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    So... I have a pretty big crush on a girl that goes to school with me. There seem to be a few other guys who like her too, but I'm not sure. We have several common interests, but I don't want to ruin our friendship by just telling her I like her upfront. I can't ask her out because my parents would make a MASSIVE deal out of it, so what do I do?
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    (Original post by Shibex)
    So... I have a pretty big crush on a girl that goes to school with me. There seem to be a few other guys who like her too, but I'm not sure. We have several common interests, but I don't want to ruin our friendship by just telling her I like her upfront. I can't ask her out because my parents would make a MASSIVE deal out of it, so what do I do?
    To me when someone says 'I don't want to ruin the friendship' in this context or when they break up with their partner and say 'let's be friends' or something like that, in those situations they are wanting to hang on to whatever they have with someone when really it'd be better for them to make a move and then go their seperate ways if it doesn't work out.

    It's great that you have several common interests, and to be honest you're better off asking her out and spending time with her, possibly using those things you have in common, maybe something generic like going to the cinema (not great for proper dates, I find, but good for going 'as a friend' or hanging out somewhere.. You haven't said how or why your parents would make a massive deal out of it or whether it'd be bad for you.. but to me that would be a good way forward.

    I get that it's a small community so people would find out if you asked her out and then your parents would.. but look at it this way, if you told her then the same effect would probably happen so best to ask her out as surreptitiously as possible.
 
 
 
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