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    So it's my 4th week living with my Malaysian flat mate (plus 10 others) and I am attracted to him (for like a week, now?) - probably because I have a tendency to like East Asians. I don't think it's anything deeper than a physical attraction (but physical could be the wrong term - he's not even that attractive) but I really can't carry on internally reacting to him like "damn boy" / "i really want to screw you rn" when he's eating dinner... ahh what do I do!?
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    LMAO Just go for it, it'll make both of you happy
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So it's my 4th week living with my Malaysian flat mate (plus 10 others) and I am attracted to him (for like a week, now?) - probably because I have a tendency to like East Asians. I don't think it's anything deeper than a physical attraction (but physical could be the wrong term - he's not even that attractive) but I really can't carry on internally reacting to him like "damn boy" / "i really want to screw you rn" when he's eating dinner... ahh what do I do!?
    Are you white, asian, black?.
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    There's so many of these threads. The same advice seems to hold true in all cases: don't s**t where you eat.
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    (Original post by Reality Check)
    There's so many of these threads. The same advice seems to hold true in all cases: don't s**t where you eat.
    what do you mean?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    what do you mean?
    Well, if things go horribly wrong you would still have to see him every day for the foreseeable future.
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    Just do it


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    (Original post by Cyclosporin)
    Well, if things go horribly wrong you would still have to see him every day for the foreseeable future.
    I guess but that doesn't necessarily mean we'll be on bad terms - it'll just be awkward, for a bit

    anyway, I think it's just a physical/sexual desire, so I'm not looking for a long lasting relationship; though, I'm not sure I'd like a one off fling either

    guess I better control my hormones but that might be hard if he continues to be suggestive...
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    (Original post by Reality Check)
    There's so many of these threads. The same advice seems to hold true in all cases: don't s**t where you eat.
    Perhaps I'm the odd one out then, I got with a flatmate during Freshers, and we've been together ever since.

    OP, up to you. TSR won't hold all the answers.
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    (Original post by marina666)
    Just do it


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    think I will

    but like

    I want him now
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    think I will

    but like

    I want him now
    Again, it depends what race are you?.
    If you are of the same race as him maybe there is a bigger chance it will work.
    Of course also it depends on your looks, and how attractive are you.
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    (Original post by Waspee)
    Again, it depends what race are you?.
    If you are of the same race as him maybe there is a bigger chance it will work.
    Of course also it depends on your looks, and how attractive are you.
    I'm not the same race as him but I do get hit on a lot, so I don't think my looks will be a problem.

    I don't know how forward he is with these kind of things (not very, I guess) and I'm shy when it comes to romance, too (I rely on the guy to progress the relationship) so...
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    it's not a good idea. i ended up liking my housemate and we are still friends but barely
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm not the same race as him but I do get hit on a lot, so I don't think my looks will be a problem.

    I don't know how forward he is with these kind of things (not very, I guess) and I'm shy when it comes to romance, too (I rely on the guy to progress the relationship) so...
    What race are you?.
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    He's from malaysia, aren't most malaysians Muslim? If so, it's unlikely he'll sleep with you, but I guess it depends on how religious he is.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    He's from malaysia, aren't most malaysians Muslim? If so, it's unlikely he'll sleep with you, but I guess it depends on how religious he is.
    he's not Muslim
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    (Original post by Airmed)
    Perhaps I'm the odd one out then, I got with a flatmate during Freshers, and we've been together ever since.

    OP, up to you. TSR won't hold all the answers.
    me too... 6 years on...

    however I still wouldn't advise it... I think had anything gone wrong (and OP doesn't actually want a relationship - there's huge potential for feelings to get hurt on either side there) it would have been a horrible atmosphere in the flat and made it tough for flatmates too.
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    proposition him. It's the only way forward.
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    (Original post by doodle_333)
    me too... 6 years on...

    however I still wouldn't advise it... I think had anything gone wrong (and OP doesn't actually want a relationship - there's huge potential for feelings to get hurt on either side there) it would have been a horrible atmosphere in the flat and made it tough for flatmates too.
    Yeah, there is the potential for that to occur.
 
 
 
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