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    Hi.

    I just wanted some takes on this in order to see if i'm overeacting or not.

    I live in Scotland. My Mother and little brother (age 20) lives in London. A few weeks ago, my big brother (age 29) moved back in with them.

    A few days ago, my big brother started argued with my Mum and little brother. He then pushed my little brother, at which point he pushed back.

    My little brother then threatened to call the police and move out. My mum called me to calm down the situation. I talked to the lil bro and told him not to be a tit - he said he won't call he police, but he'll move out if big bro was still there on the 7th of Nov.

    I would much rather lil bro stay than big bro. Big bro has a history of verbal and physical abuse - i was abused by him as a kid, and Mum had been shoved a few times. Granted, i've not spoken to him for 10 years, but it's still something i remember.

    So i called big bro and said i'd like him to leave, and that i'd support him financially till he gets a job. He said no. I said that if he assaults anyone again, i'd call the police and convince Mum to throw him out of the house. He then said it was just a small domestic dispute and that it wasn't assault. I tell him that he's almost 30 and that he can't keep doing **** like this.

    After a while, my big sis calls me and told that i shouldn't have gotten involved and told big bro to leave the house.

    Was what i did wrong? Granted, i'm biased against him, but is it not still assault? What if it escalates?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi.

    I just wanted some takes on this in order to see if i'm overeacting or not.

    I live in Scotland. My Mother and little brother (age 20) lives in London. A few weeks ago, my big brother (age 29) moved back in with them.

    A few days ago, my big brother started argued with my Mum and little brother. He then pushed my little brother, at which point he pushed back.

    My little brother then threatened to call the police and move out. My mum called me to calm down the situation. I talked to the lil bro and told him not to be a tit - he said he won't call he police, but he'll move out if big bro was still there on the 7th of Nov.

    I would much rather lil bro stay than big bro. Big bro has a history of verbal and physical abuse - i was abused by him as a kid, and Mum had been shoved a few times. Granted, i've not spoken to him for 10 years, but it's still something i remember.

    So i called big bro and said i'd like him to leave, and that i'd support him financially till he gets a job. He said no. I said that if he assaults anyone again, i'd call the police and convince Mum to throw him out of the house. He then said it was just a small domestic dispute and that it wasn't assault. I tell him that he's almost 30 and that he can't keep doing **** like this.

    After a while, my big sis calls me and told that i shouldn't have gotten involved and told big bro to leave the house.

    Was what i did wrong? Granted, i'm biased against him, but is it not still assault? What if it escalates?
    Honestly, I think I'd have done the same thing. He's more than old enough to know not to treat people like that, especially his own family. Keep in touch with your little brother and your mum and make sure they remember that he can't get away with that kind of behaviour, and if you little brother wants to take it further then I'd support him
 
 
 
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