He seems to be doing all the work when we have sex

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    So me and my boyfriend have a great relationship and generally have pretty good sex. We both enjoy the sex and have tried quite a few different positions. The problem is I feel like he's the one doing all the work. I try to do what I can, like touch him and grab his bum but he's the one doing the actual doing. We've tried cowgirl a few times but he still ends up doing half of the work because he says me just doing my thing doesn't do anything for him. I know that this is kind of just how sex works, but is there anything I can do to make it less work for him? I just sometimes feel like all I do is lie there while he's really doing for it, so I was wondering if anyine has any suggestions about what I should be doing, especially when I'm on the bottom?
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    Reverse cowgirl. Ride that thing.

    More oral? Do more foreplay? Dragging your nails across him. Strip for him? Twerk. Lick him. Suck his earlobes and bite his nipples. Comeon there's lots you can do at the other times when he's not pounding you...

    How about 69ing?
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    Ask him what he likes. Some people prefer to be in a more active role.*
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    lol why on earth are you complaining, let him do all the work! just lay back and it enjoy it :surprise:
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    (Original post by beautifulbigmacs)
    Ask him what he likes. Some people prefer to be in a more active role.*
    This, this this. It's called being dominating.

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    Call him daddy

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So me and my boyfriend have a great relationship and generally have pretty good sex. We both enjoy the sex and have tried quite a few different positions. The problem is I feel like he's the one doing all the work. I try to do what I can, like touch him and grab his bum but he's the one doing the actual doing. We've tried cowgirl a few times but he still ends up doing half of the work because he says me just doing my thing doesn't do anything for him. I know that this is kind of just how sex works, but is there anything I can do to make it less work for him? I just sometimes feel like all I do is lie there while he's really doing for it, so I was wondering if anyine has any suggestions about what I should be doing, especially when I'm on the bottom?
    (Original post by WasScott.)
    Dirty talk.

    Slip your finger in his anus.

    (Original post by TorpidPhil)
    Reverse cowgirl. Ride that thing.

    More oral? Do more foreplay? Dragging your nails across him. Strip for him? Twerk. Lick him. Suck his earlobes and bite his nipples. Comeon there's lots you can do at the other times when he's not pounding you...

    How about 69ing?
    (Original post by beautifulbigmacs)
    Ask him what he likes. Some people prefer to be in a more active role.*
    (Original post by RobML)
    Call him daddy

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    So you're saying you're basically a sack of spuds?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So me and my boyfriend have a great relationship and generally have pretty good sex. We both enjoy the sex and have tried quite a few different positions. The problem is I feel like he's the one doing all the work. I try to do what I can, like touch him and grab his bum but he's the one doing the actual doing. We've tried cowgirl a few times but he still ends up doing half of the work because he says me just doing my thing doesn't do anything for him. I know that this is kind of just how sex works, but is there anything I can do to make it less work for him? I just sometimes feel like all I do is lie there while he's really doing for it, so I was wondering if anyine has any suggestions about what I should be doing, especially when I'm on the bottom?
    Like someone here said, what us the problem?.
    Just let him do it.

    I don't think there is a guy in the world who will complain about "having to do to much work at sex" lol.
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    (Original post by VinnieVentura)
    Like someone here said, what us the problem?.
    Just let him do it.

    I don't think there is a guy in the world who will complain about "having to do to much work at sex" lol.
    You mean if someone just lies there like a dead fish?

    'Cause I can tell you that I don't think that's a very attractive quality in someone I'm with.
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    what gender are you both
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So me and my boyfriend have a great relationship and generally have pretty good sex. We both enjoy the sex and have tried quite a few different positions. The problem is I feel like he's the one doing all the work. I try to do what I can, like touch him and grab his bum but he's the one doing the actual doing. We've tried cowgirl a few times but he still ends up doing half of the work because he says me just doing my thing doesn't do anything for him. I know that this is kind of just how sex works, but is there anything I can do to make it less work for him? I just sometimes feel like all I do is lie there while he's really doing for it, so I was wondering if anyine has any suggestions about what I should be doing, especially when I'm on the bottom?
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    Maybe spank him or try pegging 🙄
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    Make it so you can't do anything at all... i.e. blindfold and handcuffs
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    Tease him for a bit before the sex actually happens?
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    (Original post by VinnieVentura)
    Like someone here said, what us the problem?.
    Just let him do it.

    I don't think there is a guy in the world who will complain about "having to do to much work at sex" lol.

    wait a few years till youre older. When it stops being "im getting my end away who cares what its in" and goes to "sex is great, now how can my partner help me enjoy it more"

    Frankly i find a woman who wont do anything but lie there boring. But ive been ding it longer and my partner enjoys being active and reciprocating
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    (Original post by Ella-keturah)
    Maybe spank him or try pegging 🙄
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    Loooooooooooooooooooooooool
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    Squeal like a pig.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    He seems to be doing all the work when we have sex
    So what's new? :laugh:

    Wouldn't let it phase you, unless he starts *****ing and moaning. Girls can, with practice, find the rhythm and contribute to proceedings, but you need to be careful to angle yourself correctly, and not be too heavy in your motions :ninjagirl:
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    Some guys like it.
 
 
 
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