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    Would you date a slightly social awkward person who has a lot of "baggage" due to her past, and suffers with really low moods (which is due to the bad situation she lives in)and who is shy but once you get to know her she is quite talkative.

    She is like 5'3/5'4 and has what most would say is a lovely personality and who thinks she is ugly but every one tells her she aint and that she is good looking.

    Guys would ya??
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Would you date a slightly social awkward person who has a lot of "baggage" due to her past, and suffers with really low moods (which is due to the bad situation she lives in)and who is shy but once you get to know her she is quite talkative.

    She is like 5'3/5'4 and has what most would say is a lovely personality and who thinks she is ugly but every one tells her she aint and that she is good looking.

    Guys would ya??
    Let me guess, asking for a friend? :sly:

    I wouldn't date anyone right now. But I'd not have a problem becoming friends and seeing where it went over time. Then again, it's not a good idea to get two depressives together, in my experience, so it wouldn't work.
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    (Original post by Tootles)
    Let me guess, asking for a friend? :sly:

    I wouldn't date anyone right now. But I'd not have a problem becoming friends and seeing where it went over time. Then again, it's not a good idea to get two depressives together, in my experience, so it wouldn't work.
    Wrong actually, started typing and some how started to speak in third person. I just been told im undatable and will never find love though :/

    Fair enough and yea tbh thats can be a toxic mix, and i appreciate your opinion.
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    How would we guage whether we would or not? There cannot be any personal assumptions made, and so I can only speak objectively. Objectively speaking, some people would say yeah for the sake of it? Some people would say no because they're not looking to get into a relationship at the moment.

    A lot of relationships have to make sacrifices and a bond needs to be built - a strong bond.

    With all that said, if you can cope with having a relationship and there appears to be no major problems (ie. the bad past isn't going to get in the way of someone's love) and if both people wants to have a relationship, then why not?
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    (Original post by Kiritsugu)
    How would we guage whether we would or not? There cannot be any personal assumptions made, and so I can only speak objectively. Objectively speaking, some people would say yeah for the sake of it? Some people would say no because they're not looking to get into a relationship at the moment.

    A lot of relationships have to make sacrifices and a bond needs to be built - a strong bond.

    With all that said, if you can cope with having a relationship and there appears to be no major problems (ie. the bad past isn't going to get in the way of someone's love) and if both people wants to have a relationship, then why not?
    True point there.

    Just been told im undateable though by my family and i will never find friends or love.

    And yea maybe so.
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    Just been told im undateable though by my family and i will never find friends or love.
    Why did they say that? Is it because they were trying to constructively provide you with criticism (mind yourself, that you may not want to accept that they are, if they actually did, which, you may need to dig deeper to find out)? Or was it a joke? Or was it truly being mean or what?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Just been told im undateable though by my family and i will never find friends or love.
    Then it's your family that is the problem, not you.
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    (Original post by Kiritsugu)
    Why did they say that? Is it because they were trying to constructively provide you with criticism (mind yourself, that you may not want to accept that they are, if they actually did, which, you may need to dig deeper to find out)? Or was it a joke? Or was it truly being mean or what?
    Because they hate me and i know that because they told me and they meant it :/ and it werent trust me.

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    Then it's your family that is the problem, not you.
    Maybe so but i never had friends though so that must say something about me though :/
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    Because they hate me and i know that because they told me and they meant it :/ and it werent trust me.



    Maybe so but i never had friends though so that must say something about me though :/
    How have you never had friends?

    Regardless, nothing can get in the way of someone's love - actually you might find the world trying to stop you, but if you truly care, you must fight for your right.

    Fight on the world's standards - fire with fire. That way, you'll be seen as an equal. But that is not enough. First you must earn respect. Once you earn respect, then you can form better opinions, make more well-informed decisions, and be overall more well-rounded. That will also provide you with an alluring quality, possibly to 'get the girl'. If you be more sociable, you will undoubtedly feel better about yourself and make more friends.

    Google is your friend when it comes to tips and tricks. But you must enhance your personality and eliminate your mental and emotional barriers to success.

    That's just my opinion.
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    (Original post by Kiritsugu)
    How have you never had friends?

    Regardless, nothing can get in the way of someone's love - actually you might find the world trying to stop you, but if you truly care, you must fight for your right.

    Fight on the world's standards - fire with fire. That way, you'll be seen as an equal. But that is not enough. First you must earn respect. Once you earn respect, then you can form better opinions, make more well-informed decisions, and be overall more well-rounded. That will also provide you with an alluring quality, possibly to 'get the girl'. If you be more sociable, you will undoubtedly feel better about yourself and make more friends.

    Google is your friend when it comes to tips and tricks. But you must enhance your personality and eliminate your mental and emotional barriers to success.

    That's just my opinion.
    Because i gave up my childhood until i was 13 to be a young career and people would bully me at school during this time.

    And thank you for your opinion.
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    Because i gave up my childhood until i was 13 to be a young career and people would bully me at school during this time.

    And thank you for your opinion.
    How many hours of caring do you do per day?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Would you date a slightly social awkward person who has a lot of "baggage" due to her past, and suffers with really low moods (which is due to the bad situation she lives in)and who is shy but once you get to know her she is quite talkative.

    She is like 5'3/5'4 and has what most would say is a lovely personality and who thinks she is ugly but every one tells her she aint and that she is good looking.

    Guys would ya??
    None of this would matter to me, except personality. Do I get along with you? Do I liek you enough to want a relationship?

    Being socially awkward, shy, having baggage and so on are not even factors. If I liked someone I'd deal with any problems they may have. Nobody is perfect and I'd consider myself a complete ******* for not helping anyone I cared about with whatever is troubling them.

    Oh and shorter girls are usually cute
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    How many hours of caring do you do per day?
    It was 24/7 really tbh caring from the age of 6 until i was 13
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    I only date women who are socially well-adjusted, who have a track record completely clear of any negative or traumatic episodes, who are perpetually in a good mood, who are uniformly sociable and talkative regardless of familiarity, whose "lovely" personalities are celebrated by the community at large through a series of lavish festival days coinciding with the dates of important milestones in their lives, and who are eminent beauties both by their own standards, the standards of their age and place, and those universal aesthetic standards which transcend all category.

    Not too fussed about height though.
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    (Original post by Acsel)
    None of this would matter to me, except personality. Do I get along with you? Do I liek you enough to want a relationship?

    Being socially awkward, shy, having baggage and so on are not even factors. If I liked someone I'd deal with any problems they may have. Nobody is perfect and I'd consider myself a complete ******* for not helping anyone I cared about with whatever is troubling them.

    Oh and shorter girls are usually cute
    Aw wish more guys thought like that then, and fair points there.

    Ya think so and thats kind thing to do.

    Couldnt agree more and dont say that.
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    (Original post by C.Calder)
    I only date women who are socially well-adjusted, who have a track record completely clear of any negative or traumatic episodes, who are perpetually in a good mood, who are uniformly sociable and talkative regardless of familiarity, whose "lovely" personalities are celebrated by the community at large through a series of lavish festival days coinciding with the dates of important milestones in their lives, and who are eminent beauties both by their own standards, the standards of their age and place, and those universal aesthetic standards which transcend all category.

    Not too fussed about height though.
    Fair enough.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It was 24/7 really tbh caring from the age of 6 until i was 13
    My goodness, a bit like me almost but more. I would suggest starting to socialise little by little and not in big leaps. I would do stuff to build your confidence like volunteering in your community or something. Good luck!
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    Sure, if I found them attractive and I got along with them well.

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    Just been told im undateable though by my family and i will never find friends or love.
    From what I've seen families never really know what they're on about when they say crap like that. Or just when they try to give any estimate about somebody's datability, ever, be it a good forecast or a bad one. They are a bad source.
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    (Original post by Kiritsugu)
    My goodness, a bit like me almost but more. I would suggest starting to socialise little by little and not in big leaps. I would do stuff to build your confidence like volunteering in your community or something. Good luck!
    Yea never had it easy but out of that situation and it to a worse now. And have been doing for the past 3 years but got now where and i did some volunteering work a bit ago. And thanks.
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    Sure, if I found them attractive and I got along with them well.



    From what I've seen families never really know what they're on about when they say crap like that. Or just when they try to give any estimate about somebody's datability, ever, be it a good forecast or a bad one. They are a bad source.
    Fair enough.

    And ya think so??
 
 
 
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