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    I'm 17 (just) and in my second year at college. I take history, geography and politics and I want to study history at university.

    A part of me wants to move out when I go to uni (and 4/5 choices are two hours away from home) but I don't know if this is wise. I have some mental health problems which I can just manage at home, but sometimes it gets too much. I'm just coping.

    I'm worried that I'm not going to be recovered enough by 2017 to move out. And if I do, I'm scared I'll get worse away from home.

    What do I do? I don't want to defer a year. so do I just accept that I'm not ready and move out when the second year begins?
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    I can see why this would be a difficult decision. For me, I only developed MH problems after going to uni and then being unable to cope, but you're right, it's a very stressful environment and can very easily get the better of people. Even people without ongoing mental health issues can unravel with the stress of uni.

    I don't know (obviously) how you'd cope but is there any way you could test it out? For instance could you try going to a summer school where you'd be in a similar environment to university?

    I'm 18 and I've been in a similar situation. I've just finished my A levels and am taking a gap year to apply for university for 2017 entry.
    I've struggled with my mental health for the last few years and without the support of my family I'm not sure I'd be able to cope.
    But after visiting lots of universities on Open Days and speaking to the mental health services available, I've realised that it might actually be okay.
    Most universities will have a dedicated mental health services with advisers who will be able to support you in the transition from living at home to living away from home. You will need to apply for Disabled Students Allowance and they'll be able to fund a specialist mentor for you who you can meet with regularly to help you keep on top of the workload and act as an advocate for you if you need it.
    Also they tend to have strong links with local NHS services so you should be able to get in contact with them to transfer any care plans and access therapy or psychiatric input. As well as this if you need special consideration as a result of your illness deteriorating at any point, they should be able to help you with applying for that.
    I really do understand that it's a scary prospect but there are so many services available to you, so make sure you investigate fully before you rule out being able to cope.
    Good luck!
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