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    Okay so my crush's friend is into me and yesterday he sat next to me for like 5 hours talking. Got my snapchat and have already started sending me videos etc trying to talk. I'm NOT into him but he's a good guy and don't want to be a ***** to him. The maxium I can go with him is a friend. How do I make sure he KNOWS I'm not interested? Like its getting serious now..he's been messaging me and sending me videos the whole day today. I haven't replied to the last message yet. Plus, he asked me to go watch a movie with him and to eat etc...what do I do?
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    Tell him you see him as a friend. Period
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    You have to make it somewhat explicit or they assume they have a chance.

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    Yes PLEASE just tell him upfront. Or at least drop very strong hints of just wanting to be friends. Don't leave him hoping, that's the worst.

    source: my life
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    (Original post by Retired_Messiah)
    You have to make it somewhat explicit or they assume they have a chance.

    source: am guy
    Why? )
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Tell him you see him as a friend. Period
    (Original post by Retired_Messiah)
    You have to make it somewhat explicit or they assume they have a chance.

    source: am guy
    (Original post by GUMI)
    Yes PLEASE just tell him upfront. Or at least drop very strong hints of just wanting to be friends. Don't leave him hoping, that's the worst.

    source: my life
    Thanks for replying, guys. He hasn't officially told me he likes me but all the signs says so. And even my friend said that to me. Anyhow, I've been replying really late to his messages so he should get the hint. At the end of the convo yesterday, I seem VERY disinterested in talking to him and I hope he saw that through my facial expressions.

    If he doesn't take the hint, how else can I make it obvious before he asks or say something? Because he's been on my course for wanting to go out together and I'm just like
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    Just be honest if he doesn't back off. I mean, there's no other option if he isn't getting the hint. Plus you'll be doing him a favour and yourself as nobody's time will be wasted anymore.
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    Talk to him about your crush without telling him who your crush is, ask him for advice. That way he's gonna know you're not interested in him
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    (Original post by Lord Samosa)
    Just be honest if he doesn't back off. I mean, there's no other option if he isn't getting the hint. Plus you'll be doing him a favour and yourself as nobody's time will be wasted anymore.
    Well, if he says something, I'll tell him straight away. But its just that say if I do go out with him as a friend, he'll think I'm interested when i'm not

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    Talk to him about your crush without telling him who your crush is, ask him for advice. That way he's gonna know you're not interested in him
    THIS! This is a GREAT advice! Gunna do this!!! Thank youuuu!!
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    (Original post by Rhaenys10)
    Why? )
    If you're talking to a girl you like and have no reason to assume that she'll outright reject you, you're likely going to keep talking to her with romantic intent. The assumption is either "maybe she likes me" or "maybe I can get her to like me more once we talk some more and my winning personality comes out". If the girl doesn't give you a reason to think otherwise you can continue this line of thought for quite some time.

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    Next time he says/does something nice to you, say something like "Awwww, you're like a brother to me!"
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    (Original post by jessyjellytot14)
    Next time he says/does something nice to you, say something like "Awwww, you're like a brother to me!"
    Hahahaha omg that's so cruel. But I may have to use it
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    (Original post by Angry Bird)
    Talk to him about your crush without telling him who your crush is, ask him for advice
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    THIS! This is a GREAT advice! Gunna do this!!! Thank youuuu!!
    Terrible advice, don't do this!:

    1) He could mistake it for a hint that you like him

    2) He could take an unhealthy interest in your crush/seek to sabotage things

    3) If he senses that you know he likes you it could make you look like a massive/insensitive *****!

    Life 101: Always play it straight
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    (Original post by BrokenLife)
    Well, if he says something, I'll tell him straight away. But its just that say if I do go out with him as a friend, he'll think I'm interested when i'm not


    THIS! This is a GREAT advice! Gunna do this!!! Thank youuuu!!
    You're welcome

    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Terrible advice, don't do this!:

    1) He could mistake it for a hint that you like him

    2) He could take an unhealthy interest in your crush/seek to sabotage things

    3) If he senses that you know he likes you it could make you look like a massive/insensitive *****!

    Life 101: Always play it straight
    he won't sabotage anything because she isn't really going to take his advice.
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Terrible advice, don't do this!:

    1) He could mistake it for a hint that you like him

    2) He could take an unhealthy interest in your crush/seek to sabotage things

    3) If he senses that you know he likes you it could make you look like a massive/insensitive *****!

    Life 101: Always play it straight
    (Original post by Angry Bird)
    You're welcome



    he won't sabotage anything because she isn't really going to take his advice.
    Haha okay, so fully confused rn. But if he days something, I'll be straight.

    Anyhow, how do I make sure that a guy KNOWS I'm not into him and he's not into me either? This is about some other guy who my friend likes and he thinks I like him. I don't even know why I'm just a polite person and people think I'm flirting. FML.
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    (Original post by Angry Bird)
    he won't sabotage anything because she isn't really going to take his advice
    1) Their mutual friend is the OP's actual crush. He could easily sabotage things directly. Please pay attention

    2) When your advice is found seriously wanting, rather than argue, it's as well to note the correction, save the OP messing up their lives due to your apparent lack of humility

    (Original post by BrokenLife)
    if he days something, I'll be straight
    Good call hombre

    how do I make sure that a guy KNOWS I'm not into him
    Give him every indication he's in the friendzone, and nip any inappropriate behaviour in the bud/be sure to tell him if you're not comfortable with anything

    I don't even know why I'm just a polite person and people think I'm flirting. FML
    Virtually every halfway decent looking, well raised girl I've ever known has had awkward moments like this, so you're not alone. Always be firm but fair
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    U thought about mentioning your cursh, but if he doesnt like the rejection he could go the opposite way and get destructive. You might be left with no other choice but to let him know upfront, thanks but no thanks. Try cooling it first. I hate the hope he gets the hint approach though.
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    1) Their mutual friend is the OP's actual crush. He could easily sabotage things directly. Please pay attention
    Read my post again. I said she should tell him about a guy she's crushing on without telling him who the crush is.
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    1) Their mutual friend is the OP's actual crush. He could easily sabotage things directly. Please pay attention

    2) When your advice is found seriously wanting, rather than argue, it's as well to note the correction, save the OP messing up their lives due to your apparent lack of humility

    Good call hombre

    Give him every indication he's in the friendzone, and nip any inappropriate behaviour in the bud/be sure to tell him if you're not comfortable with anything

    Virtually every halfway decent looking, well raised girl I've ever known has had awkward moments like this, so you're not alone. Always be firm but fair
    Foo, remember back in the days when I used to have a crush on you, I used to read your sentences twice to make sense of it And its the same case now Think I haven't grown up

    Its annoying that he think I'm into him cos I'm NOT and he acts all cool as if every girl is into him

    Omg you don't know, most of the time these guys who think I'm into them are the guys I ONLY see as friends or brothers.
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    (Original post by Angry Bird)
    Read my post again. I said she should tell him about a guy she's crushing on without telling him who the crush is.
    I know what you said thanks; points stand. I'm afraid your advice is poor, and if you gave a **** about owt besides your own delicate ego you'd have the good sense and decency to retract it :yy:

    (Original post by BrokenLife)
    I used to read your sentences twice to make sense of it And its the same case now Think I haven't grown up
    You wouldn't be the first, and won't be the last, dw, I'm a difficult ******* at the best of times

    he acts all cool as if every girl is into him
    Haha, what a chumpsky. That's his problem, mind you

    Omg you don't know, most of the time these guys who think I'm into them are the guys I ONLY see as friends or brothers
    The curse of being attractive and frequently in the company of entitled douches :rolleyes:
 
 
 
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