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    I am a first year business management student and have recently been placed in international house accommodation with second/third year students as I applied for accommodation after the deadline...silly me I know. I am really struggling to adapt to the uni life, as I have not made any friends on my course and my flat mates stay in their rooms all day and just seem to not want to have a conversation. I am a very friendly outgoing and social person and I feel really lonely and completely shocked by the experience I have had so far. In lectures I have spoken to a few people who have sat next to me however there's only so much talking you can do in them. I want to meet and socialise with people however I don't know how to, apart from join societies I think. I feel like my confidence has dropped due to my rocky start and missing out on freshers. I am now contemplating leaving university and getting a job as a trainee accountant instead, as I feel I may benefit more from working and learning on the job, due to 4 years of work experience I have accumulated already. Sitting in my room on my own every single day/night between lectures is not the uni experience I was expecting
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    I totally sympathise- I'm a fresher in Twyford court and don't seem to find myself making friends... Don't leave over this, I feel sad that I'm not really tight with my flatmates but i'm optimistic because I know it'll be worth it and i'll be enjoying myself more soon. Try going along to social events at the basement/ Hari's.
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    I'm not at Surrey but more or less feel the same. I don't think you should leave solely on feeling lonely. It's still early in the year so you'll meet more people as time goes by. I know people say this all the time, but do try and join some societies and remember friendship takes time.
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    I agree with the person above, I would certainly give it some more time, friendships take a while to find and form. Have you tried joining some societies?
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    (Original post by chloeward96)
    I am a first year business management student and have recently been placed in international house accommodation with second/third year students as I applied for accommodation after the deadline...silly me I know. I am really struggling to adapt to the uni life, as I have not made any friends on my course and my flat mates stay in their rooms all day and just seem to not want to have a conversation. I am a very friendly outgoing and social person and I feel really lonely and completely shocked by the experience I have had so far. In lectures I have spoken to a few people who have sat next to me however there's only so much talking you can do in them. I want to meet and socialise with people however I don't know how to, apart from join societies I think. I feel like my confidence has dropped due to my rocky start and missing out on freshers. I am now contemplating leaving university and getting a job as a trainee accountant instead, as I feel I may benefit more from working and learning on the job, due to 4 years of work experience I have accumulated already. Sitting in my room on my own every single day/night between lectures is not the uni experience I was expecting
    Uni's a whole new experience for loads of people and you're far from the only person who hasn't found it easy to settle in. As others have said, joining some societies can be a great start as you get to talk with lots of people with whom you've got a common interest, and a lot of the big ones run plenty of socials (EFS for example had a bar crawl recently and last year they ran at least two trips to Ministry of Sound). Other than that, why not try talking to random people at Hillside or Starbucks? Just sitting down next to someone and having a chat over lunch can be a good way of meeting new people

    Course-wise, you could perhaps look at finding a group of people to finish the tutorials with in the library? When it's a group effort it's often easier to finish them and I'm always happy to have other people who can explain to me a concept that I don't understand. I'm sure there'll be people in your course who feel the same way!

    Please do give it more time though before you quit uni! It's only the third week and things can change quickly
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    Hello,

    Maybe what would be best for you is to find a room swap.

    I've been allocated university accommodation at Hazel Farm (Band A). The house is on Hamilton Drive, adjacent to the common room and green areas. It takes 15-20 minutes to get to campus on the bus and comes with a year's free Guildford bus pass. The house is quiet with a friendly group of quiet and respectful students. I have uploaded multiple photos of the room on http://imgur.com/a/5ZWuMand would be more than happy to introduce you, and show you around the house. Contact me if you consider swapping

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    I was in the exact same position as you. I was given accommodation late and moved in with 2nd/3rd year students who didn't even leave their rooms. I did a room swap a few days ago and that was probably the best decision I've ever made, do you ever go out to clubs/bars/pubs during the weekends? If you want someone to socialize with let me know I'm quite active and would love to help someone who is in the same situation as I was.
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    (Original post by chloeward96)
    I am a first year business management student and have recently been placed in international house accommodation with second/third year students as I applied for accommodation after the deadline...silly me I know. I am really struggling to adapt to the uni life, as I have not made any friends on my course and my flat mates stay in their rooms all day and just seem to not want to have a conversation. I am a very friendly outgoing and social person and I feel really lonely and completely shocked by the experience I have had so far. In lectures I have spoken to a few people who have sat next to me however there's only so much talking you can do in them. I want to meet and socialise with people however I don't know how to, apart from join societies I think. I feel like my confidence has dropped due to my rocky start and missing out on freshers. I am now contemplating leaving university and getting a job as a trainee accountant instead, as I feel I may benefit more from working and learning on the job, due to 4 years of work experience I have accumulated already. Sitting in my room on my own every single day/night between lectures is not the uni experience I was expecting
    I think you are guilty of trying to kop out far too soon into your degree here. Join the Christian Union, Chess, Squash, Badminton, Hockey clubs. Join the society for your subject if you have one. Speak to your tutor. Try to move into halls when a space comes up, get in touch with the halls of residence.
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    bit off topic, but how are you finding business management? Ive got an offer from surrey for international business!
 
 
 
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