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    Hi, so I'm in a ldr and I really want to meet up with the boy soon, my parents know I'm with him but they seem to resent it, I kept it secret for a long time and met him in secret once. I'm really nervous about asking my parents to meet up again. (I'm 18 so technically I should be able to do what I want but I don't have that much freedom) If anyone in a similar situation or anything has advice I'd really appreciate it
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    My best advice for you at 18 is to not bother with a ldr. Especially if your parents are causing you distress like that and you are living with them. You will not be happy.
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    (Original post by elihowitz)
    Hi, so I'm in a ldr and I really want to meet up with the boy soon, my parents know I'm with him but they seem to resent it, I kept it secret for a long time and met him in secret once. I'm really nervous about asking my parents to meet up again. (I'm 18 so technically I should be able to do what I want but I don't have that much freedom) If anyone in a similar situation or anything has advice I'd really appreciate it
    What don't they like about him?
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    I'll break it to you: LDRs usually don't work. If you can't meet very regularly soon, then it won't work.
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    It's not that they don't like him personally (they've never talked to him despite me offering to let them), they're just upset about it happening behind their backs and things got a little bit awkward because of it.
    As for the other stuff, I was kinda just asking for advice on this thing, not on being in a ldr in general.
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    (Original post by elihowitz)
    It's not that they don't like him personally (they've never talked to him despite me offering to let them), they're just upset about it happening behind their backs and things got a little bit awkward because of it.
    As for the other stuff, I was kinda just asking for advice on this thing, not on being in a ldr in general.
    Get a job and pay to go see him yourself.
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    (Original post by AlexFam)
    Get a job and pay to go see him yourself.
    Again not the issue here, this is about me being scared to talk to my parents about asking to see him because we've gotten so awkward talking about him and basically I need help getting over the fear to have the confidence to ask.
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    (Original post by elihowitz)
    Again not the issue here, this is about me being scared to talk to my parents about asking to see him because we've gotten so awkward talking about him and basically I need help getting over the fear to have the confidence to ask.
    Just bring it up in a calm setting, lead into it.

    If you want them to be more likely to say yes, ask for something outrageous first then ask if you can go see him.
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    dont listen to these negative people !!!!
    Go for it girl !!
    If you love him and he loves you then dont give a **** about anybody else . It onnly matters about you two and there are lots of amazing stories about couples who go through uni and get engaged so just show him your love and let life show you the path
 
 
 
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