me to go waste another hour there? what the ****? Literally **** off. Nothing is ever enough, it's always MORE MORE MORE. She didn't even thank me for getting the invites collected today or anything and was SO ungrateful.

    I told her I am sick of this and then she's like "I'm sick of you" ??? LOL ok wait until I'm no longer around then we'll see how much you need me.

    I obviously refused to go because I've just wasted half the day already and I would now like some time to myself to deal with my own things, so please leave me the **** alone. My dad came home and again refused to go. like ok what sort of dad are you that you only care about your business and not your son's wedding or being involved in any way whatsoever??

    So then my mum was shouting me to go drop her off and going crazy at me.

    Like I don't already dedicate my whole ****ing life to doing everything she demands from me. I ignored her and didn't go because I'm sick of being a ****ing pushover.

    So yeah this **** is affecting my mental health so much and making me want to die.

    I cannot ****ing wait to land a job so far away from here that my mother knows exactly what struggling feels like without me around.

    She has had me at the snap of her finger for too long and is beyond taking the piss. It's unfair and I feel like a punching bag.
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    So, you're still living at home with your parents paying your way and when your mum asks you to spend a few hours (not really half the day) with her and you say no because you've got something to do on Monday?

    Is there some sort of preparation you need to be doing for this job or something? Like get notes together? Buying formal clothes?

    Sorry, sounds like you're being very spiteful to your parents and don't really appreciate the fact that they're looking after you and letting you stay in their house despite the fact that you have finished uni.
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    title sounds like a step mum porno
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    Im 100% sure shes asian
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    I'm sorry if I come across cold but when you have such big events happening in your family then it will be really busy (?) I totally understand how sometimes doing so much for your family can get to you and they don't appreciate the hard work, but think of it this way you will eventually have that 5 minutes to yourself some time soon. Come on, why would you want to think of dying because of something so small, there's more to life than just getting annoyed over working. After a week or so you'll totally forget this moment, trust me. Please just for a second, breathe and relax. You have the time now and you know just be grateful you're alive and healthy.

    I hope you have great fun at your brothers wedding
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    (Original post by Dannyboy2015)
    So, you're still living at home with your parents paying your way and when your mum asks you to spend a few hours (not really half the day) with her and you say no because you've got something to do on Monday?

    Is there some sort of preparation you need to be doing for this job or something? Like get notes together? Buying formal clothes?

    Sorry, sounds like you're being very spiteful to your parents and don't really appreciate the fact that they're looking after you and letting you stay in their house despite the fact that you have finished uni.
    There's reading I need to do in advance and familiarising myself with the software packages I'll be using, plus I wanted to drive down to the town where I will be working to ensure that I get there fine. As well as that I'm (trying to) study towards the ACCA exam papers through distance learning but it's difficult when I cannot get time to myself.

    And yes, this is the family home, I'm sorry but I don't need to justify or apologise to you for my culture? My 29 year old brother who works with my dad still lives here.

    My 25 year old brother who is getting married is having his entire wedding paid for him by my parents.

    My 30 year old brother still gets thousands of pounds transferred to his bank account by my mother. My parents still buy his car whenever he wants to change it and they will be paying towards his house.

    I'm a fair person and I am absolutely not being unreasonable. There's only so much one person can take. I'm allowed to be angry about what I have said in this thread and I am under no obligation to feel drained the way I am being just because my parents are "letting me stay in their house despite the fact that I have finished uni." - it's a cultural norm. We do not get kicked out to fend for ourselves at the age of 15.
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    (Original post by Leukocyte)
    I'm sorry if I come across cold but when you have such big events happening in your family then it will be really busy (?) I totally understand how sometimes doing so much for your family can get to you and they don't appreciate the hard work, but think of it this way you will eventually have that 5 minutes to yourself some time soon. Come on, why would you want to think of dying because of something so small, there's more to life than just getting annoyed over working. After a week or so you'll totally forget this moment, trust me. Please just for a second, breathe and relax. You have the time now and you know just be grateful you're alive and healthy.

    I hope you have great fun at your brothers wedding
    Yes but It's always me that is targeted to do everything?
    I have 3 siblings and it's okay for them to say no and then it's me that is FORCED to do everything and I am the doormat.

    I'm the punching bag when my mum is angry at my siblings and she takes her daily anger and hatred out on me.

    And the thing that really takes the piss is that I am doing all of this for a brother who has barely said 2 words to me in 10 years. He's always miserable and moody and doesn't ****ing speak to his siblings. And here I am expected to do all of this while he sits back and it's just sheer ungratefulness.
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    Yes but It's always me that is targeted to do everything?
    I have 3 siblings and it's okay for them to say no and then it's me that is FORCED to do everything and I am the doormat.

    I'm the punching bag when my mum is angry at my siblings and she takes her daily anger and hatred out on me.

    And the thing that really takes the piss is that I am doing all of this for a brother who has barely said 2 words to me in 10 years. He's always miserable and moody and doesn't ****ing speak to his siblings. And here I am expected to do all of this while he sits back and it's just sheer ungratefulness.
    Do you have lifelong friends which you can talk to? Spending some time with them even for 10 minutes would immensely help you mentally and physically.

    It's about time your brothers take some responsibility and not you, they're adults now. It's not your fault they've been spoon fed even till this day. Your parents need to seriously change their ways. Have you ever tried speaking to your parents regarding this? (Preferably someone you're close to).

    I totally understand you. I want to say more so you could understand my perspective better but I don't like disclosing a lot on a public forum. It'd be great if you PMed me, if you want
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    Wow, grow up and stop feeling so sorry for yourself. There are a lot worse things in the world than being asked to help out whilst everyone is busy working doing the same thing. If you really don't like it then apply for a job in a supermarket or something and look for flat shares in your local area.

    Either that or use this time that you spend venting on tsr to get something done. From what you said it sounded like your mum just wanted your help for a few hours and instead of helping you made a mountain out of a molehill.
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    (Original post by Dannyboy2015)
    Wow, grow up and stop feeling so sorry for yourself. There are a lot worse things in the world than being asked to help out whilst everyone is busy working doing the same thing. If you really don't like it then apply for a job in a supermarket or something and look for flat shares in your local area.

    Either that or use this time that you spend venting on tsr to get something done. From what you said it sounded like your mum just wanted your help for a few hours and instead of helping you made a mountain out of a molehill.
    Wow!! people on planet earth have problems bigger than mine!! This means that I'm not allowed to be sad or feel feelings!! brb growing up!! You cured me!! Thank you so much!!
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    (Original post by Dannyboy2015)
    Wow, grow up and stop feeling so sorry for yourself. There are a lot worse things in the world than being asked to help out whilst everyone is busy working doing the same thing. If you really don't like it then apply for a job in a supermarket or something and look for flat shares in your local area.

    Either that or use this time that you spend venting on tsr to get something done. From what you said it sounded like your mum just wanted your help for a few hours and instead of helping you made a mountain out of a molehill.

    Why do people like you even attempt to respond to people whenever they feel like **** and need to vent? It's almost like you don't realise how s h i t your words are. Like you genuinely believe that you are helping in any way whatsoever when you aren't.

    It sounds to me like you lack any sort of emotional intelligence and so your replies are irrelevant.

    This is exactly why MH issues cannot be openly discussed, because there are always dense Dannyboys who just don't get it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Wow!! people on planet earth have problems bigger than mine!! This means that I'm not allowed to be sad or feel feelings!! brb growing up!! You cured me!! Thank you so much!!
    Cured, you being serious? It's not the end of the world, in short. Being told what to do daily isn't much of a big deal, you'll realise later. By now I would have thought you'd been used to all this. It's just got to your head and that's why you feel like this. No point being angry, do something better instead. Take care of yourself.
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    Are you Pakistani?
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    (Original post by Leukocyte)
    Cured, you being serious? It's not the end of the world, in short. Being told what to do daily isn't much of a big deal, you'll realise later. By now I would have thought you'd been used to all this. It's just got to your head and that's why you feel like this. No point being angry, do something better instead. Take care of yourself.
    There's more to it than that, but I didn't want this to be a thread about mental health issues or to disclose my full life story .

    Like whatever, I'm such an idiot for even ranting on here with all of the heartless trolls who wait to respond negatively any time some sad **** wants to vent about their life, lmao. I'm done as f.u.c.k.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Why do people like you even attempt to respond to people whenever they feel like **** and need to vent? It's almost like you don't realise how s h i t your words are. Like you genuinely believe that you are helping in any way whatsoever when you aren't.

    It sounds to me like you lack any sort of emotional intelligence and so your replies are irrelevant.

    This is exactly why MH issues cannot be openly discussed, because there are always dense Dannyboys who just don't get it.
    I think you should just ignore this person. They are either trolling or just don't get it. No point getting worked up about Dannyboys when you already have enough on your plate. Take care of yourself
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    There's more to it than that, but I didn't want this to be a thread about mental health issues or to disclose my full life story .

    Like whatever, I'm such an idiot for even ranting on here with all of the heartless trolls who wait to respond negatively any time some sad **** wants to vent about their life, lmao. I'm done as f.u.c.k.
    Lol I find it ridiculous how serious you are about just not getting time for yourself? It's not even MH, don't use that as an excuse. You're not the only one in the world going through problems, someone out there is experiencing the same like you and some even worse. Like I said before I understand why you might feel like this. This "feeling" will disappear after some time. No point swearing. Like I've said before talk to someone irl and stop whinging too much.
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    (Original post by Dannyboy2015)
    Mental Health is a very serious issue, you're just a shi--er that is looking for someone to justify their self-pitying though. So what, you're parents asked for your help.... Oh no its the end of the world.

    Give it a break or take it somewhere else, you're not the only person in the world and sometimes you need to compromise or help other people - especially your family. The world doesn't always revolve around you.

    Failing that, please flame me some more.
    I love how you seem to think you have my whole life figured out from 1 thread. Pathetic.

    This isn't the only thread on TSR y'know. I find it quite spiteful that you choose to come on here and kick people who are down because it feeds your ego, doesn't it? Literally get over yourself.
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    You're still doing it... Focusing on yourself and how everyone in the world has committed some sort of injustice against you.

    I'm not kicking you whilst you're down or any other such BS, I'm giving advice on a thread on tsr. Stop thinking about yourself 100% of the time, think about others.

    You know what though, this is getting old really quick. If you want to continue you salty flame war against society then keep at it.

    Have a nice day.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I love how you seem to think you have my whole life figured out from 1 thread. Pathetic.

    This isn't the only thread on TSR y'know. I find it quite spiteful that you choose to come on here and kick people who are down because it feeds your ego, doesn't it? Literally get over yourself.
    You know what you've been through and from what I've read it seems like you're in a toxic environment and you should talk to someone trustworthy. I would try and look for a way out personally.
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    I would say the problem is that you're being made to do favours for a brother you dislike. If it was for a bro you got along with I'm sure you'd be happy sorting out the wedding stuff.. In this case tell your mum that your brother has legs and a body so he can go collect the cards as you are unable to since you have work that needs to be done for Monday. Or alternatively, you've done enough favours ask someone else.

    My mum's pretty similar in the sense if I refuse to do something for a sibling i dont get along with I get called out as being selfish and other BS.

    Speak out for yourself.

    Also your parents are probably pretty old. They've had a tough time bringing you guys up to become decent people so I'm sure they would want to relax a little now.
 
 
 
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