Is it worth trying...??

I'd imagine this is a really common problem but I have to ask anyway...i've been with my boyfriend for over a year now (with a few breaks here and there, i went away for a while etc) but we're back together now. However i'm off to uni in september and so is he, we're going to be pretty far apart (4/5 hours drive) and originally i didn't think we would stay together. But recently things have been good and both of us have talked about trying to stay together. Now i know most relationships don't work as people change and meet all these new people, but do you think it is possible??? Is it worth trying or do you think we should both move on? I can't imagine being without him but then we're not going to see each other that much, once a week, even a fortnight and holidays. I don't know how easy it'll be....what do i do??? i love him, so is it worth fighting for? please be honest!

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

You don't know until you've tried. If you're willing to risk it then by all means do, I have been sceptical of long-distance relationships but have found myself to be in a LDR after seven months. We both agreed to try because if we didn't we would hate ourselves for it.

Good luck.

Reply 2

prettygreeneyes99

yea you never know til you try, you wouldnt want to go through life thinking 'what if' if you didnt try to make it work... plus when you do see eachother think how much more you'll appreciate eachother!

Reply 3

Anonymous #3

Yer if I was you id give it a go. Its hard finding someone special so if you want to try and make it work then go for it. Good luck :smile:

Reply 4

Schajin

I've been long distance with my current gf for 2 years now...theres the obvious down of that, but it also has its good sides!

Plus, what have you got to loose? It'll either work or it won't...but if you end it now, you'll never know

Reply 5

spark911

I know a lot of people who stay together at uni and travel to see each other (take it in turn every other weekend). I also know a few people in relationships who cheated within the first 24 hours!

Reply 6

pumpkin7

i'm bitter about these things. my ex was gay "yo..! i'ma off to uni and wanna do other chicks, so see yaz!"

*******.

but it depends on you... sooo..

Reply 7

Yellowmarshmellow

Give it a try, if it doesn't work out then i guess you'll have to move on and you'll meet loadsa new people anyway, if it does then you'll both appreciate it more and when you do find the time to make the journey and meet up it will be extra special :smile:

Reply 8

Fluent in Lies

I don't understand how if you really are so keen on somone you can have doubt in your mind as to wether you want to carry on. It seems like 'oh it might be a bit of effort so I don't think I'll bother'.

Reply 9

Nudlz

course its worth trying for, dont doubt yourself. theres no point in giving up straight away :smile:

Reply 10

invisible_gal

Try it, see how it goes, see what happens. Don't just give up, because then you'll probably always be wondering what if… etc.
For some people it works, for some it doesn't, but you'll never know if you don't try and I think if both of you are fully committed, then you make it work.

Reply 11

redshoes4

There is no harm in giving it a go. i know couples who stayed together- some broke up within a few weeks, one couple broke up the next summer when they atcually had to spend time together! i also know a couple who broke up for uni- it turned into a big mess with lots of heartache as they were not over each other and now they are back together.
i think its work a try as every relationship needs a reason to end - thinking it may not work as you are few hours away is not exactly closure. if it doesnt work theres a reason to split and you can move on- and if it works great! x

Reply 12

Joderz

me and my bf hav been 2gether 3 years and im off to uni next month and wer're goin to stay together!sure, it'll be hard but if you love him and want to be with him there shouldn't really be a doubt in your mind. my bf will be worth the effort!and i'll be seeing him even less than you see your bf (once a month if im lucky probs!!)

Reply 13

username47781

It is worth a try at least surely?

Reply 14

koldstare

It's definatly worth a go. Me and my Girlfriend decided we are going to try even though the course she is on means she does placements and works alot and also the fact I'll be at York and she'll be in Surrey.

I think it definatly depends on what rules you set. We aren't gonna get mad if we don't talk for a few days, and if we feel it isn't working we'll split but why not try and see what happens?

Reply 15

khil

Better go down trying than not to have tried at all, I always say :smile:

You can't know until you've tried. Would you rather break from a lovely relationship never knowing if it could've worked out, or would you rather know for certain whether or not it would've worked out? I'd rather break up and know that it couldn't have worked, than to wonder for the rest of my life as to how it would've/could've been.

And btw, seeing your boyfriend once a week or once every two weeks is NOT a long time not to see each other!!!! I might be being harsh here but I haven't seen my boyfriend since June and won't til mid Sep! Luckily we do go to the same uni but over the hols it's tough :frown:

Reply 16

herbal bug

Give it a go, when you dont give it that your relationship's pretty much doomed already.
x

Reply 17

sallymc9000

hey, im in the same boat too moving a 4 hour drive away from my boyfriend :frown:

weve been together 10 months now and virtually never fall out, we love each other and i know we'll make it work.
just be determined and call each other/msn whatever every day.
it just depends on the couple, if its meant to work, it will!

Reply 18

DodgyTrousers

pumpkin7

i'm bitter about these things. my ex was gay "yo..! i'ma off to uni and wanna do other chicks, so see yaz!"

*******.

but it depends on you... sooo..