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I can't masturbate?

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    Hey, so I finally decided I would try to masturbate because everyone says it feels amazing and I thought I'd give it ago but, it didn't seem to work and I don't know why. I tried both shower head masturbation and fingering and neither were successful. My first problem is I can't seem to get turned on. I'm a virgin and have never done anything sexual. I've never been turned on before. I tried several things to turn myself on though, I rode the arm of an armchair, I read smut and even played with my clitoris. But none of it gets me turned on! I tried clitoris stimulation and when I touch my clit it did feel nice, but that's it, nothing else happened and sometimes when I touched and played with it I didn't feel anything from it at all. Now this could be because I haven't properly located it but I'm pretty certain I have, I've checked with a mirror and compared it to diagrams and I'm definitely in the right place so why doesn't it work? When trying shower head masturbation, it felt nice but again that's it. It felt nice where the water was touching my vulva and clit but it was very unsatisfying and I didn't feel anything internally, and definitely didn't come anywhere near orgasm. When fingering, I played with my clit and sort of teased myself but I didn't get wet or feel anything. I then proceeded to finger myself, I put one finger all the way in and that was it. It didn't feel nice or anything really so what am I supposed to do after that to make it pleasurable? I tried pumping it but it actually hurt and taking my finger out also hurt a bit so????? Thank you for any advice
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    how old are you becuase if your too young your body might not have started puberty and you wont have these feelings yet
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    (Original post by anon56781121)
    how old are you becuase if your too young your body might not have started puberty and you wont have these feelings yet
    I'm 17 so I'm pretty certain that's not it
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    Has anything ever turned you on?
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    I think your getting confused with what masturbation is.

    From what youve said your doing (fingering etc) your already masturbating. I think what your looking for is how to orgasm. Being a male i cant help you out as much but i think you need to keep trying for longer periods of time or even find somthing that turns you on.
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    (Original post by Fullofquestions1)
    I think your getting confused with what masturbation is.

    From what youve said your doing (fingering etc) your already masturbating. I think what your looking for is how to orgasm. Being a male i cant help you out as much but i think you need to keep trying for longer periods of time or even find somthing that turns you on.
    But isn't masturbation like fingering supposed to feel nice even before orgasm and it shouldn't hurt when I pump my finger or take it out should it?
    Everything that should normally get people turned on isn't getting me turned on. I've touched and played with my clit and clitoral stimulation is supposed to make you orgasm easier than fingering yet it isn't even turning me on?!
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    Has anything ever turned you on?
    Not that a know of and I'm guessing you can tell when you're turned on
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    But isn't masturbation like fingering supposed to feel nice even before orgasm and it shouldn't hurt when I pump my finger or take it out should it?
    Everything that should normally get people turned on isn't getting me turned on. I've touched and played with my clit and clitoral stimulation is supposed to make you orgasm easier than fingering yet it isn't even turning me on?!
    It might just be hurting you because you have only just started to do it? You need to find somthing that makes you want to masturbate. Start of slowly till you get used to it and the pain goes.
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    I'm a girl also and I don't feel any pleasure from actually inserting fingers or anything. I'm not really sure what I'm meant to feel or do so its a bit pointless for me. It can also be a bit painful because I'm kinda just poking a bit. I suggest you need to relax more and just enjoy exploring you said touching your clit felt nice so I think that if you continue with that you will eventually orgasm and enjoy it fully. On the point about being turned on I'm not really sure what you could try usually I just feel in the mood and the minute I start I'm turned on
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    why do you have to do that?

    not everyone has to nor feel stimulated simply from physical stimulation.
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    Why don't you try using a vibrator or something? Lol


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    You might just have a low libido, is all. If you're concerned about health consult a doctor, otherwise idk, I guess that's about it. You don't have to do anything you don't want to just because others say it's great
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    For females, most of the pleasure does come from the clit so I'd keep going with that. Masturbation also isn't something that you decide to do and are done with it in like 2 minutes unless you're already very turned on.

    I would suggest figuring out what turns you on first of all. Try porn, smut, imagination, whatever. A lot of it is mental and not only physical. The physical stimulation is nice but you need more than that for an actual orgasm
 
 
 
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