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    As the title says ,

    to cut a long story short ...

    Horrible 2 years of Alevels filled with depression, suicidal thoughts, family problems, and so much more crap from people. I was predicted ABB during the beginning of my Alevels , which went down to BBC which has resulted in me getting CCD. I have been in tears since morning ... I was always wanting to go to a top universities ...the thing is I was so confused as to what I wanted to do with my life that I just decided to take a gap year however out of the sudden by the end of July I was determined to go to uni, however obviously my choices would have gone to clearing by then. Furthur on been in touch with the unis that I would have liked to go to and the following is their response...

    1. City = Yep u can come since you scraped our clearing grades now since u have just scraped it ...u will need to come in and get an interview.

    2. Royal Holloway = Called them my bloody phone battery died so I will need to call them tommorow; they did say social working was available and they said something after that then phone died.

    3. Kings college = Told me to politely get lost.

    4. SOAS = They considered.

    5. Queen mary = Have accepted my situation and circumstances.

    6. UCL = Well they said they would consider me next year for ARCHICTECTURE via email, i dont know much to believe them esp with those horrid grades.

    7. Brunel= Yet to be in touch with.

    8. European business school= Will call them tommorow but have no idea they will accept though.

    Im jus really depressed its like i have nobody to talk to ....my family are not educated therefore they simply cant offer me advice.
    I just feel so lost and confused. I feel dumb to put it .

    I know I was capable of getting excellent grades...but my depression leaped in. It was always there during GCSE 's but I managed to get A'S and B'S which was shocking.
    I feel so angry upset at myself. I am comparing myself to those students with AAAA's and i am really happy for them, i feel dumb compared to them.
    I just feel like i wont get a well payed job, I DONT know what to do im so confused , and filled with a mixture of feelings. I feel like hurting myself , I have been controlling my self harm for a long time and i just feel like nobody will employ me in a really respectable job.

    I just feel simply dumb, uneducated and feel llike hiding myself under the duvet covers. I ve been awake since 6.oo am in the morning and i havent had any rest since ive been calling unis all day long.

    I just dont know what to do . I feel dumb. dumb dumb. I would love to reverse time and go to a different school , but my school seriously ****ed me up. I know im ambitious and am capable but i just feel like a miserable piece of ****. I feel really suicidal but I dont want to do anything awful that i might regret.


    please dont be nasty or mean to me as im seriously emotionally unwell, and anything could make me really upset at this point of time , so please dont be nasty and cruel.

    Thanks

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    I was originally supposed to get like 4As.. that became 3Bs and ended up BCD with an AS-C.. I blame the partying and my general lack of care for work lol..

    I got in to Leeds which I believe to certainly be a respectable Uni, especially for my course.. Maths..

    Clearing is a wonder, I changed both the places I applied and the degree lol
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    OK, stop freaking out!
    Let's break it down... Can't you look at your results in detail and see in which exams you got the worst marks in and resit them. There's no rush to go to university. Take a year off, get a part time job, resit your worst exams and then reapply when you get better results. (There's nothing shameful about the results you have, mine arn't much better)

    Love DP.
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    Can you talk to your Parents ? They may have suggestions on what you should do.

    I know u are disappointed with your Grades, but they could be much worse.
    Also it looks like not all the Universitys have refused you

    You aren't dumb. It wasn't ur fault your Grades weren't what u were expecting
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    Oh for goodness sake. Those. Are. Not. Crap. Grades.

    I suffer from depression you want to know my results? STRAIGHT U's. I tried so hard to beat back the depression and it looks like you did it better than me. For god sake, stop comparing yourself to others. Have you never heard of re-sits?
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    Hey, OP... sorry to hear about your situation. Congrats anyway for getting through despite all your difficulties over the last few years.

    You have been accepted by Queen Mary (my university!) amongst others. It's a great place and I hope you decide to come. On my course there are people with AAA+ and people with CDD... once you have your place your A' Levels are forgotten, and you start the next chapter in your life.

    Having said that, if you're in doubt about your A' Level performance, do consider your options carefully. Maybe a re-sit year would help you show your full potential?

    If you need a more private chat, I'm here, and so are the rest of TSR!

    All the best.... Munkie
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    I did really really bad as well. My heart broke into billions of pieces when I saw my insurance reject me. My firm was conditional and I called them up to discuss about it to find out that the reason it was conditional was because they didn't receive my results :eek:. When I told them my results they politely told me that there was nothing they could do about it, they even told me that I wasn't really suitable for the foundation year. But I called the foundation department up with some hope that they would accept me and thankfully they did. I could get into another university through clearing and all but I had set my heart into going to my firm and I knew that I won't really be happy anywhere else and I thought that I would do the foundation year strengthen my base and get a good degree. Don't feel low about it. Results don't always judge your brain's capacity . If you have a foundation year at the university then try to get on that or get into a university in the low tier ranking and transfer after the first year.
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    im sorry to hear about all of u guys not achieving the results u expected *group hug* and *consolations to all*

    Chris what course will u being doing ? I wish u the best of luck with it.

    Pirate - I really dont want to do any re-sits for each course module I did well I got B's and C's which is fine.But its just I feel really disappointed. If u dont mind me asking what did u get? If u dont want to say that is completely understandable. :hugs:

    Isabella- I seriously cant talk to my parents about nothing...i posted as an anon person long time ago about my family and trust me things are really miserable for me with my family .I tried talking to my father he accused me of al my mistakes and faults and my mother well lets just say she is an eco of my father. most of my problem were family and they do play a huge part of me failing. Thankyou for ur kind response.
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    (Original post by RedRiotRoses)
    Oh for goodness sake. Those. Are. Not. Crap. Grades.

    I suffer from depression you want to know my results? STRAIGHT U's. I tried so hard to beat back the depression and it looks like you did it better than me. For god sake, stop comparing yourself to others. Have you never heard of re-sits?
    Ironic. And there are children succumbing to AIDS in refugee-camps in Africa. Et cetera.
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    (Original post by Anonymous.)
    Pirate - I really dont want to do any re-sits for each course module I did well I got B's and C's which is fine.But its just I feel really disappointed. If u dont mind me asking what did u get? If u dont want to say that is completely understandable. :hugs:
    By the sounds of it you're one of those people that always feel that they could have done better. Anyway, i got BBCD. I'm resiting one of my Chemistry exams (I got a D in it, which brought my final grade down to a C) and I'm resiting one of my maths exams (I got a U in that (5/90 :eek:) which brought my final grade down to a D)
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    I know it seems like the end of the world now, but honestly, A-Levels are not the be all and end all. What I would seriously advise against is just going to uni and doing any course just because you feel you have to. If you're not committed then it'll just end up being a waste of time and money.

    I was in a very similar situation to you - throughout my GCSEs and A-Levels I was seriously bullied at school, which led to me developing depression and never really achieving the grades that everyone believed I was capable of. I was an 'Oxbridge' student etc etc, but because I missed so much school and because I really didn't care I just didn't do very well at all. In the end I took a 'few' (lol) years out, thought about what I wanted to do and I've just graduated with a First - so please believe me when I say that A-Levels don't really matter, and just because you haven't got brilliant grades it does not mean that you're dumb or stupid. You're not.

    Calm down and look at your options logically. Was it just the environment of school that you didn't like, or was it studying for A-Levels itself? If it's the former, then, if you can afford it, maybe look at taking retakes somewhere else. If it's the latter, then maybe you could take a year or so out, get a job and work for a while - there is seriously nothing like a rubbish job for helping you to clarify what you want out of life! Like I said before, don't rush into taking any degree just because you think you have to. If you're not sure, then take some time out to think about it. You don't have to go to uni NOW ... you can retake and then apply, apply in a year or so after gaining work experience, work for a few years and do an Access course, apply as a mature student off your own back (that's what I did). Your options really aren't limited, despite how you feel at the moment.

    Please just take a deep breath and calm down - A-Levels and a degree aren't everything, they help, but it's not going to be all you need to get a decent job. Even with my degree, what's getting me the interviews and (I hope) the jobs is the fact that I have a lot of work experience, and I've done a lot of voluntary work in my field in the past. You need to think carefully about what you're going to do, but (and I don't mean to sound patronising here) honestly it's all the other things that you do and how you handle this that's important, and not a few grades.
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    (Original post by RedRiotRoses)
    Oh for goodness sake. Those. Are. Not. Crap. Grades.

    I suffer from depression you want to know my results? STRAIGHT U's. I tried so hard to beat back the depression and it looks like you did it better than me. For god sake, stop comparing yourself to others. Have you never heard of re-sits?

    Im sorry to hear about ur situation. I have heard of resits but honestly I dont prefer them.
    I hope u feel better , if u need to talk please do feel free to pm me , i really woudnt mind talking it through with u . :hugs:
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    (Original post by DiscoPirate)
    By the sounds of it you're one of those people that always feel that they could have done better. Anyway, i got BBCD. I'm resiting one of my Chemistry exams (I got a D in it, which brought my final grade down to a C) and I'm resiting one of my maths exams (I got a U in that (5/90 :eek:) which brought my final grade down to a D)
    Yes i am one of those people who always feel that they could have done better, and really i am feeling that way.
    Chemistry is a very difficult subject and for you to get a D does show it is a lot of work. I did choose chemistry as my first alevel before and i found it really really difficult and boring. So i applaud u for trying at least well done.
    I really wish u the best of luck with ur retakes and i hope u do really well...when doing ur retakes u would obviously have the basic knowledge of the subject so its likely ur going to get a better grade next time, I really do wish u the best of luck.
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    Thats a bit harsh, I got CCD and I know I'm not dumb or uneducated... I just went to a pretty crap school and seriously lack motivation, I'm still at a Uni that may not be the best in the world but its about the experience you have there as well not just getting yourself into a top University!!
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    People like you annoy me. You got into a uni. You didn't fail completely. People are going to think I'm out of order for saying this, but get over it.
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    Wow , thankyou so much for that. If only my father and mother were as motivating as you, it would really make me feel better.
    Your are correct in what you have said about going to uni and feeling like I have to. To be honest with you , thats how I feel, to be quite frank, like I have to go to uni.

    My parents are so pressurising in terms of degree wise they want me to do a degree in something like MEDICINE, or Biological sciences you know all those really difficult subjects. Which is fine, but I know I wouldnt enjoy them. I like creativity but worries me I wont get into a really well paid job. And my father goes to me that nobody will employ u , the only people that will are the ones that u are working with now, it makes me feel like crap.

    Im sorry to hear about the horrible bullying, i too was bullied and can sypmathise how difficult it must have been for u, a lot of people made a joke out of me and it hurts realy bad when all the doors are closed on u.

    Your right I should calm down, but its like everything is so fresh and new, it will take me a bit of time to calm down really and to get into terms with my future and myself , which will take around 2 weeks or 1 if im lucky and something amazing happens, but on the other hand ...
    The cause to my grades were the following

    1. Students + bullying
    2. family
    3. Depression +self harming
    4. Betrayel of love
    5. teachers leaving for maternity and supplies being replaced with no knowledge. etc.

    So you see it was rathar difficult.
    I was really panicked and in tears when I typed up the thread and was unsure whether to post it or not, but i need help. I feel tiny bit calm but still theres a panick around me.
    What did you study at uni ? and if u dont mind me asking what course? and where are u now , are u working ...?

    You really dont sound patrionising at all, you have helped me a great deal by explaining it and calming me down.
    Thankyou. I know ill feel a bit miserable for the first week , but i know ill be over it soon, like said earlier its all fresh for me.


    (Original post by Paeony)
    I know it seems like the end of the world now, but honestly, A-Levels are not the be all and end all. What I would seriously advise against is just going to uni and doing any course just because you feel you have to. If you're not committed then it'll just end up being a waste of time and money.

    I was in a very similar situation to you - throughout my GCSEs and A-Levels I was seriously bullied at school, which led to me developing depression and never really achieving the grades that everyone believed I was capable of. I was an 'Oxbridge' student etc etc, but because I missed so much school and because I really didn't care I just didn't do very well at all. In the end I took a 'few' (lol) years out, thought about what I wanted to do and I've just graduated with a First - so please believe me when I say that A-Levels don't really matter, and just because you haven't got brilliant grades it does not mean that you're dumb or stupid. You're not.

    Calm down and look at your options logically. Was it just the environment of school that you didn't like, or was it studying for A-Levels itself? If it's the former, then, if you can afford it, maybe look at taking retakes somewhere else. If it's the latter, then maybe you could take a year or so out, get a job and work for a while - there is seriously nothing like a rubbish job for helping you to clarify what you want out of life! Like I said before, don't rush into taking any degree just because you think you have to. If you're not sure, then take some time out to think about it. You don't have to go to uni NOW ... you can retake and then apply, apply in a year or so after gaining work experience, work for a few years and do an Access course, apply as a mature student off your own back (that's what I did). Your options really aren't limited, despite how you feel at the moment.

    Please just take a deep breath and calm down - A-Levels and a degree aren't everything, they help, but it's not going to be all you need to get a decent job. Even with my degree, what's getting me the interviews and (I hope) the jobs is the fact that I have a lot of work experience, and I've done a lot of voluntary work in my field in the past. You need to think carefully about what you're going to do, but (and I don't mean to sound patronising here) honestly it's all the other things that you do and how you handle this that's important, and not a few grades.
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    (Original post by tetrahydrocannabinol.)
    People like you annoy me. You got into a uni. You didn't fail completely. People are going to think I'm out of order for saying this, but get over it.
    It annoys me as well, I know plenty of people who got same or worse grades then me and they certainly arent simpletons or whatever... its not like you got 3 U's, lots of people dont even get chance to get into uni because of money problems, failing completely etc... should feel quite lucky really
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    (Original post by Anonymous.)
    Yes i am one of those people who always feel that they could have done better, and really i am feeling that way.
    Chemistry is a very difficult subject and for you to get a D does show it is a lot of work. I did choose chemistry as my first alevel before and i found it really really difficult and boring. So i applaud u for trying at least well done.
    I really wish u the best of luck with ur retakes and i hope u do really well...when doing ur retakes u would obviously have the basic knowledge of the subject so its likely ur going to get a better grade next time, I really do wish u the best of luck.
    Thanks.

    Good luck to you.

    Love DP.
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    Oh for goodness sake. Those. Are. Not. Crap. Grades.

    I suffer from depression you want to know my results? STRAIGHT U's. I tried so hard to beat back the depression and it looks like you did it better than me. For god sake, stop comparing yourself to others. Have you never heard of re-sits?
    Exactly those grades ain't rubbish, I can understand feeling disappointed that you didn't get as good as you wanted, but come on those grades are not crap.
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    I think you did well to get those grades. I didnt do that well, but there are plenty of options available to you. Relax this evening, and sort it out tommorow.
 
 
 
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