This discussion is now closed.
Check out other Related discussions
- prior crush on teacher and she could be my next teacher
- Song name alphabet game!!!
- A-level German Study Group 2023-2024
- Oxford chemistry interviews
- Is anyone just so scared for a levels results n stuff
- Distance, love, and a sudden goodbye: what should I do?
- Hey
- My Girlfriends
- To my friends
- cpa continuing professional education
- Ucl offer holders i need help asap
- LSE Bsc Econ Is the Worst
- A Level German 2025-2026
- German a level Edexcel paper 2 2024
- Ocr Alevel Computer Sci NEA DEADLINE
- Are these real people?
- Tmua score
- Travel
- Why does it means if she wishes u good night!
- Student Finance Childcare Grant
Goodbye Letter
I've recently broken up with my GF and have written her a letter, but I can't decide whether to post it or not. There are somethings in there i havn't told her before and would like her to hear, although i'm not sure its a good idea to send it. Opinions?
Scroll to see replies
Reply 1
As long as it isn't a huge rant at her for being a **** girlfriend, and as long as it is not full of gloating stories about how you snogged her best friend, then post it.
She will want to know how you really feel, and will want to hear what you need to tell her. And this way, she can read it over and over, and saves you meeting up and getting upset with each other.
She will want to know how you really feel, and will want to hear what you need to tell her. And this way, she can read it over and over, and saves you meeting up and getting upset with each other.
Reply 2
Schmokie Dragon
As long as it isn't a huge rant at her for being a **** girlfriend, and as long as it is not full of gloating stories about how you snogged her best friend, then post it.
She will want to know how you really feel, and will want to hear what you need to tell her. And this way, she can read it over and over, and saves you meeting up and getting upset with each other.
She will want to know how you really feel, and will want to hear what you need to tell her. And this way, she can read it over and over, and saves you meeting up and getting upset with each other.
exactly.
Reply 3
She's probably hurt already. So if the letter is something that would hurt her more then don't send it.
Reply 5
Its just basically a thanks for the time we spent together, i'm gutted it didn't work and how I felt about her and that I hope she is happy in the future, spread over about 4 pages.
Reply 7
Four pages? Wow. Although sending it would be okay, I'd be careful before you give her the wrong signs.
Reply 8
I wouldn't send it if i were you. You will just be opening up old wounds. And frankly it's a bit gimpy that you have written a letter anyway.
Reply 9
I wouldn't bother sending it. Why cause more heartache for you and her when you can just make motions towards moving on and getting over it?
Ehh, I don't see the sense.
Ehh, I don't see the sense.
Reply 10
Send it. If it's a nice letter, do it.
Reply 11
No don't you will regret it if you do
Reply 12
It was only last week, so i'd like to get these things off my chest asap so I can get on with getting over her, I dont want to draw things on longer than needs be.
Reply 13
A goodbye letter seems so final.
Could you not write a letter just saying how you feel and that you wish her the best and that you hope in time that you can be friends?
Could you not write a letter just saying how you feel and that you wish her the best and that you hope in time that you can be friends?
Reply 14
Well thats what it effectively is, its not a i'm never going to talk to you again after this type of letter. We will be staying in contact.
Reply 15
I think i'd appreciate a letter like that. I think it's a nice way of showing her how much you cared for her, and could help to end the relationship in a positive way, so you can still be friends after it.
Reply 17
I wouldn't do it myself.
I suspect that you're secretly just hoping it's going to stir old feelings and get her to take you back. You'll only punish yourself more this way. Also, if she does become affected by the letter, and does take you back, you may find the relationship substantially different now, with you on the back foot all the time.
As others have said, if there is an cathartic confessional / spiteful admission content to it, don't send it either.
I suspect that you're secretly just hoping it's going to stir old feelings and get her to take you back. You'll only punish yourself more this way. Also, if she does become affected by the letter, and does take you back, you may find the relationship substantially different now, with you on the back foot all the time.
As others have said, if there is an cathartic confessional / spiteful admission content to it, don't send it either.
Reply 18
It's risky, but if it's just a nice letter then you could send it.
Related discussions
- prior crush on teacher and she could be my next teacher
- Song name alphabet game!!!
- A-level German Study Group 2023-2024
- Oxford chemistry interviews
- Is anyone just so scared for a levels results n stuff
- Distance, love, and a sudden goodbye: what should I do?
- Hey
- My Girlfriends
- To my friends
- cpa continuing professional education
- Ucl offer holders i need help asap
- LSE Bsc Econ Is the Worst
- A Level German 2025-2026
- German a level Edexcel paper 2 2024
- Ocr Alevel Computer Sci NEA DEADLINE
- Are these real people?
- Tmua score
- Travel
- Why does it means if she wishes u good night!
- Student Finance Childcare Grant
Latest
Trending
Last reply 3 days ago
Can someone please help me tag Artful_lounger, i want to ask him a questionHealth
5
21
Last reply 1 week ago
How to get through the year with a teacher that dislikes you?Last reply 4 weeks ago
Aren’t you supposed to stand in monkey in the middleLast reply 4 weeks ago
I need a gap year, but my parents say no. Help?
