Pissed off.

Please put yourself in my position. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for over a year. Recently hes gone on a month long trip and come back with loads of friends which im really happy for him for. But then i go on his internet page and on it are loads of girls saying quote ''i love you soo muhc babes'' ''c you der babes x'' ''you have to come to my house sometime ;] <3'' about 10 girls all saying things like that!i do trust him, but i hate the fact all these girls are saying things like this to him, flirting with him, what does everyone else think?

Thanks so much

Reply 1

JC.

19

Put your own message up but keep it light?

something along the lines of its great to have you home and i missed you?

Reply 2

sib

1

I say things like that to my guy mates all the time.. until i got in trouble with one of their gfs :frown:

but seriously... talk to him and tell him that you trust him, but it makes you feel uncomfortable(?)... That way he will be able to put your mind at ease! Just him saying that ther is nothing going on will really help you I'm sure :biggrin:

xxx

Reply 3

louisedotcom

13

Right, well Ive imagined I was in your position and frankly I still wouldnt care.

Id just feel sorry for my boyfriend because he had so many idiots talking to him lol.

Personally I think that if you really trusted him other people flirting with him wouldnt make the slightest bit of difference to you, because you would know that it wouldnt lead to anything else, and he wouldnt be interested. You probably just need a bit of reassurance from him thats all.

Reply 4

prettygreeneyes99

9

hmm maybe you should mention it to him and see what he says? and if he kicks off about it or anything you should ask him how he'd feel if it was the other way round... personally i would be going absolutely wild if it was my boyfriend who had messages like that from girls! ooo and another thing, maybe you should leave him some messages for the other girls to see :smile:

Reply 5

Fruitcakex

OP

hmm.. well maybe ive just lowered myself to their level but i just sent one of the girls who was being really flirty, a message. basically saying stay away or il **** you up. and i know that it wont lead anywhere but thinking about it girls dont just say stuff like that randomly , he must have made them feel its alright to say things like that. Also, wouldnt you think they would respect that he has a girlfriend and not say such messages?

Reply 6

prettygreeneyes99

9

i wouldnt send flirty messages like that to someones boyfriend unless i knew theyre girlfriend really well and knew she wouldnt take it the wrong way.. i mean i suppose different people have different boundaries of what they think is an acceptable thing to say to someone else's boyfriend, but if she was blatantly being flirty and you dont think there was any way she might just be a friendly person then fair enough i say

Reply 7

Wild Thing

11

Hmmm I express myself like that to some of my male friends that I know very well and where I know there is absolutely NOTHING between us, not even a mild sexual tension. And still I go: loooooooooooooooooooove you babe!

But that's just the way I express myself *-)

Reply 8

grace

15

Fruitcakex

hmm.. well maybe ive just lowered myself to their level but i just sent one of the girls who was being really flirty, a message. basically saying stay away or il **** you up. and i know that it wont lead anywhere but thinking about it girls dont just say stuff like that randomly , he must have made them feel its alright to say things like that. Also, wouldnt you think they would respect that he has a girlfriend and not say such messages?

op i was about to say that it would bother me, but only from a territorial perspective (he's my man and i don't want some greasy cow trying to cause his eye to rove) but boy, you took it to a whole new level!

Reply 9

ßlαcksωαn

17

Fruitcakex

Please put yourself in my position. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for over a year. Recently hes gone on a month long trip and come back with loads of friends which im really happy for him for. But then i go on his internet page and on it are loads of girls saying quote ''i love you soo muhc babes'' ''c you der babes x'' ''you have to come to my house sometime ;] <3'' about 10 girls all saying things like that!i do trust him, but i hate the fact all these girls are saying things like this to him, flirting with him, what does everyone else think?

Thanks so much

does he do it back?

Reply 10

samba

6

Fruitcakex

hmm.. well maybe ive just lowered myself to their level but i just sent one of the girls who was being really flirty, a message. basically saying stay away or il **** you up. and i know that it wont lead anywhere but thinking about it girls dont just say stuff like that randomly , he must have made them feel its alright to say things like that. Also, wouldnt you think they would respect that he has a girlfriend and not say such messages?

you sound like one of those crazy violent biatches that I sometimes see in town punching the hell out of another girl/boy :s-smilie:

You're so much worse than them....And should be sent to a Somalian mine or summit.

Reply 11

Fruitcakex

OP

yes of course im a psychopath. really truly i am. Corse im not, i said that out of anger, of course i wouldnt go and do something like that, i am not like that.
You must be pretty stereotypical to think im most likely a chav who goes around starting fights. Im not even going to explain how different i am to that, mainly cos i dont want to and because youl probably come back with some sort of smart comment .

All i wanted was some form of advice and not to start some kind of discussion about whether i am a psychopath.. thanks.. a lot..

Reply 12

grace

15

Fruitcakex

yes of course im a psychopath. really truly i am. Corse im not, i said that out of anger, of course i wouldnt go and do something like that, i am not like that.
You must be pretty stereotypical to think im most likely a chav who goes around starting fights. Im not even going to explain how different i am to that, mainly cos i dont want to and because youl probably come back with some sort of smart comment .

All i wanted was some form of advice and not to start some kind of discussion about whether i am a psychopath.. thanks.. a lot..

fruitcake, i say this in the gentlest way possible, but YOU'RE the one who told us you threatened to **** some random girl up. no one made that assumption, you told us yourself that that's what you did.

it's not like we know you as a person and are able to distinguish whether or not that's out of character. all we know about you is what you've told us. and seriously...read back what you told us....doesn't that sound pretty psycho to you?

Reply 13

prettygreeneyes99

9

i think maybe you might have been a little harsh saying you were going to **** her up but i can understand wanting to warn her off... theres some evil girls out there who would actually go out to try and tempt someones boyfriend away for the sake of it

Reply 14

Fruitcakex

OP

yes it does a bit, and i am sorry i came across that way, which i really am not that way, but im just so incredibly angry, and sometimes people say things out of anger that they dont mean..

Reply 15

Wild Thing

11

grace

i'm not uptight or rude.

i just think it's a bit out of order. Would your mother like it if other women were saying 'loooove ya babezzzzzz lolololol' to your dad?!

no.

it's a respect thing.

you can show friendship and openness and affection towards people without having to profess love to them. fair enough if you feel a friendly love towards them, but there's no need to gush romantic proclamations at someone who is romantically involved with someone else. And what's with the 'babe' thing?! it just seems tacky and overly desperate to me.

Well of course if you're in your mid to late 20s, but not when you're in your early 20s. Everyone I know does it to their close male and female friend:"'love you xxx" I'm not exactly saying: omg omg ur lyk ttly hot and i want ur cock lol!!!lol!!1111 :rolleyes:

Forget it, can't be bothered to have an e-arguement.

TSR is so crap now, you can't even express your opinion without being immeditately critisied for the way you lead your life ffs.

Reply 16

samba

6

Fruitcakex

yes it does a bit, and i am sorry i came across that way, which i really am not that way, but im just so incredibly angry, and sometimes people say things out of anger that they dont mean..

why don't you message her and apologise? :smile:

Reply 17

silverbolt

19

Fruitcakex

hmm.. well maybe ive just lowered myself to their level but i just sent one of the girls who was being really flirty, a message. basically saying stay away or il **** you up. and i know that it wont lead anywhere but thinking about it girls dont just say stuff like that randomly , he must have made them feel its alright to say things like that. Also, wouldnt you think they would respect that he has a girlfriend and not say such messages?

agreeing with grace and the general on this one

your pathetic a few flirty messages and your threatening bodily harm. hopefully your bf will come to his senses and dump you for being a paranoid obesessive control freak.

Oh adn you obviously dont trust him otherwise you wouldnt be making such an issue, women flirt with me a lot my gf doenst mind because she knows that flirting is just words and gestures its nothing to worry about. Grow up

Reply 18

Fluent in Lies

2

'der babes' ???

Never mind respect for other people. Do they have no self respect?

In other news I hate the word 'babe'.

Reply 19

grace

15

Wild Thing

Well of course if you're in your mid to late 20s, but not when you're in your early 20s. Everyone I know does it to their close male and female friend:"'love you xxx" I'm not exactly saying: omg omg ur lyk ttly hot and i want ur cock lol!!!lol!!1111 :rolleyes:

Forget it, can't be bothered to have an e-arguement.

TSR is so crap now, you can't even express your opinion without being immeditately critisied for the way you lead your life ffs.

i'm in my early twenties and the only people i ever say 'love you' to are my family, my bf and maybe like twice in my entire life to my best female friend.

it sounds more like something you do when you're 12 and hugging your friends goodbye when you're leaving school than something people in their late teens or twenties would/should be doing.

and anyway, you criticised me for the way i lead my life, remember?! 'uptight' ring a bell?!

Pissed off.

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