Suicide

OP: getting bad grades really sucks, but it happens. Sometimes one bad day/one bad paper can pull you down. Sometimes you just have a bad run of things. It doesn't mean you're stupid or incapable.
Take a deep breath and talk to your teachers. Perhaps they can help you see where you went wrong. I think you can even get papers back. Maybe your revision techniques weren't very good.
My ex failed all his GCSE's. Granted, he didn't do enough work, but he's an intelligent guy. By tackling the problem head-on he came out with all A-grades the next year. All you need to do is make a few changes. AS's aren't the b-all and end all. There is time to make it better. Chin up.

Reply 3

I_am_the_mob

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I'm sorry you are feeling this way (pm me if you want)
I know it doesn't feel this way right now but exams aren't everything and like Laces said, you have next year
There must be a way you can sort this out or look down a new life path, some people succeed in other areas than academically
Before you do something stoopid think of the affect you will have on the people that love you and what a waste of life it would be

Reply 4

anjurdsg

well see i dont mean to be harsh, i was just trying to help :frown:

trust me, whatever the OP is feeling, i've been there. dont think i havent. and it sucks getting out of it.

Reply 5

anjurdsg

well see i dont mean to be harsh, i was just trying to help :frown:

trust me, whatever the OP is feeling, i've been there. dont think i havent. and it sucks getting out of it.

Aye, but your phrasing sucks. :sadnod:

Sometimes 'tough love' can work, but you can't judge the manner in which the OP will take things. That might just upset them more, rather than motivate them/make them realise.

Reply 6

anjurdsg

i've learnt, never to sympathise with suicidal people. it aggravates them. :s-smilie:

it happened to me.

Reply 7

anjurdsg

i've learnt, never to sympathise with suicidal people. it aggravates them. :s-smilie:

it happened to me.

Yeah, but the way YOU reacted isn't necessarily the way THEY will react.

IMO, being hard/harsh is only going to aggravate the situation. At least, it could.

Reply 8

sarCAZm

Don't feel too bad. I cired for two hours over my exam results, but then i thought, "hmm...its not the end of the world"
Please don't get really upset.
And certianly don't even think about suicide. if you could see the aftermath of a suicide on the people around you, who loved you, you wouldn;t even think about it.

Talk to someone, yeah?

Ps. paracetamol overdose is horrific. Very slow, horrificly painfull. And pretty costly, you need to take alot of them, as I hate a whole packet once with no results. But once I had a bad incident with paracetamol plus and spent all night seeing things, coughing up blood, vommiting stomach acid, and going from freezing to boiling every few minutes :frown:

. I think I'm allergic to them...but thats just a drop in the river of the pain of an actual overdose

Reply 9

Damask Ellion

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And another gullable fool (laces) has fallen for the attention trap.
The guy'girl will not commit suicide becuase suicide is an impulse thing and the fact that the person has but there thougths on the internet shows that they are not gonna do it.

Reply 10

InnocentEyes

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anjurdsg

i've learnt, never to sympathise with suicidal people. it aggravates them. :s-smilie:

it happened to me.

That's a bit of a generalisation isn't it? Despite going through the same thing the OP is a totally different person to you, and even if you think someone calling you cowardly and selfish when you were feeling suicidal might have helped, it doesn't mean it's right to do it to them! Especially when you have no idea about their mental state or situation beyond what, a four line post?

OP: call someone. a friend, relative, anyone. don't sit with these thoughts on your own. you don't even have to tell them everything if you don't want to, just say you're down about your results and you need to talk. and re. the paracetamol..trust me just throw them out, please? put them somewhere you can even think about going to retrieve them. besides anything else overdosing on that sort of thing will most likely not kill you, and if it does it'll be drawn out over days and days through major organ failure. you don't deserve that.
about the exams, I know SO many people who messed up in their AS year and turned it around, it may feel like crap now but if you take it into your own hands you'll be fine. can I ask is there anything else making you feel like this? why do you have so little confidence in yourself in the first place that your exam results have been such a disaster for you? anyway I hope things turn out ok, pm me if you want, and definitely reply here so people know you're ok.

Reply 11

Damask Ellion

And another gullable fool (laces) has fallen for the attention trap.
The guy'girl will not commit suicide becuase suicide is an impulse thing and the fact that the person has but there thougths on the internet shows that they are not gonna do it.

How bloody silly you are.

How do you know suicide is an impulsive thing!? There isn't a manual, you know.
Even if it is a troll/attention seeker, I'd rather not risk it.

Oh, and learn how to spell. It's gullible.

Reply 12

krisss

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What I think alot of students dont realise is that exam results are not the be all and end all of everything.
A extremely intelligent person can get straight A's in there exams but once they get into the real world they may lack other important employable skills such as communication leading them to get no where. Even with poor grades if you have the mental motivation you can make something of your self. Its just a case of staying positive and working your way forward.

Reply 13

I_am_the_mob

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And another gullable fool (laces) has fallen for the attention trap.
The guy'girl will not commit suicide becuase suicide is an impulse thing and the fact that the person has but there thougths on the internet shows that they are not gonna do it.

Ok, that is just rubbish
It may be that way for some people but a sign of depression is suicidal thoughts and planning how to kill yourself so that doesn't seem very impulsive to me

Reply 14

Damask Ellion

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Laces

How bloody silly you are.

How do you know suicide is an impulsive thing!? There isn't a manual, you know.
Even if it is a troll/attention seeker, I'd rather not risk it.

Oh, and learn how to spell. It's gullible.

Hey i'm dyslexic! Anyway when people go to commit suicide they don't ask for help, because they know that they will be talked out if it. It seems that this person is overeacting and looking for some attention that we are all giving them. If the person is really having suicidal then they should talk about it to their family or a professional not some randoms on the internet.

Reply 15

sarCAZm

Damask Ellion

And another gullable fool (laces) has fallen for the attention trap.
the fact that the person has but there thougths on the internet shows that they are not gonna do it.

Poeple call the samaritains all the time, then kill themsleves.
My uncle rang his sister, and then killed himself.

just because someone wants to talk about it, doesnt mean they won't do it. I was talking to a guy who mans some samaritains phones, who spent 2 hours talking to a woman who had taken her overdose, just ebacsue she wanted someone to chat with whilst she slowly died. Attention seeking? I think not. She died.
dumbass.

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Well, in the case of the spelling, I apologise.

Maybe they don't have anybody to talk to? Maybe they're a shy person? Maybe they're desperate. And just because this person feels suicidal does not mean they want to be. They probably want to be talked out of it.

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Damask Ellion

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I_am_the_mob

Ok, that is just rubbish
It may be that way for some people but a sign of depression is suicidal thoughts and planning how to kill yourself so that doesn't seem very impulsive to me

Yes you can have thoughts but the actual killing yourself is impulsive. It's a surge of adrenaline that makes you jump or shoot.

Reply 18

Laus

Anon, please don't do anything stupid. Think about yourself and the effect killing yourself will have on your family and friends. As many have pointed out already, A level results are not the be all and end all. I know plenty of people who worked really hard throughout year 12 and didn't come out with the grades they wanted/probably deserved. Sure, they felt down but they soon realised that something could be done about it. Most of them took re-sits in January and June and they all came out with good grades. I think the transition from GCSE to A levels is really hard and it often takes time to figure out what the examiners are looking for. It's as much about technique as it is about intelligence. You should definitely talk to your teachers about this. They would be more than happy to help. You've certainly got the motivation to do well - I mean, you've worked really hard all year. Some people don't have that sort of drive. You'll be fine. Many people are in the same situation as you but there is a way forward.

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