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    It's an odd situation and a long story but I'll explain it as best as I can.

    At Upper School I met this girl in my year. The funny thing though is that we kind of became friends out of nowhere. I knew who she was and I think we had a mutual respect for each other but I remember I just walked past her once and she came up to me and hugged me and then talked to me for a couple of minutes as if we'd been good friends for a while, which was nice, but I found a little odd.

    Anyway, we're both big Doctor Who fans, and sometimes on Facebook she would message me and I would message her about it as well as other things, and we'd have a good conversation. If I were to ask how she was, for example, she would say something like "great thanks! Doing this doing that" and so forth and we'd normally talk with one or two kisses. So one time I messaged her and we talked about what we were doing and she later mentioned how she missed me. I said that I missed her as well, and then she asked me if I wanted to meet up with her and was really enthusiastic and keen about it. I of course agreed and as we talked more about the arrangements, she kept increasing the number of kisses and later I did as well, until the day I went round to hers when we were sending about 10 kisses to each other.

    The visit itself was fine and we got on really well and watched TV together and later went out to walk her dogs and so forth. Then just before I left, she was talking about how she was going to the Doctor Who Experience in Cardiff two months later, and after I jokingly mentioned wanting to come with her, she then literally said that she was going to invite me to come with her anyway and we'd travel down to Cardiff together for a couple of days and go to it. She said she'd message me about it nearer the time.

    She'd posted something on Facebook that she had been upset about a month later so I messaged her about that to see if she was OK. She talked about it briefly and when I mentioned sticking up for her she said "aww love you rob" and I said I loved her back. Then I casually asked about the Doctor Who trip the next month, and she said that she was trying to get it sorted and would let me know more about it nearer the time.

    So the next month came and there was no word from her about it whatsoever, not even to say that it had been cancelled, assuming that were the case. I casually sent her a message asking her how she was (mainly to try and bring it up later), and got no response. I would never hear about the trip again.

    We began to talk less after that, she said less to me in conversations and we sent less kisses (around 2 or 3), but she would still call me things like "hun" and "lovely" and always said that she loved me back whenever I said "love you" to her.

    We didn't really talk much after this and she got two boyfriends within the time, both of which ending badly.

    So we hadn't spoken at all for over a year by now and I was on holiday in Italy, and suddenly out of the blue she sends me a message asking if I'm free the next day, with about 9 kisses. I said that I wasn't because I was away, and she told me it was to help with a present for another friend, whom we both knew and who I'd been close with at one point, but have since drifted apart. She then said "Gutted you can't make it!" and asked me if when we were back, whether I wanted to meet up with her and the friend for lunch. I told her I was busy over Summer (which we were) but said I would see if I could sort something out.

    Unfortunately I never got back to her about it but had decided that I would contact her again, asking to meet up when I'd gone back to uni. But this happened sooner when I was on my Tinder and she just happened to come up. I hit 'Super Like' on her because I'd known her well, and later she matched with me and messaged me. At first it didn't really go anywhere when I asked her how she was and just said she was fine and asked me the same. I mentioned going back to uni and she just said something nice about it and didn't say anything else to develop the conversation. Then I mentioned possibly meeting up with her when I'm back at uni, apologising about Summer, and she said "Yeah sounds good xx". I asked whether she'd prefer to come up to me or I come down to her and she just said "I don't mind xx".

    Things are now getting a little bit confusing. When I got settled at uni I thought it would be a good time to message her. I messaged her asking if she was still interested in meeting up now I'm back at uni, sending 3 kisses, and all she said was "Yeah " and that's it. No kisses, no real enthusiasm, nothing, and she also never brought it up herself since either, and probably won't again if I don't. We've not spoken at all since that message. She also got a new Facebook account and added all her old friends, except she never added me. I eventually added her, and she accepted, but I had to do it myself.

    That was just over a month ago and I never got round to following it through because I wasn't convinced she was that interested, so the message probably looks a bit awkward now. I have no idea if this is something she actually wants to do or not, but if it's not then I'd rather she'd say so or at least give an excuse to not do it.

    So after all that, my question is this: Do you have any idea what could have been going on with her which resulted in this on/off contact over the years, and not acknowledging or following through certain things like the Doctor Who trip? I really don't know if she even likes me or not, or whether now this is all out of sheer politeness? Have I done anything wrong? I know this is all theoretical but I really don't know what to think. Thanks for any suggestions.
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    ^ if you yourself dont know why her behavior is odd then how do you expect us to know? ask your mutual friend whats up with her? maybe she lost interest a man needs to be confident and it seems she was the one making efforts and you acted like you just wanted friendship? i dont know why she acting strange.
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    (Original post by RobertEllis97)
    It's an odd situation and a long story but I'll explain it as best as I can.

    At Upper School I met this girl in my year. The funny thing though is that we kind of became friends out of nowhere. I knew who she was and I think we had a mutual respect for each other but I remember I just walked past her once and she came up to me and hugged me and then talked to me for a couple of minutes as if we'd been good friends for a while, which was nice, but I found a little odd.

    Anyway, we're both big Doctor Who fans, and sometimes on Facebook she would message me and I would message her about it as well as other things, and we'd have a good conversation. If I were to ask how she was, for example, she would say something like "great thanks! Doing this doing that" and so forth and we'd normally talk with one or two kisses. So one time I messaged her and we talked about what we were doing and she later mentioned how she missed me. I said that I missed her as well, and then she asked me if I wanted to meet up with her and was really enthusiastic and keen about it. I of course agreed and as we talked more about the arrangements, she kept increasing the number of kisses and later I did as well, until the day I went round to hers when we were sending about 10 kisses to each other.

    The visit itself was fine and we got on really well and watched TV together and later went out to walk her dogs and so forth. Then just before I left, she was talking about how she was going to the Doctor Who Experience in Cardiff two months later, and after I jokingly mentioned wanting to come with her, she then literally said that she was going to invite me to come with her anyway and we'd travel down to Cardiff together for a couple of days and go to it. She said she'd message me about it nearer the time.

    She'd posted something on Facebook that she had been upset about a month later so I messaged her about that to see if she was OK. She talked about it briefly and when I mentioned sticking up for her she said "aww love you rob" and I said I loved her back. Then I casually asked about the Doctor Who trip the next month, and she said that she was trying to get it sorted and would let me know more about it nearer the time.

    So the next month came and there was no word from her about it whatsoever, not even to say that it had been cancelled, assuming that were the case. I casually sent her a message asking her how she was (mainly to try and bring it up later), and got no response. I would never hear about the trip again.

    We began to talk less after that, she said less to me in conversations and we sent less kisses (around 2 or 3), but she would still call me things like "hun" and "lovely" and always said that she loved me back whenever I said "love you" to her.

    We didn't really talk much after this and she got two boyfriends within the time, both of which ending badly.

    So we hadn't spoken at all for over a year by now and I was on holiday in Italy, and suddenly out of the blue she sends me a message asking if I'm free the next day, with about 9 kisses. I said that I wasn't because I was away, and she told me it was to help with a present for another friend, whom we both knew and who I'd been close with at one point, but have since drifted apart. She then said "Gutted you can't make it!" and asked me if when we were back, whether I wanted to meet up with her and the friend for lunch. I told her I was busy over Summer (which we were) but said I would see if I could sort something out.

    Unfortunately I never got back to her about it but had decided that I would contact her again, asking to meet up when I'd gone back to uni. But this happened sooner when I was on my Tinder and she just happened to come up. I hit 'Super Like' on her because I'd known her well, and later she matched with me and messaged me. At first it didn't really go anywhere when I asked her how she was and just said she was fine and asked me the same. I mentioned going back to uni and she just said something nice about it and didn't say anything else to develop the conversation. Then I mentioned possibly meeting up with her when I'm back at uni, apologising about Summer, and she said "Yeah sounds good xx". I asked whether she'd prefer to come up to me or I come down to her and she just said "I don't mind xx".

    Things are now getting a little bit confusing. When I got settled at uni I thought it would be a good time to message her. I messaged her asking if she was still interested in meeting up now I'm back at uni, sending 3 kisses, and all she said was "Yeah " and that's it. No kisses, no real enthusiasm, nothing, and she also never brought it up herself since either, and probably won't again if I don't. We've not spoken at all since that message. She also got a new Facebook account and added all her old friends, except she never added me. I eventually added her, and she accepted, but I had to do it myself.

    That was just over a month ago and I never got round to following it through because I wasn't convinced she was that interested, so the message probably looks a bit awkward now. I have no idea if this is something she actually wants to do or not, but if it's not then I'd rather she'd say so or at least give an excuse to not do it.

    So after all that, my question is this: Do you have any idea what could have been going on with her which resulted in this on/off contact over the years, and not acknowledging or following through certain things like the Doctor Who trip? I really don't know if she even likes me or not, or whether now this is all out of sheer politeness? Have I done anything wrong? I know this is all theoretical but I really don't know what to think. Thanks for any suggestions.
    Your biggest mistake is that you didn't move fast enough. A year? Come on man, you should've asked her out instead of counting the kiss emoji she was sending you...
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    Kisses mean nothing. You're just being playful by increasing the number of kissing emojis after each text. You should have made a proper move on her, it sounds like she lost interest. Learn from your experience and don't wait too long to make a move next time,
 
 
 
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