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    for years i have had depression, anxiety, and an eating disorder and this has really affected my grades at school.

    im now at uni, after swapping courses 3 times.
    i don't feel like i should be here, as the pressure of the work is just too much for me and i am absolutely miserable, even though im not even at an academic uni.

    i live away from home but in the same city as i didn't feel able to move far away due to anxiety.

    my dad wants me to remain at uni but i just don't want to. i have always hated school and college and pressure like that. i have a weekend job as a waitress that i enjoy, i amsurrounded by friendly people and i can go home at the end of the day and forget about it, i'm not under this constant pressure.

    a 3 year degree sounds terrible as i want to leave now. i havent made any proper friends, i mean there are a few people i talk to, but generally i am not a very social person and i don't like partying etc, most days i don't really speak to anyone.

    when i havent done enough work i feel guilty that i have eaten as in my mind if i eat it needs to be for a reason, like i will need to have achieved something like my uni work. so it is messing with my eating disorder.
    i feel so trapped. i don't know what to do.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    for years i have had depression, anxiety, and an eating disorder and this has really affected my grades at school.

    im now at uni, after swapping courses 3 times.
    i don't feel like i should be here, as the pressure of the work is just too much for me and i am absolutely miserable, even though im not even at an academic uni.

    i live away from home but in the same city as i didn't feel able to move far away due to anxiety.

    my dad wants me to remain at uni but i just don't want to. i have always hated school and college and pressure like that. i have a weekend job as a waitress that i enjoy, i amsurrounded by friendly people and i can go home at the end of the day and forget about it, i'm not under this constant pressure.

    a 3 year degree sounds terrible as i want to leave now. i havent made any proper friends, i mean there are a few people i talk to, but generally i am not a very social person and i don't like partying etc, most days i don't really speak to anyone.

    when i havent done enough work i feel guilty that i have eaten as in my mind if i eat it needs to be for a reason, like i will need to have achieved something like my uni work. so it is messing with my eating disorder.
    i feel so trapped. i don't know what to do.
    It sounds like you should definitely talk to your university services, and any of your doctors that deal with your MH issues about this. Have you spoken to your dad about quite how difficult this is for you?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    for years i have had depression, anxiety, and an eating disorder and this has really affected my grades at school.

    im now at uni, after swapping courses 3 times.
    i don't feel like i should be here, as the pressure of the work is just too much for me and i am absolutely miserable, even though im not even at an academic uni.

    i live away from home but in the same city as i didn't feel able to move far away due to anxiety.

    my dad wants me to remain at uni but i just don't want to. i have always hated school and college and pressure like that. i have a weekend job as a waitress that i enjoy, i amsurrounded by friendly people and i can go home at the end of the day and forget about it, i'm not under this constant pressure.

    a 3 year degree sounds terrible as i want to leave now. i havent made any proper friends, i mean there are a few people i talk to, but generally i am not a very social person and i don't like partying etc, most days i don't really speak to anyone.

    when i havent done enough work i feel guilty that i have eaten as in my mind if i eat it needs to be for a reason, like i will need to have achieved something like my uni work. so it is messing with my eating disorder.
    i feel so trapped. i don't know what to do.
    You've got a job so you can support yourself, no one can force you to stay at university, and if they try to they should be dropped anyway as toxic. Talk to your parents and uni services, don't bother staying if you don't like it and don't get anything out of it, it's not the end of the world, and it's not like its free anyway.
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    (Original post by chelseadagg3r)
    It sounds like you should definitely talk to your university services, and any of your doctors that deal with your MH issues about this. Have you spoken to your dad about quite how difficult this is for you?
    hi i am sorry for the late reply, i just saw this. i have spoken to my dad, as i hated the last course and the student support services know about my problems. but i think i thought i would end up enjoying this course more as it is slightly more interesting than my last, but i still don't like it. i am going to speak to my dad soon again though. he basically thinks that i need to go as i need a structure in my life, i agree, but maybe this is not the best structure. i'd just rather go to work, and then forget about it at the end of the day and not have deadlines and coursework looming over me affecting my mental health.
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    thank you. i guess i find it hard to trust my feelings as i worry it's just my depression speaking x
    (Original post by Mr Gumbil)
    You've got a job so you can support yourself, no one can force you to stay at university, and if they try to they should be dropped anyway as toxic. Talk to your parents and uni services, don't bother staying if you don't like it and don't get anything out of it, it's not the end of the world, and it's not like its free anyway.
 
 
 
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