I can't forgive my friend for something she did 2 years ago?

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    Basically 2 years ago I told my supposed best friend that I liked one of my male best friends. She barely knew him but 2 days later she hooked up with him and did everything except penis in vag sex. She hooked up with him right in front of me then went home with him.

    I "forgave" her pretty quickly as I didn't want him to know it was an issue and also my other friends made it pretty clear that I would have to as it would be awkward for the group. It was never about the guy really like I knew we wouldn't ever be a thing but it was about the betrayal on her part.

    Since then we have had a normal friendship but I never considered her my best friend again even though I thought I had forgiven her. I realise now that I haven't. Every now and then we would have really bad arguments and I think I have anger issues and would say really mean things. I have now realised that I actually didn't really like her after that and never felt the same affection. We aren't friends anymore.

    Is this normal or am I abnormal for not forgiving her after 2 years?
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    Some people see different things in different ways. some may feel you're being an idiot and it's not a big deal, but they probably don't value trust and loyalty as much as you. Others may think you're okay to feel like that.

    It's up to you to see how you feel about her. No right or wrong way. I'd say to just distance yourself, as otherwise it'll continue to eat away at you.
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    The answer is obvious, have sex with her dad.
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    She's no friend of yours!
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    She shouldnt be in your life
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    It sounds to me that she deliberately got with the guy knowing full well it would hurt you. Why would a friend intentionally do that? No true friend would, that's for sure, especially if she previously showed no interest in him. That's just nasty. You are well rid.
 
 
 
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