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So I started chatting to 2 girls via online dating.They both seemed nice. Girl 1 I started talking to back in June, but she went on holiday travelling around Asia, and didn't come back till September. So I lost interest and I started talking to someone else, lets call her Girl 2. Girl 2 was too busy with work to meet up, and while waiting for her not to be busy Girl 1 came back and contacted me.
So recently I met up with Girl 1 for the first time. Date went well, nice, funny girl. Our personalities are a little bit different so I'm not 100% sure on compatibility yet, but I'd like to give it a go(opposites attract right?!), also found her quite attractive.
Then Girl 2 got in contact wanting to meet for the first time. Personality wise she was very nice, we got along well and I can tell that our personalities are compatible. However she looked a bit different from her photo. I really hate to sound shallow but she didn't make much effort with her appearance, no make up at all, plain clothes, I wasn't attracted straight away. I make an effort with my appearance by styling my hair and trying to wear something somewhat fashionable, all I ask for is the same effort in return, am I being unreasonable? If she made a bit of an effort in her appearance like in her photos(which were from a wedding), just a bit of foundation and a bit of eye liner or something basic like that I would find her attractive like I found her photos attractive. It's a shame because we got along quite well, but I just wasn't physically attracted and I don't want to lead her on if my feelings won't change.
Anyways, I am going to be seeing Girl 1 again this week, if it goes really well, then I will contact Girl 2 and tell her I don't wanna lead her on, I'm not sure there's chemistry, and maybe we can stay friends.
However, I'm thinking - am I being a bit harsh, does Girl 2 at the very least deserve a second date before I come to that conclusion? In the second date she might make more of an effort and I may end up finding her attractive(maybe even more than girl 1). Girl 2 has been making an effort(more than girl 1) to contact me via txt, so she is obviously keen, this makes me feel bad for not giving her at least a 2nd date before deciding...
By the way, it's not like I'm cheating on them because I'm not together with either of them yet I've literally only had 1 date with each. Once I know who I want to pursue a relationship with I will obviously contact the other one and say it isn't working out.
But what should I do, give each 1 more date and then decide?
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Dating dilemma - 2 girls watch
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- 31-10-2016 16:44
Kvothe the Arcane
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- 31-10-2016 17:40
1 date is nothing. You've not had "the talk" yet. You aren't cheating.
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- 31-10-2016 17:45
Until you are exclusive then you are free to date. Go with your gut. Yeah you seem a bit shallow imo, but go with it.