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    Im in my late 20's and don't ever want to be pregnant but might like a baby sometime in the future. Im very into keeping fit and weight lifting so there's the fact that it will I interrupt my goals but the main reason is I'm just afraid and hate the idea of being stuck with carrying something for 9 months and all the pain. Not to mention my fear of feeling/being sick. I think it is harsh biologically I mean why can't we just lay a ****ing egg. Ive not even met anyone to settle down with yet and I enjoy life as it is but I feel a pressure to settle down as though I'm on a time limit and it gets me feeling down every few days. . Part of me wants a child eventually but I don't think i'l ever feel ready in my fertile years there's so much I want to do in life. I've never been travelling or socialised much in the past I've been too quiet and anxious. Don't really know what I'm asking, maybe just a bit of advice, just wanted to say how I feel as its an odd thing to discuss in real life with people.
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    Just lol.
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    (Original post by cbreef)
    Just lol.
    I know, maybe I am worrying over nothing and taking life too seriously.
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    why not just adopt and skip the ********
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    Surrogacy?
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    Just have a baby when you actually want to have it? I don't understand your predicament?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know, maybe I am worrying over nothing and taking life too seriously.
    Yeah pretty much. You seem overwhelmed with thoughts atm
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    (Original post by retro_turtles)
    Surrogacy?
    I thought that this was for women who had biological fertility problems rather than reluctancy to pregnancy.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I thought that this was for women who had biological fertility problems rather than reluctancy to pregnancy.
    It is mostly but some women do choose surrogacy
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    I can kind of relate to this as I'd love to have a baby sometime but the idea of her growing inside me and having to not **** up for 9 months and then the idea that she could possibly come out the way they do. I really feel I'd burst open or something. Comes from being short. It's scary as hell. I'd want as many drugs as they'd give me. Even if you put a small baby by your tummy it looks huge. I think it must be like that Alien film.
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    (Original post by lamaragymnast)
    I can kind of relate to this as I'd love to have a baby sometime but the idea of her growing inside me and having to not **** up for 9 months and then the idea that she could possibly come out the way they do. I really feel I'd burst open or something. Comes from being short. It's scary as hell. I'd want as many drugs as they'd give me. Even if you put a small baby by your tummy it looks huge. I think it must be like that Alien film.
    Same I'm only 5ft and everyone says I'm 'tiny'. Though this isn't really part of my concerns it's just general pregnancy and the fact that I'm on a time limit.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Same I'm only 5ft and everyone says I'm 'tiny'. Though this isn't really part of my concerns it's just general pregnancy and the fact that I'm on a time limit.
    I'm 4 11.

    The time doesn't bother me though. I'd wait until I was older and be okay about it.
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    You can always adopt you know, so many children in care homes with no parents
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    Can't understand why anyone wants a baby tbh
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    Adopt.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Im in my late 20's and don't ever want to be pregnant but might like a baby sometime in the future. Im very into keeping fit and weight lifting so there's the fact that it will I interrupt my goals but the main reason is I'm just afraid and hate the idea of being stuck with carrying something for 9 months and all the pain. Not to mention my fear of feeling/being sick. I think it is harsh biologically I mean why can't we just lay a ****ing egg. Ive not even met anyone to settle down with yet and I enjoy life as it is but I feel a pressure to settle down as though I'm on a time limit and it gets me feeling down every few days. . Part of me wants a child eventually but I don't think i'l ever feel ready in my fertile years there's so much I want to do in life. I've never been travelling or socialised much in the past I've been too quiet and anxious. Don't really know what I'm asking, maybe just a bit of advice, just wanted to say how I feel as its an odd thing to discuss in real life with people.
    adoption is a great option
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    (Original post by lamaragymnast)

    The time doesn't bother me though. I'd wait until I was older and be okay about it.
    OP is right though, there is a time limit for women. The rate of problems of one sort or another increases exponentially after a women hits about 35.
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    (Original post by Zeus007)
    You can always adopt you know, so many children in care homes with no parents
    Id feel like id stolen someone elses child
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Id feel like id stolen someone elses child
    I know (or rather, I presume) you're being facetious but if you can't tell the difference between kidnap, and getting a child out of the system and into a good home, then more fool you.

    If you can't see how adopting is a win-win for all involved (you don't want to get pregnant but you get a kid out of adoption, and the kid gets out of the system) then you're really going to struggle with parenthood.
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    I think women do have it tougher with periods, childbearing and birth, boobs, all on top of earning a living. All I can say in compensation is that it is a bit magical being able to grow a baby and I don't think the guy gets the same credit for his laudable part in the proceedings. Perhaps things will crystallise when youre with someone you wouldn't mind parenting with.
 
 
 
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