How can I meet new people in London

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    Basically I'm studying at Birkbeck - got in through clearing after missing my offer for medical school but most of the people I meet there are much older than me and I find that I have almost no social life. During my first year (final year now) - I met a few people from student halls and made some friends but I lost touch with most of them as they finished uni or something - first year my social life was insane. It's really annoying because now I'm in a situation where it's been over a year since I've even gone out when I'm the type of person who loves to go out and socialise - but there's no-one to go out with and the loneliness is killing me - i'm just in my room on my laptop day and night with the exception of when I'm working or going to uni. I can't meet any girls either which is even more annoying as in my uni they are much older than I am (or in relationships) ! I need a social life - but don't know how to develop one when the people from my uni (which are great) are all older than me and I find I can't go out with them or anything. I feel like I'm missing out on the whole uni experience. Societies are also kinda bad.
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    Basically I'm studying at Birkbeck - got in through clearing after missing my offer for medical school but most of the people I meet there are much older than me and I find that I have almost no social life. During my first year (final year now) - I met a few people from student halls and made some friends but I lost touch with most of them as they finished uni or something - first year my social life was insane. It's really annoying because now I'm in a situation where it's been over a year since I've even gone out when I'm the type of person who loves to go out and socialise - but there's no-one to go out with and the loneliness is killing me - i'm just in my room on my laptop day and night with the exception of when I'm working or going to uni. I can't meet any girls either which is even more annoying as in my uni they are much older than I am (or in relationships) ! I need a social life - but don't know how to develop one when the people from my uni (which are great) are all older than me and I find I can't go out with them or anything. I feel like I'm missing out on the whole uni experience. Societies are also kinda bad.
    Oo Birkbeck that's near where I live Honestly, I have the same issue (second year here). I do have a couple friends, but they are always busy. Might I suggest going out more if you like drinking for example you can go to some lively places such as Camden haha? Or you can get yourself a fun hobby which is what I'm trying to find. And of course the generic answer, join some societies you are bound to find some friends there. Have you really tried them properly? Maybe they seem 'bad', but give them a fair chance. Go to your university's student events. Try to get out more. You have to put effort if no one else will. You can make the difference. There's always stuff happening in London. Also, you can try talking to people at your workplace a bit more? Maybe they want to go out for drinks or something like that? Or you can try dating apps if girls are your main focus, there's no harm in trying.Why is them being a lot older than you such a huge problem? You are an adult, right? As long as they are less they are not like wayyyy older it shouldn't be a huge problem. Go out with them, what's the harm in doing so?
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    Hey - thanks. That's absolutely great. London is so frustrating but you're right - it's worth trying out the student societies and see what they are like. I haven't tried them yet - just been to the student fairs and asked a few people who have already joint. And yeah - you are right, need to get out more this year. I'll try messaging a few friends and organising a few things and definitely try tinder or something soon. It's just I don't want to be wasting any more of my youth at home behind a computer screen when I should be out and enjoying it haha. My jobs a little bit weird - I get along really well with the people and definitely socialise with them a lot during work but they're not the going out types. And it's not that they are wayyyy older - it's just that they are too busy or are too far away to be going out and stuff.
 
 
 
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