When my best friend died, I didn't feel anything

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    I have kept this to me for years now. I still remember the day when my best friend and cousin passed away. I didn't feel anything. I was numb. I still am. Infact, I don't feel anything. Does anyone know why this could be?
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    How much of a friend were they? Also did you know your cousin well (talk to them often)
    If i'm at a funeral for someone i know little of, i generally dont feel that sad.
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    People react to death in different ways, some people find it easiest to try and pretend that nothing happened. If you are still struggling about it go and see your GP or speak to a bereavement councillor.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have kept this to me for years now. I still remember the day when my best friend and cousin passed away. I didn't feel anything. I was numb. I still am. Infact, I don't feel anything. Does anyone know why this could be?
    One persons best friend is another persons acquaintance.

    People react to grief in different ways becayse they are ermm different. Perhaps you werent that close, perhaps you arent very emotional, perhaps you never deal with it properly excepy by burying it. Some men find crying or showing emotion as weakness etc.
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    (Original post by Toasticide)
    How much of a friend were they? Also did you know your cousin well (talk to them often)
    If i'm at a funeral for someone i know little of, i generally dont feel that sad.
    Well the three of us were very close. We grew up together. I was 11 when my friend passed away and 9 when my cousin.
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    So i don't think i can explain why you currently feel sad but at a young age death is a rather strange concept which could kinda explain why you weren't too sad back then.
    This is the worst example as they werent even human beings but i was about 8 when i found out my pet gineau pigs died, and i didnt feel too sad. Then again i was an idiot back then and thought everything was happy in the world :/

    Sorry, can't really help you there
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    My partner lose his grandad a few years ago, to see him you'd think he wasn't upset or bothered at all. But I know it was the exact opposite, people react in different (sometimes unusual) ways
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    Same. TBH I never seem to mourn, or even care when someone has died. I just think everyone dies and they should get over it.
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    People do react in different ways. I've never had a very close relative or friend pass away, but I suspect I would have a pretty unemotional reaction.
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    (Original post by Chief Wiggum)
    People do react in different ways. I've never had a very close relative or friend pass away, but I suspect I would have a pretty unemotional reaction.
    I was ok when a close friend died (I was there when it happened too) I think I cried once on the day and once at the funeral, but I turned to alcohol quite heavily afterwards
 
 
 
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