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    Do you think that a person is abnormal or has 'something wrong with them' if they have a very low sex drive and they don't like intercourse? I've been to a professional about it but they only ever tell me that I'm normal and that there's nothing wrong with me. The man I've been seeing tells me that not having sexual feelings is not natural or normal and that the professional was only telling I was normal because they have to say this to make me feel better. I feel like I can't trust anyone in what they say really. My bf is not very open minded and the councillor I saw is hardly going to tell me that there's something wrong with me. Funnily enough I do remember my grandma telling me that she didn't like sex, that men are 'dirty' and her asking me if there's something wrong with her that she didn't like it lol. Btw I don't think men are dirty I see that sex is natural but I'm just pointing out that maybe I've inherited the lack of sex drive from her.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Do you think that a person is abnormal or has 'something wrong with them' if they have a very low sex drive and they don't like intercourse? I've been to a professional about it but they only ever tell me that I'm normal and that there's nothing wrong with me. The man I've been seeing tells me that not having sexual feelings is not natural or normal and that the professional was only telling I was normal because they have to say this to make me feel better. I feel like I can't trust anyone in what they say really. My bf is not very open minded and the councillor I saw is hardly going to tell me that there's something wrong with me. Funnily enough I do remember my grandma telling me that she didn't like sex, that men are 'dirty' and her asking me if there's something wrong with her that she didn't like it lol. Btw I don't think men are dirty I see that sex is natural but I'm just pointing out that maybe I've inherited the lack of sex drive from her.
    Not everyone has to love sex. Of course others may argue against this.
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    Do you think that a person is abnormal or has 'something wrong with them' if they have a very low sex drive and they don't like intercourse? I've been to a professional about it but they only ever tell me that I'm normal and that there's nothing wrong with me. The man I've been seeing tells me that not having sexual feelings is not natural or normal and that the professional was only telling I was normal because they have to say this to make me feel better. I feel like I can't trust anyone in what they say really. My bf is not very open minded and the councillor I saw is hardly going to tell me that there's something wrong with me. Funnily enough I do remember my grandma telling me that she didn't like sex, that men are 'dirty' and her asking me if there's something wrong with her that she didn't like it lol. Btw I don't think men are dirty I see that sex is natural but I'm just pointing out that maybe I've inherited the lack of sex drive from her.
    I personally think its not abnormal
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    I don't know the science behind it, it could be a lack of a certain hormone maybe, but the guy you're with is being a **** if he says it's not normal. Trust the professional I'd say
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    (Original post by Illimitable)
    Not everyone has to love sex. Of course others may argue against this.
    I can get aroused on my own just not by sex or the thought of it. Ive thought that maybe there are a select few in the gene pool who serve to keep extreme overpopulation (which can be hazardous to the species) from occurring. I've made this up lol.
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    You're fine, everyone has different sex drives. What's right for one person isn't right for another.
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    (Original post by ions)
    I don't know the science behind it, it could be a lack of a certain hormone maybe, but the guy you're with is being a **** if he says it's not normal. Trust the professional I'd say
    I've had a blood test my hormones were normal
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've had a blood test my hormones were normal
    Then there's nothing wrong
    Sounds like this guy is trying to make you doubt yourself or think there's something wrong with you when there isn't!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I can get aroused on my own just not by sex or the thought of it. Ive thought that maybe there are a select few in the gene pool who serve to keep extreme overpopulation (which can be hazardous to the species) from occurring. I've made this up lol.
    Lol. Don't be too worried about it though, ignore the hate comments.
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    There is nothing abnormal....i am personally asexual and people do exist
    You should listen to professionals rather than those with high sex drive :yy:
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    Obviously
    The person should consult a sexologist
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    I've had sex with loads of women and none of them enjoyed it.
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    I've had sex with loads of women and none of them enjoyed it.
    Probably says something about you

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    (Original post by JRKinder)
    You're fine, everyone has different sex drives. What's right for one person isn't right for another.
    This really. There's nothing abnormal about not having a massive sex drive. That said, if your partner does have a large sex drive and makes you feel bad for not wanting sex very much then I can imagine it causing issues.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Do you think that a person is abnormal or has 'something wrong with them' if they have a very low sex drive and they don't like intercourse? I've been to a professional about it but they only ever tell me that I'm normal and that there's nothing wrong with me. The man I've been seeing tells me that not having sexual feelings is not natural or normal and that the professional was only telling I was normal because they have to say this to make me feel better. I feel like I can't trust anyone in what they say really. My bf is not very open minded and the councillor I saw is hardly going to tell me that there's something wrong with me. Funnily enough I do remember my grandma telling me that she didn't like sex, that men are 'dirty' and her asking me if there's something wrong with her that she didn't like it lol. Btw I don't think men are dirty I see that sex is natural but I'm just pointing out that maybe I've inherited the lack of sex drive from her.
    its not necessarily 'abnormal', but just different. Theres nothing wrong with being asexual sincce for you your not that sexual
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    Everyone's sex drive is different and it isn't a problem. You do need to find someone you are sexually compatible with though. If you rarely want to have sex and he wants it all the time, it just isn't going to work.
 
 
 
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