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How to get back in touch with an "old friend" watch

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    Hi all,

    I am hoping to get your help in how to play this one.

    Basically, there's a girl I knew some years ago (we are friends on facebook) and I'd like to get (shall we say) re-acquainted with her. She had a long-term partner from the time I knew her but from the looks of her facebook profile, it now looks like she is single. I'd be lying if I said that I wasn't interested in potentially someting developing, but in the first instance, I am only looking for friendship (OSLT), and then play it by ear. From past experience, I'm pretty sure she doesn't check her private mesages and I don't have a contact number / email address, so my only option is leaving amessage on her facebook wall. What I'm asking is what to say:- I want to come across as just friendly, but not in a "phwoar, I wanna jump you" kind of way. It's especially important as the message will affectively be "public" so I wouldn't want to embarras her.

    If you were in my position, what would you post on her wall and what sort of things are you likely to warm to and what might put you off? Opinions from females is especially welcome. Also , bear in mind there has been no direct contact between us for a few years

    P.S. It may seem like a basic thing to ask, but so far every attempt I've made to persue someone via text (e.g. email, facebook etc.) has been unsuccessful, and I've felt like a fool for trying (although I tend to do alright if I see them face to face. Also, I want to make sure that I don't come across as despearate or too keen,
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    I wouldn't post on her timeline, seems a bit weird to me since everyone else can see but that's just me. I think you should just send her a message first. You say "from past experiences" she doesn't check but what if she does now? I think all you need to do is drop her a PM and say "Hey, long time no speak! How have you been? How's work/uni/school?"... And then just go on from there. I've done it before, we reconnected for a few weeks but then it just died down, you'll have to talk about different things and not just work or uni all the time.
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    Hi UWS,

    Thanks for your reply. sorry about my slow response.

    Good points on how it might be perceived, first impressions and all that lol. I'm thinking that I'll send a private message first and if I don't hear in a few days then post on her wall.


    Any other advice, thoughts or opinions would be greatly appreciated.
 
 
 
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