Taken for granted?

For Christmas, I bought my boyfriend a jumper for £30, valentines day I got made a special photo album with our photos, and lastly for his birthday I bought him a versace perfume which cost me £40. Of course it doesn't really matter about the prices but I didn't have much cash at the time and had to save up for them. The problem is, the boyfriend I've bought all this for hasn't bought me anything back in return, or not even bought a card. For Valentines day he 'supposedly' took me to dinner but I had to pay for half of the bill. I've cared about him and wanted to make him happy, and whether they were cheap or expensive, i thought that they would make him happy, and he seemed to have been at the time. I feel that I am being taken for granted as my birthday has just passed and I've not seen anything from him. Am I thinking wrong?

Reply 1

JacquesNoir

Is this the same one who's cheated on you (or otherwise treated you badly) and you shouldn't have taken back in the first place?

Reply 2

randomgirl

He got you absolutely nothing for you birthday? Not even a card?!

Now material items are not the be all and end all of life, but if he didn't bother getting you anything for your birthday, that is not on.

Maybe he just cannot afford it? Although he could have at least made a card..

Reply 3

Carpediemxx

You sound like a lovely person

He sounds like an ass

But i dont know anymore than uve told us. You do deserve someone who treats you right though

Reply 4

Innuendo_anonymous

Sounds like a complete ass to me.

If you bought him all those things and he didn't even manage to get you a card he's being incredibly selfish. Even if he's strapped for cash he could at least make you a card or something.

When i was going out with my ex i had'nt got much money so i made a card for her at least, i'd feel terrible if she got me something and i hadn't even made an effort. So if he doesn't feel guilty for not getting you anything then he's not worth the effort your going to really.

Even though i dont know the whole story, from what you've said he doesn't seem like he cares all too much about you(but i could be wrong), im sure you could find someone who appreciated you much more. The only advice i can give is talk to him about it and see what happens.

Reply 5

khil

He sounds like a jerk. You have every right to be angry, I think. I mean, my boyfriend was utterly broke too on our first Valentine's Day together - literally had no money - and he made me a card. Just simple, A4 paper with some pencil drawings and a few jokes inside - but who cares, he made something for me! And I think my friend's fiance gave his fiancee an indoor picnic of making sandwiches together cus they both love making crazy sandwiches - and that didn't cost much now, did it?

It's not the money - it's the heart and the intention and your bf clearly has no intention of celebrating special dates with you, and if those dates are important to you than he should treat it as such.

Reply 6

Agony Aunt

Well I'll talk to him about it but I don't know how to start the conversation, it's not very easy to talk about. I don't want him to think that I'm just after presents or anything :s-smilie:

Reply 7

abc101

That's ridiculous. Fair enough if he's skint but he should at least have got you a card and even a small token present to show he was thinking of you. It's not that you're wanting material things from him, it's just that you want him to show he cares for you. He could have made you a card if he's completely and utterly broke, which I doubt he is. He sounds like a bit of a tosspot, to be honest - if you care about someone you at least bother to get them a card for their birthday.

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