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Should I cut off contact with an online boy if I don't want to take it of watch

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    I have been talking to a boy I met on an online chatroom for about 3 months now, we have each others numbers and for the past month text everyday. The conversations are very romantic, almost a fake relationship lol.

    The problem is, we live in different parts of the country, and, I will never meet him, for a number of reasons (including I am extremely shy, have terrible social anxiety, not something I can conquer atm). I have been very clear about this to him, but he continues to talk to me.

    He says he enjoys the conversations (as do I, I adore him), but I know deep down that really, he's hoping that eventually, I will change my mind and meet him. I can just tell he's waiting for this, as clear as I have been. I'm not looking for people to tell me to 'get over' the fear and try and progress things, because I'm afraid I just can't, not an option. Progressing beyond text will not happen.

    My question is, should I cut things off now, early, completely, to not hurt him, cry for a while and move on? Or is it ok to keep talking when he knows my intentions? It really makes me happy to talk to him.

    tl;dr: Pseudo-relationship with an online man over text, I will never meet him but he is hoping we will, one day, even though I told him. Shall I break things off, or keep going with it?
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    If it makes you happy to talk to him hen carry on. make it clearit will be strictly online and you do not wish to meet irl. If he accpets that you are ok to carry on, but if he cnat then you will call it a day. he cna make that choice and then if he does insist you can drop him for failing to stick to what you agreed. I'm not sure distance and being shy are insurmoutable reasons, but its your choice.
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    Yes, end it. If you keep it going, you're giving him hope that you might meet one day
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    End it. He's gonna get the feeling you're catfishing him. I know I would.

    Well, I would never get in to this situation. I would just offer to meet and, if I found out that was never an option, just assume that I was being catfished and end it there.

    I just assume everyone online is a 21+ stone 50 year old living in their mother's basement.
 
 
 
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