Struggling to make friends.

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    I'm at college and a group of people have been kind enough to invite me to join them.

    I've done so, chatted a few times, but it's hard to have a really great conversation - due to shyness and social anxiety.

    Last Thursday, I didn't get to speak to them at all - I was sitting away from them. They were chatting to some other guy. More into him.

    I felt a bit left out. When walking back, they said bye, but didn't say anything else to me. They seemed more interested in the chatty guy. (even though he left after a couple of minutes )

    After that, I wondered if I've missed out on making friends with them. I contacted one of the group on facebook and said sorry if I seemed rude for not saying anything to them. She was kind and said she understands and all that.

    It broke my heart though, I feel like I'm losing the best chance to make friends I've had in a long time.

    I've got no friends.

    I don't know what I'll do if I miss out yet again due to shyness.

    Can anyone tell me what to do to make up for this and how to make them friends, overcome shyness and also tell me if them not saying anything to me on the way back is a bad sign or not ?

    I'm driving myself crazy trying to figure out if it was a bad sign or not.

    If I can get some advice, I'll love you forever. I need advice so bad right now.. I'm starting to lose a bit, getting more insecure, anxious and paranoid - probably due to desperation out of not having any friends, not being able to overcome shyness and life not going the way I want it yet again.
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    stick around with them and you may start to feel more comfortable talking to them later on


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    Hi,

    I would say firstly see a counsellor or a therapist regarding your problems shyness and anxiety.

    Think more positively, she was positive when she replied back to your Facebook post.

    Here are some of my tips:

    1) Relax, imagine you're just observing or there as a traveller lol.

    2) Smile, smiling in contagious.

    3) Be confident, respect yourself, work out, wear good clothes, feel good, focus on your passions, know you are a good person who treats people well, think positively, do things that make you happy, be proud of yourself. Keep taking risks.

    4) Dress well, show yourself off, wear clothes that look great, be stylish.

    5) Just say hi or hey to people in your vicinity, who cares if they don't say anything back?

    6) Ask how they are, how's everything, what made them choose this course, their plans for the future, their plans for the rest of the day, weekend, how was their weekend, what they will get up to, ask them about their hobbies, be charming.

    7) Be passionate about life, how will you occupy your time, this is important, have things to do outside of college.

    8) Lighten up, have a laugh.

    If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me!

    Good luck!
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    (Original post by bubblegumcat)
    stick around with them and you may start to feel more comfortable talking to them later on


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    Hope so. :/
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    Hi,

    I would say firstly see a counsellor or a therapist regarding your problems shyness and anxiety.

    Think more positively, she was positive when she replied back to your Facebook post.

    Here are some of my tips:

    1) Relax, imagine you're just observing or there as a traveller lol.

    2) Smile, smiling in contagious.

    3) Be confident, respect yourself, work out, wear good clothes, feel good, focus on your passions, know you are a good person who treats people well, think positively, do things that make you happy, be proud of yourself. Keep taking risks.

    4) Dress well, show yourself off, wear clothes that look great, be stylish.

    5) Just say hi or hey to people in your vicinity, who cares if they don't say anything back?

    6) Ask how they are, how's everything, what made them choose this course, their plans for the future, their plans for the rest of the day, weekend, how was their weekend, what they will get up to, ask them about their hobbies, be charming.

    7) Be passionate about life, how will you occupy your time, this is important, have things to do outside of college.

    8) Lighten up, have a laugh.

    If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me!

    Good luck!
    Yeah I might do that and I've read all the tips and I will defo take it on board.
    Thanks, I hope them not saying anything to me, when walking back isn't a bad sign. I hope my shyness is driving them away.
 
 
 
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