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To Everyone Who Is Lonely

Hi,

I am feeling really down at the minute after I find my x sleeping around while I am trying to get back with her. Fair enough we aren't together, she claims to still love me etc but lives a second life on the internet meeting other men. It was never going to work out.

So anyway I realised that many people are confused like I am right now and they may need something to help them overcome their pain. I am going out later to try and drink away my sorrows, as I can't stop thinking about her, and what she is doing in detail with other men. Even though she says she loves me, all the questions I have unanswered, knowing she will be back round after her holiday in which she met another man. I know I have to reject her but its hard.

So in order to forget about these troubles we should get everyone who needs a bit of company and is feeling down like myself and have a night out. Seems random and believe me im no internet freak, I just think if you meet more people you never know whats round the corner.

Theres my thoughts for what its worth.

Reply 1

lawzer

ya better than that!!!

Reply 2

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Yeah, that sounds like fun, lets travel several hundred miles just to go for a drink with someone who seems like at the moment they'll be as much fun as a recently-sacked Santa who has been given a swift kick in the knackers...

Go visit friends or something, random strangers on the internet aren't likely to help, only make you feel more lonely. Unless some of them are willing to sleep with you, of course, that might help. Anyone?

Reply 3

prettygreeneyes99

9

Yea that is pretty harsh, just try to imagine yourself in a few months time and try reassuring yourself that the feeling like crap bit isnt permanant... and also getting blind drunk with friends does help quite abit i find! :smile:

Reply 4

Airel

14

pft. At least you've had an ex.

Reply 5

HereFishyFishy

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Airel

pft. At least you've had an ex.

How the hell is that helpful!?

What is wrong with H&R tonight??

OP: she doesn't sound worth it. I'm going through a break up too and I know how crap it is. Go out and talk to your mates. Don't get drunk if you think it'll make it worse - I've tried that and it sucks.

:hugs:

Reply 6

tetrahydrocannabinol.

10

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Yeah, that sounds like fun, lets travel several hundred miles just to go for a drink with someone who seems like at the moment they'll be as much fun as a recently-sacked Santa who has been given a swift kick in the knackers...

Too good! +santa+

Reply 7

big?mark

Hi again OP.

Look at it this way. She's the one missing out, not you. Do you really want to be with some one who claims to love you but then sleeps around? Thats not love, thats just playing somebody along.
From the looks of your sig you have a 'bright future ahead of you' (which is more than what i have so be grateful). If you move away to uni you are gonna meet so many new people and you will find somebody out there who will like you back and who wont sleep with other boys.
Dont drown your sorrows. Cos when you wake up sober in the morning your problems are still there waiting for you and it feels like you have to start all over in your head sorting it out.
Breaking up is never easy, its not supposed to be, but if everytime you feel sad or lovely you run back to her, you arent moving forward, you'll just go round and round in circles. Of course you will want to get back with her now, but remember, there was a reason for why you broke up, and it obviously made you unhappy enough to finish the relationship, so no matter how nice your memories of the happy times might be, it obv wasnt a good relationship worth fighting for.
From past experience, i think the hardest thing is breaking up but keeping in touch. Everytime you hear them or see them it just makes it worse, its like breaking up all over again. Its harsh and really hard but the best thing to do is to just cut all contact with her. Eventually you'll get used to not having her around and then you can be happy again.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

I know how you feel; I am still feeling gutted about splitting up with my girlfriend a couple of months ago. We had been together for about 3 and a half years, living together for 2 and a half of those. She has also slept around (and caught an STD off the guy) since we split up except the difference is that I am still completely besotted with her but she has made it clear that there is no chance of us getting together; she is moving several hundred miles away in a few months to be nearer her parents and has already arranged a job there. I was really gutted that she had slept with someone else (especially in view of the circumstances - she was completely bladdered and was quite upset the next morning; I only found out because I went to pick her up from her friends and noticed that she was quite upset about something and she had mentioned some guy who had been there that she had had a disagreement with). The other thing was that I knew that she wasn't the type of woman to sleep around like that so I felt bad that she was different than I had thought.

Try not to think about those sort of details and just concentrate on working out if you still want to be with her or not. I wish my ex still wanted to get back together, I mean I am still living in her house for the time being and we get on great. Unfortunately, she thinks I am a pathetic waste of time with no ambition whereas she and her family can be a bit snobby and are overconcerned with money.

Reply 9

Dinendal Leralonde

1

First of all, I suppose I should be sensible and say that drinking your sorrow away isn't going to help. In fact, it's probably going to make you feel worse.

Now that's out of the way, here's what I really wanna say. I'd love to join you in the aforementioned activity, but unfortunately I'm on somewhat of a diet - trying to lose weight for when all the Freshers come to Nottingham. It's not likely to work for me, but it's worth a try.

Reply 10

geordiebabehh

10

shell be back x

Reply 11

Helicopter

Dinendal Leralonde

First of all, I suppose I should be sensible and say that drinking your sorrow away isn't going to help. In fact, it's probably going to make you feel worse.

Now that's out of the way, here's what I really wanna say. I'd love to join you in the aforementioned activity, but unfortunately I'm on somewhat of a diet - trying to lose weight for when all the Freshers come to Nottingham. It's not likely to work for me, but it's worth a try.

From your picture I don't think you need to lose too much weight, if that helps!

To the OP, i know how you're feeling. Hopefully we can both get through it.

Reply 12

Dinendal Leralonde

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Helicopter

From your picture I don't think you need to lose too much weight, if that helps!

To the OP, i know how you're feeling. Hopefully we can both get through it.

Thanks, but I'm mainly doing it to feel more comfortable about myself. I'm thinking that, if I improve how I look to myself, I'll gain a confidence boost that I apparently need.

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