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    Anxiety is killing me right now. I have so many insecurities and it's affecting me so much to a point where I'm considering my life. I have no idea what to do.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anxiety is killing me right now. I have so many insecurities and it's affecting me so much to a point where I'm considering my life. I have no idea what to do.
    I totally understand. Obviously I don't know exactly what it is that your feeling and what is causing you to feel this way.
    But I am having the worst time as a first year. The only way to describe it, is as if I'm actually drowning and struggling to keep myself above water.
    I'm finding the work extremely difficult in terms of understanding, and I'm extremely worried that I am not going to be able to do it, despite how determined I am.
    I can't sleep or eat, I feel sick when it come to uni, and even worse... the presentations that we have to do.

    Can I ask, what is it that you feel is bringing you down in particular ?
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    See your doctor and a therapist to help you understand the nature of your anxiety/insecurity and how you can best cope with it.
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    It's the fact that I know I suffer from some sort of smelly disease where it doesn't matter I'm doing, people pick up on it. People will cough, people cover their noses - all in all, I can tell that I do indeed, suffer from this. I've suffered from this for so long and now that I'm at uni, it's becoming so hard to live life and enjoy it. I have surprisingly, made a few friends but at the same time, I notice it on their faces too! I don't know what I can do, it's embarrassing enough just talking about it here but it's got to a point where I just have to come out and face reality. I'm trying to pick up the courage and see a doctor about it but I don't know what they can do to help.
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    This forum is anonymous, so you're safe from direct criticism. You're right, facing the issue will help you to change your handling of it. What is your condition? Are you the only one that suffers with it? There could be lots of help out there, but without you confronting it, embarrassment and shame will dominate.
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    (Original post by All in the mind)
    This forum is anonymous, so you're safe from direct criticism. You're right, facing the issue will help you to change your handling of it. What is your condition? Are you the only one that suffers with it? There could be lots of help out there, but without you confronting it, embarrassment and shame will dominate.
    I believe it's some sort of body odor problem where no matter what I do, I have some smell attachted to me. I heard about some disease called TMAU and I'm almost certain that I've got this. It's very embarrassing and it's destroyed any confidence I had left. It seems the more and more anxious I get around others, the more noticeable it is - I think anyway! My family doesn't notice it, but others. This is the first time I've opened up about this because I want a change. I need help or something.
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    I believe it's something called TMAU but I haven't been diagnosed with it or anything, I just seem to have all the symptoms. It also doesn't look promising in terms of a cure so I'm short of options, bar "that" one... I have done a bit of research and it seems like there are people who suffer from this as well, however I don't know anyone personally. I honestly just want my life back as it's killing me.
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    See your doctor to have it diagnosed and explain how it is affecting your life. You can then discuss any lifestyle changes (if you haven't dealt with these already), possibly be referred to a specialist, a dietician and be given therapy to help strengthen your self esteem. You'll also find online support in TMAU forums - I expect you have explored these already. This condition is managed, that's different to being cured, but advances are constantly being made.

    There are ways to cope with any medical condition; self acceptance is essential for others to begin to accept you. When your peers know that you have this, the "shock" moment will eventually die down and you can get on with your life. Yes, there will be the usual "pranksters" who take longer to appreciate that you have a medical condition.

    This is your life by the way, hard though it may seem that something has been taken away from you. Others with the condition have friends, relationships, children, careers, social lives, the works! It takes you to place these above your condition.
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    (Original post by Anonymous7777)
    I believe it's something called TMAU but I haven't been diagnosed with it or anything, I just seem to have all the symptoms. It also doesn't look promising in terms of a cure so I'm short of options, bar "that" one... I have done a bit of research and it seems like there are people who suffer from this as well, however I don't know anyone personally. I honestly just want my life back as it's killing me.

    Step 1:

    Avoid self-diagnosis and see a health professional asap. The longer you wait the more it will affect you. There is no way around this.

    Step 2:

    Change your attitude towards work. If you are struggling ask for advice from upperclassmen, your lecturers or peers. (Maybe even family )

    Step 3

    Join a society(even if it is just one) which you enjoy, that forces you to be social. e.g Debate/ Football/Choir etc

    Step 4

    Get it straight and clear in your head where you want to be after uni.

    -What is your degree going to help you with ?

    -Why are you doing it ?

    -What do you think you need to be in life ? -

    This helps you massively in finding the courage to push yourself every day. Its pretty difficult to see your destination and drive to it, if you don't have one.

    Step 5

    Work as hard as you need to to get the grades you need for the 1st or 2.1. Doesn't matter how hard your friends are working, do what you need to do.

    Step 6

    Relax fully, and I mean FULLY give yourself at least 30 minutes of downtime every day when you do something which takes your mind fully off work( gym/reading/drawing/ meditate, whatever it is you do which you like).


    Finally
    You say you want your old life back. It will never come back, because of what you are experiencing now, you will be a different person. But you can choose whether you live a better life than the last, there is literally no choice now, you have to go up.


    Good luck OP !
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    (Original post by Teddy1702)
    I totally understand. Obviously I don't know exactly what it is that your feeling and what is causing you to feel this way.
    But I am having the worst time as a first year. The only way to describe it, is as if I'm actually drowning and struggling to keep myself above water.
    I'm finding the work extremely difficult in terms of understanding, and I'm extremely worried that I am not going to be able to do it, despite how determined I am.
    I can't sleep or eat, I feel sick when it come to uni, and even worse... the presentations that we have to do.

    Can I ask, what is it that you feel is bringing you down in particular ?
    Its like you took the words right out of my mouth. I feel exactly the same. I already am drowning in work, struggling to keep on top of everything, have assignments to give in and the course is extremely difficult. I also have a presentation next week (I suffer from social anxiety) and I know how much of a disaster it's going to be already I am tossing and turning in bed each night and I've lost a ton of weigh since the start of uni. I'm so close to dropping out but I also don't want to drop out because I'm already a few years behind than my peers and I can't delay putting behind uni just because of my social anxiety. I'm looking for alternatives but can't find anything.

    Sorry for the rant. Just had to get it off my chest.
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    Thanks for the advice All in the Mind and Chief! I will definitely go and see a doctor as I clearly need help, just praying and hoping it's something that can be dealt with as this has been a huge barrier which has stopped me from being who I want to be. I'm trying to find the courage to talk about it with my friends and family, see if they can help somehow but I'm not sure how to tell them. One of my friends knows about my anxiety but I haven't yet told him the cause of it. Should I tell him why? For some reason though, people seem to not notice it (I think) when I'm drunk.. not sure why though! I feel as though maybe when I'm drunk, I'm more confident and not as stressed and anxious what others think which could be the cause? I really don't know!
 
 
 
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