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    If you've recently started uni, chances are there is at least one person on your course always by themselves and always quiet in seminars etc.

    Some people aren't lucky enough to naturally fall into a group of friends during the first week.

    Please make the effort to say 'hi' to them.

    Do what you can to make sure they don't feel invisible.
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    Some people also just like to be alone and focus on uni work though? :0
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    (Original post by newttella)
    Some people also just like to be alone and focus on uni work though? :0
    Failry easy to distinguish between the two. Quite easy for that person to say thnaks but no thanks. Much harder for soem of the socially anxious to make friends. Overall I think its a very good idea by the OP.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Failry easy to distinguish between the two. Quite easy for that person to say thnaks but no thanks. Much harder for soem of the socially anxious to make friends. Overall I think its a very good idea by the OP.
    Yeah I agree it is a good idea, but it's easier said than done. Sometimes the person is so shy that it's really hard to keep a conversation with them. But I suppose for those that are very keen, it is possible to befriend and sometimes the really shy ones are the most awesome ones. It is what it is.
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    (Original post by queenofswords)
    If you've recently started uni, chances are there is at least one person on your course always by themselves and always quiet in seminars etc.

    Some people aren't lucky enough to naturally fall into a group of friends during the first week.

    Please make the effort to say 'hi' to them.

    Do what you can to make sure they don't feel invisible.
    This is literally me in real life, not voluntarily though.
    At my school you're either really popular or don't give a crap about education which leaves me in the middle like ?

    But it's all good.
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    I actually love this thread though.
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    (Original post by newttella)
    Yeah I agree it is a good idea, but it's easier said than done. Sometimes the person is so shy that it's really hard to keep a conversation with them. But I suppose for those that are very keen, it is possible to befriend and sometimes the really shy ones are the most awesome ones. It is what it is.
    If they are so shy then you cna use some tact. merely saying hi or inviting them for a coffee might make them feel less isolated. Must be rubbish to be lonely and then attend lecture after lecture where everyones chatting to each other except you.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    If they are so shy then you cna use some tact. merely saying hi or inviting them for a coffee might make them feel less isolated. Must be rubbish to be lonely and then attend lecture after lecture where everyones chatting to each other except you.
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    Are you a social anxiety sufferer or just lonely?

    I cant say i was the most popular at school, but that was never my intention nor did i care. I always had enough people to chat to, but was always self sufficient enough that i was fine on my own as well.

    Pribably becayse I was not socially anxious in that way and just talk to people if I feel like it. If you have this issue, then id work on basic social skills, but also improving your own self confidence so that you worry less and ok with your own company as well.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Are you a social anxiety sufferer or just lonely?

    I cant say i was the most popular at school, but that was never my intention nor did i care. I always had enough people to chat to, but was always self sufficient enough that i was fine on my own as well.

    Pribably becayse I was not socially anxious in that way and just talk to people if I feel like it. If you have this issue, then id work on basic social skills, but also improving your own self confidence so that you worry less and ok with your own company as well.
    Neither, I just never fit in with any particular group. Just kind of drifted in and out of friendship groups. The people around started drinking and stuff more. I'm not really about that life hence, why I was ostracized. It was a lot worse when I first started secondary school I was pretty much alone. The kids at my primary school loved picking on me because I wore a hijab and it didn't help that I didn't have any friends. I still walk past those people and they don't say anything to me anymore. I'm more confident in my own skin and I guess that in itself attracted people to me hence, why I made some friends. But I still remember those days and in certain situations I feel anxious but it is how it is. But this has made me more confident in approaching the quiet kids. There's this one girl at my school who doesn't have any friends in her year and she always comes up to me to talk - because I went through it I understand.
    But I've always been told to be more chatty and voice my opinion but when I do this I just get shut down. I'm better at speaking to people on a one-to-one level. Also, I don't respond to people who gossip about others, making me appear not sociable but my moral stance is to not demean people - to their face or behind their back. lol I just started ranting soz
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    (Original post by Nuba123)
    Neither, I just never fit in with any particular group. Just kind of drifted in and out of friendship groups. The people around started drinking and stuff more. I'm not really about that life hence, why I was ostracized. It was a lot worse when I first started secondary school I was pretty much alone. The kids at my primary school loved picking on me because I wore a hijab and it didn't help that I didn't have any friends. I still walk past those people and they don't say anything to me anymore. I'm more confident in my own skin and I guess that in itself attracted people to me hence, why I made some friends. But I still remember those days and in certain situations I feel anxious but it is how it is. But this has made me more confident in approaching the quiet kids. There's this one girl at my school who doesn't have any friends in her year and she always comes up to me to talk - because I went through it I understand.
    But I've always been told to be more chatty and voice my opinion but when I do this I just get shut down. I'm better at speaking to people on a one-to-one level. Also, I don't respond to people who gossip about others, making me appear not sociable but my moral stance is to not demean people - to their face or behind their back. lol I just started ranting soz
    Uni is a new chance, but do try getting involved in some outside activities where you cna socialise and that will increase your confidence. Making friends outside of school helps you realise how it all works.
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    Good message.

    Thank you.
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Uni is a new chance, but do try getting involved in some outside activities where you cna socialise and that will increase your confidence. Making friends outside of school helps you realise how it all works.
    I'm not terrible at making new friends, I seem to be doing okay atm, going try and not jinx that lol but I happen to be a bit of bully-magnet, if I do say so myself.
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    Dear university students,
    Pish off, let me do my work. Thanks!
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    (Original post by queenofswords)
    If you've recently started uni, chances are there is at least one person on your course always by themselves and always quiet in seminars etc.

    Some people aren't lucky enough to naturally fall into a group of friends during the first week.

    Please make the effort to say 'hi' to them.

    Do what you can to make sure they don't feel invisible.
    Sounds like you're speaking about me I don't really know many on my course.
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    Just to be clear- I was inspired by my personal situation to make this thread and because I know there are others who feel the same.

    It honestly makes my day when someone makes the effort to have a conversation with me. I often have a lot to say, just not very many people to say it to.

    A tip that sometimes works for me- own the fact you're a loner, people will find you intriguing and less awkward.
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    (Original post by queenofswords)
    Just to be clear- I was inspired by my personal situation to make this thread and because I know there are others who feel the same.

    It honestly makes my day when someone makes the effort to have a conversation with me. I often have a lot to say, just not very many people to say it to.

    A tip that sometimes works for me- own the fact you're a loner, people will find you intriguing and less awkward.
    Exactly!
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    (Original post by queenofswords)
    Just to be clear- I was inspired by my personal situation to make this thread and because I know there are others who feel the same.

    It honestly makes my day when someone makes the effort to have a conversation with me. I often have a lot to say, just not very many people to say it to.

    A tip that sometimes works for me- own the fact you're a loner, people will find you intriguing and less awkward.
    Tbh I'm usually practically asleep in a lot of lectures hahaha

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