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I really hate guys touching me down there watch

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    when i was younger a guy came onto me too strongly and was touching me down there without my permission. now i dont let any guys touch me there. i feel numb if they touch me i dont feel any pleasure or anything. guys dont understand why because ive not really told anyone so they just think im un-normal. i quickly move thier hands away if they put there hands near that area subconsciously.

    how can i overcome this and start liking guys touching me there?
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    by younger i mean i was 15
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    If he's touching you without your permission, then of course you wouldn't like it.

    It will probably grow with maturity, you might like it when you're with someone you actually like.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    when i was younger a guy came onto me too strongly and was touching me down there without my permission. now i dont let any guys touch me there. i feel numb if they touch me i dont feel any pleasure or anything. guys dont understand why because ive not really told anyone so they just think im un-normal. i quickly move thier hands away if they put there hands near that area subconsciously.

    how can i overcome this and start liking guys touching me there?
    You have a few choices you either explain this to the guy you are in a relationship with. Hopefully he will understand and it may just take while until you are more comfortable with him to move your relationship further. If not, I'd suggest seeing your GP to get some counselling or point you in the right direction of where to get some help.
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    Start trusting.
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    It's sexual assault if they're touching you like that without your explicit permission.
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    (Original post by Denisi007)
    how old are you now?
    im 19
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    (Original post by UWS)
    If he's touching you without your permission, then of course you wouldn't like it.

    It will probably grow with maturity, you might like it when you're with someone you actually like.
    if i trust a guy and like him i still dont like it and feel nothing

    (Original post by Random.guy)
    You have a few choices you either explain this to the guy you are in a relationship with. Hopefully he will understand and it may just take while until you are more comfortable with him to move your relationship further. If not, I'd suggest seeing your GP to get some counselling or point you in the right direction of where to get some help.
    im not in a relationship rn
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    when i was younger a guy came onto me too strongly and was touching me down there without my permission. now i dont let any guys touch me there. i feel numb if they touch me i dont feel any pleasure or anything. guys dont understand why because ive not really told anyone so they just think im un-normal. i quickly move thier hands away if they put there hands near that area subconsciously.

    how can i overcome this and start liking guys touching me there?
    My best recommendation, which is solely coming from the vaginal teeth horror film, 'Teeth' is to go ahead dating guys you feel comfortable being around. prolong intercourse until you feel comfortable and if he's the right guy, you'll be more than happy for him to touch you intimately and enjoy it simultaneously.
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    If you don't like it, you don't like it. What are you gonna do? If men get angry over it, find another man.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    if i trust a guy and like him i still dont like it and feel nothing



    im not in a relationship rn
    Well like I said previously it'd be best to go see your GP and ask for some advice or help regarding this matter. You won't get a solution to your problem on TSR I'm afraid. What you will need is some professional help, as what that guy did, has traumatized you in some way. So go see your GP and hopefully this will lead you to get over this problem.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    im 19
    There should be no expectations in a relationship, if you don't like it then tell your partner, I'm sure they will be understanding, there are many other things to do besides touching
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    (Original post by xmertic)
    My best recommendation, which is solely coming from the vaginal teeth horror film, 'Teeth' is to go ahead dating guys you feel comfortable being around. prolong intercourse until you feel comfortable and if he's the right guy, you'll be more than happy for him to touch you intimately and enjoy it simultaneously.
    oh no, im a very untrusting person. i still havnt lost my virginity yet. So basically im this stuff girl around guys.

    (Original post by Denisi007)
    There should be no expectations in a relationship, if you don't like it then tell your partner, I'm sure they will be understanding, there are many other things to do besides touching
    i guess so
 
 
 
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