Help! I'm having a small crisis, whereby I'm at university along with a girl from my college, who I didn't click with from the minute I met her. She has good intentions, but as soon as she found out we were off to the same uni back in March, she decided we were living together in 2nd year. Thinking she'd make pals more similar to herself, I brushed her comments aside, but a few weeks into the course, she hit me with the "do you want to start looking on Rightmove?" bombshell. She also wants to live with her boyfriend, so I would be permanently third wheeling. I was speechless, and with no other living arrangements myself (its still early days!), I eased her into the idea that I ~might~ be up for that. (I'm a grade A wimp and people pleaser, I had no idea what else to say.)
Here we are a few weeks down the line, and I've made the best bunch of friends ever. We're all on the same course and have similar views and personalities - and they're starting to discuss us all living together, which I would LOVE! - whereas with the girl from my college, I feel as though I have to mimic her personality (she's very sharp and stubborn). This adds to the fact that I know she will react badly when I tell her the bad news, and I have absolutely no idea how to approach this.
Any advice would be so greatly appreciated! Thank you!
Turn on thread page Beta
How do you tell someone you don't want to live with them in 2nd year? watch
- Thread Starter
- 31-10-2016 20:46
Kvothe the Arcane
Offline20ReputationRep:Community AssistantVery Important Poster
- Community Assistant
- Very Important Poster
- 31-10-2016 23:41
Just be honest and explain you have others you'd rather live with.
She'll be disappointed but will get over it. Much better to do this than lead her on. The sooner you do it, the sooner she'll branch out.