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    This is just going to sound like a big rant but I don't know how else to put it or what to do.

    I feel my life is so bad and rubbish. I've just turned 21,I have a part time job, no social life and no friends. I live with my gran, dad and 2 brothers. My gran is getting old and isnt able to do a lot for herself so I look after her a lot. I get up early make her breakfast and then start helping my dad and brother because they both work at home. While helping them I am also going down to my gran to make sure she is okay and doesn't need anything else. I'l help them until about half 12 and then start making lunch. I make it, eat it and then make my grans lunch. Straight after that I leave for work at half 1.

    I love work and I feel good because I can get out the house for a while but recently I feel like I've not being doing much and the boss doesnt actually need me. The only reason I feel like I am being kept on is because I have a good relationship with him. I sit in the office doing absolutely nothing sometimes and it makes me feel worthless and that Im wasting his time and money. Ive thought about maybe finding another job but theres no way Im going to find another job which has hours that suit me as much or one I'll enjoy as much. Sometimes I sit in the office and Im close to crying thinking about how rubbish my life is.

    Once I finish work at 7 I go home, eat, and then make my gran some tea. I then get some time in my room before I need to go back down to give my gran her tablets and do all the dishes. Only then can I go to bed and chill out a bit. I do this everyday from Monday to Friday.

    On the weekend I am basically just catching up with house work or helping my dad out more. I never have time to get out and even if I did I don't have anyone to go with. I feel like I have such a rubbish life but cant do anything about it. I cant change my lifestyle because my gran relies on me. I feel down a lot and so stressed but I don't know who to talk to or what to do.

    I've read online that maybe I could see a doctor but what could they even do? Can someone please give me advice because I feel down and unhappy most of the time.
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    Have you tried trying to figure out for yourself what is the key cause that is making you feel like this? I definitely recommend going to see a doctor - they can give you advice for what to do next, and can refer you to a specialist at the hospital if they think that's the best way forwards. Around a month ago I started having panic attacks and anxiety because I didn't know what I was doing with my life and the future was looming because I'm in the last year of my A-levels and don't want to go to uni, so I went to the doctor and he recommended a local therapist that I now see once a week for CBT. You can either go privately and pay per session but get seen quicker, or wait for quite a few weeks for the NHS to respond and put you in the appropriate category for therapy for free.
    Whatever you decide to do, the best way forwards is probably to make an appointment with the doctor, explain your situation and see what they say, because your situation is probably very different from mine.

    Also, I recommend trying to get in to as many activities or groups as possible or start doing things you love more frequently to keep your mind off feeling low - even if it is something as simple as joining a zumba class once a week or baking cakes at the weekend. You just have to make yourself do things, otherwise things will stay as they are. I know that when you feel low the last thing you want to do is actually do anything, but it will make you feel better, I promise.

    Hope you feel better soon, and keep trying to think positive
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    (Original post by Medleysontherun)
    Have you tried trying to figure out for yourself what is the key cause that is making you feel like this? I definitely recommend going to see a doctor - they can give you advice for what to do next, and can refer you to a specialist at the hospital if they think that's the best way forwards. Around a month ago I started having panic attacks and anxiety because I didn't know what I was doing with my life and the future was looming because I'm in the last year of my A-levels and don't want to go to uni, so I went to the doctor and he recommended a local therapist that I now see once a week for CBT. You can either go privately and pay per session but get seen quicker, or wait for quite a few weeks for the NHS to respond and put you in the appropriate category for therapy for free.
    Whatever you decide to do, the best way forwards is probably to make an appointment with the doctor, explain your situation and see what they say, because your situation is probably very different from mine.

    Also, I recommend trying to get in to as many activities or groups as possible or start doing things you love more frequently to keep your mind off feeling low - even if it is something as simple as joining a zumba class once a week or baking cakes at the weekend. You just have to make yourself do things, otherwise things will stay as they are. I know that when you feel low the last thing you want to do is actually do anything, but it will make you feel better, I promise.

    Hope you feel better soon, and keep trying to think positive

    Do you feel the therapist helps? I've booked a doctors appointment for next week, hopefully something will come from that but I'm having second thoughts about it, feel like I'm just going to waste there time going there to vent my feelings.

    I really do need to take up some class, try getting me out more
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    Do you feel the therapist helps? I've booked a doctors appointment for next week, hopefully something will come from that but I'm having second thoughts about it, feel like I'm just going to waste there time going there to vent my feelings.

    I really do need to take up some class, try getting me out more
    Don't feel as though you're wasting your or your doctor's time by booking an appointment because mental health problems are genuine medical conditions that need to be addressed. I felt similar before I went to see the doctor and I'm so glad that my mum pushed me to go, because I was so glad that I'd seen someone about it when I came out. The doctor won't judge you for going to see them about it because that's what they're there for.

    Therapy is helping me - basically Cognitive Behaviour Therapy is where a therapist will help you to talk through your worries and stresses, and then helps you to link up your feelings with your stress/depression/anxiety to find the ultimate causes. You can then try to put about positive changes in your life to directly tackle what's making you feel down. So it's sort of like you curing it yourself with the support of another, and it's working really well for me. There are other types of therapy available, but the specialists will decide which is best for you once they've grasped your situation.

    Do try to get out more though, it will help
 
 
 
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