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    Met my friend at University on freshers week. She said she was studying Accountancy. We would regularly meet up at the University canteen and I would wait for her outside the University lecture hall she said she was in. After three years she said she had graduated but did not go to her Graduation. I then started a Masters in Social Work. She too started a MBA in Accountancy and we continued to meet at Uni. I did think something was a little odd as she met a guy, got married, was in Pakistan for a year and had a child all while supposedly completely an undergrad degree and Masters. But she told me she completed all her Uni work long distance. I thought well they must have allowed her to do that then, and in my undergrad I never went to lectures so I dismiss my doubts.

    She then went onto income support. I have since been applying for jobs as a Social Worker and had two interviews so far. Things are looking good. I told her to apply for account jobs as it's pretty rubbish being on income support. I met her parents last week and asked them how they were. They said they wish she would go to University as she has no qualifications. I looked blankly at them. I said has she not been to University.

    They said no, she has never even applied for University. When I explained I had met her on Freshers week they told me she had been at Uni that day for an Open Day to see if she wanted to go there but had never applied for University.

    She has been on income support since 2 years after meeting me. She is now on jobseekers allowance.

    All those days outside the lecture theatre, all those meals in the canteen. She had just turned up to meet me to make it look like she was studying there. She doesn't have any kind of degree and certainly not one in Accountancy. I spoke to my friend who is a (genuine) accountant and he said they don't do Masters in Accountancy so she hadn't done any proper research. He said she probably chose Accountancy as people never ask further questions about Accountancy as people find it a boring job.

    She has since admitted that she made it all up.

    Could/would you stay friends after this? I don't think she has lied about much else.
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    (Original post by Mezza362)
    Met my friend at University on freshers week. She said she was studying Accountancy. We would regularly meet up at the University canteen and I would wait for her outside the University lecture hall she said she was in. After three years she said she had graduated but did not go to her Graduation. I then started a Masters in Social Work. She too started a MBA in Accountancy and we continued to meet at Uni. I did think something was a little odd as she met a guy, got married, was in Pakistan for a year and had a child all while supposedly completely an undergrad degree and Masters. But she told me she completed all her Uni work long distance. I thought well they must have allowed her to do that then, and in my undergrad I never went to lectures so I dismiss my doubts.

    She then went onto income support. I have since been applying for jobs as a Social Worker and had two interviews so far. Things are looking good. I told her to apply for account jobs as it's pretty rubbish being on income support. I met her parents last week and asked them how they were. They said they wish she would go to University as she has no qualifications. I looked blankly at them. I said has she not been to University.

    They said no, she has never even applied for University. When I explained I had met her on Freshers week they told me she had been at Uni that day for an Open Day to see if she wanted to go there but had never applied for University.

    She has been on income support since 2 years after meeting me. She is now on jobseekers allowance.

    All those days outside the lecture theatre, all those meals in the canteen. She had just turned up to meet me to make it look like she was studying there. She doesn't have any kind of degree and certainly not one in Accountancy. I spoke to my friend who is a (genuine) accountant and he said they don't do Masters in Accountancy so she hadn't done any proper research. He said she probably chose Accountancy as people never ask further questions about Accountancy as people find it a boring job.

    She has since admitted that she made it all up.

    Could/would you stay friends after this? I don't think she has lied about much else.
    Did you ask her what's the point of lying? Or what didn't you get qualifications and apply to university?
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    Goodness me… that's tough. Looks like she didn't want you to know she wasn't studying anything and a small, elaborate lie has turned into this… it's a rather sizeable lie now. I don't know, to be honest. I really don't.
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    She said when she met her Husband (they split months after marrying) he became everything and she didn't bother to apply. She then said when she became a single Mum she didn't have the motivation to apply as she found it hard with her Daughter.

    She lied as she wanted to make a friend desperately, and wanted to fit it. She thought I might not want to be friends with someone who didn't have qualifications.
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    (Original post by Mezza362)
    She said when she met her Husband (they split months after marrying) he became everything and she didn't bother to apply. She then said when she became a single Mum she didn't have the motivation to apply as she found it hard with her Daughter.

    She lied as she wanted to make a friend desperately, and wanted to fit it. She thought I might not want to be friends with someone who didn't have qualifications.
    Which is quite sad and desperate in a way. I'd be a little insulted that she thought I wouldn't be friends with someone that didn't have qualifications and I'd be quite hurt at her lying for so long. I really don't know how I'd handle this to be honest OP. How have you taken it so far?
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    I am cringing for her more than anything else. Just feel really sorry for her. But I don't know if I can stay friends more for her sake than anything. We would both have an awkwardness now.
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    (Original post by Mezza362)
    Met my friend at University on freshers week. She said she was studying Accountancy. We would regularly meet up at the University canteen and I would wait for her outside the University lecture hall she said she was in. After three years she said she had graduated but did not go to her Graduation. I then started a Masters in Social Work. She too started a MBA in Accountancy and we continued to meet at Uni. I did think something was a little odd as she met a guy, got married, was in Pakistan for a year and had a child all while supposedly completely an undergrad degree and Masters. But she told me she completed all her Uni work long distance. I thought well they must have allowed her to do that then, and in my undergrad I never went to lectures so I dismiss my doubts.

    She then went onto income support. I have since been applying for jobs as a Social Worker and had two interviews so far. Things are looking good. I told her to apply for account jobs as it's pretty rubbish being on income support. I met her parents last week and asked them how they were. They said they wish she would go to University as she has no qualifications. I looked blankly at them. I said has she not been to University.

    They said no, she has never even applied for University. When I explained I had met her on Freshers week they told me she had been at Uni that day for an Open Day to see if she wanted to go there but had never applied for University.

    She has been on income support since 2 years after meeting me. She is now on jobseekers allowance.

    All those days outside the lecture theatre, all those meals in the canteen. She had just turned up to meet me to make it look like she was studying there. She doesn't have any kind of degree and certainly not one in Accountancy. I spoke to my friend who is a (genuine) accountant and he said they don't do Masters in Accountancy so she hadn't done any proper research. He said she probably chose Accountancy as people never ask further questions about Accountancy as people find it a boring job.

    She has since admitted that she made it all up.

    Could/would you stay friends after this? I don't think she has lied about much else.
    Put a poll up. I would find it a bit bizarre, but I would talk to them and find out why. If as a result of the talk I found her to be untrustworthy, then i'd have doubts as to whether to carry it on.

    Has she given you cause to doubt her friendship for other reasons? If I found out it was just embarrassment/fear and wanting to keep on with a friendhsip so she decided she needed to provide a cover, then I'd probably be ok as long as she promised to be truthful from then on. Its a judgement call on whether she is still friend material putting aside the charade for a moment.

    If she was lost, then I would support and guide her to make the most of herself and find soemthing she wanted to do. We all start somewhere. Its like those men in japan who get made redundant and pretend to go to work every day because they cnat face up to the shame and fear of telling their family.
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    I've created a poll. It's really hard. There are other issues too. She constantly puts me down in a subtle way. If someone tells me I'm pretty she will make a backhanded compliment afterwards. She does seem jealous of me and very, very lacking in self esteem.

    She has always said she has a boyfriend she met at University. I now know they met online and have never even met.
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    This made me laugh so much. If your friend had lied about being a fighter pilot, or lead trauma surgeon for Médcins sans Frontières, or work for the UN/WHO then I might get it. But lying about being an Accountant: :rofl: why in earth would she do that!!!
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    I think she lied about being an accountant because she knew we would not question her further. If she said she was a Doctor that would be so easily found out when it was clear she had no medical knowledge. Also, my boyfriend was a surgeon at the time I knew her (we've split up now) so she could never pull that off.
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    (Original post by Mezza362)
    I think she lied about being an accountant because she knew we would not question her further. If she said she was a Doctor that would be so easily found out when it was clear she had no medical knowledge. Also, my boyfriend was a surgeon at the time I knew her (we've split up now) so she could never pull that off.
    You dumped a surgeon? Damn there goes my hypergamy theories.
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    (Original post by Mezza362)
    I've created a poll. It's really hard. There are other issues too. She constantly puts me down in a subtle way. If someone tells me I'm pretty she will make a backhanded compliment afterwards. She does seem jealous of me and very, very lacking in self esteem.

    She has always said she has a boyfriend she met at University. I now know they met online and have never even met.
    For me its not about what qualifications, but whether they cna actually be a friend.

    That starts with being trustworthy and reliable.

    Ps was a very entertaining OP
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    I know its not the main point but you can do a masters in accounting, my ex did and was then exempt from some of the professional exams they have to do when training
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    You dumped a surgeon? Damn there goes my hypergamy theories.
    I've dumped 3 doctors in my life :-)

    Most recently a Consultant neurosurgeon.
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    (Original post by Mezza362)
    I've dumped 3 doctors in my life :-)

    Most recently a Consultant neurosurgeon.
    You like to date old men , cool
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    (Original post by aidry)
    I know its not the main point but you can do a masters in accounting, my ex did and was then exempt from some of the professional exams they have to do when training
    Maybe he lied too? I'm kidding you can do a masters in accounting.
    But OP, your friend who was an (accountant) didn't realise you could take masters in accountancy. Just shows how well informed he was
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    He knew you could. What he meant is if she had done and undergrad in accountancy she wouldn't then be able to do a Masters as she would be qualified already.
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    Dnno about you, but anyone who has ever lied to me on that scale I have not remained friends with. It is not a personality trait I desire to have in a friend.
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    a girl comes into uni every day and pretends to be a student there and uses all of the facilities like the canteen etc and for 3 years it never occurs to you that you have no mutual friends or that you've never spoken to anyone else on the accountancy course and never seen her with any other student....... this is just creepy
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    (Original post by Mezza362)
    He knew you could. What he meant is if she had done and undergrad in accountancy she wouldn't then be able to do a Masters as she would be qualified already.
    no a masters means your exempt from some professional exams, I know the masters my ex did was very hard to get into and it was very rare for anyone who hadn't undertaken an undergrad in accounting to get in
 
 
 
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