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    Righ its a long story so please bear with me.

    I'm 18 and never had a relationship but been on lots of dates...and this guy *PAUL* is 24 had lots of relationships, anyway, we went on a second date together, it was a very hot day... and on that date we went to a bar and then went for a walk to the park near where he lives but on the way, he needed to change his top cos he was boiling, he brought me a pink rose on the way which I thought was very sweet of him.

    We got to his house, we chatted for a while and then he just hugged me and started kissing me...and then we ended up in the bedroom just kissing and chatting, nothing more... I felt alright with it...

    Then we went to the park where he took me for a boatride in the lake and we had a fabulous time and we went for a walk and messed about. I also had a blister on my foot and he let me borrow his socks.... Then we went back to his cos I needed a drink and then all of sudden he just started kissing em and carried me to the bedroom, I didn't mind at the time but then he started fondling and going further and kissing me all over... I liked it at the time but...had a niggling feeling he could be using me .

    Then I got back home, told my guy friends what kind of happened... they told me he's def using me... being stoopid I believed them and started writing an email to Paul saying sorry and stuff that we shouldn't be together...and sent it.

    But at the same time, my mind was alll over the place, all my friends were like oh my god, he did those stuff on you ON the second date!!??? that wrong... and then I started getting more attention and started exaggerating and it lead to the point... WHERE I said ''he forced himself on me''... I lied to my brother STOOPID FOOL I was I know.

    THIS then lead to my brother asking PAUL, it wasn't pretty... PAUL told him the truth and I admitted I lied to my brother and PAUL. My brother knows how sorry I am and forgave me... BUT I want to really mean it to Paul

    I'm not sure whether to post him a sorry letter along with his socks Ive still got ....I feel really bad about the whole situation and I felt soo horrible, I've learnt my lesson and shall NEVER do it again ....

    I feel really bad ....
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    Please can someone give an opinion...
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    hey hun. I'd say talk to Paul, he deserves to hear it from you. You need to do it in person, only then can you be really open with each other. I hope this sketchy advice helps.

    feel free to PM if you need to talk, ok?
    hope everything sorts itself out
    xx
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    Yes, you were a bloody bloody bloody fool.

    Just say sorry - i doubt he cares, nor will he probably want to stay in contact with you.
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    Just to clarify, did you imply to your brother that Paul raped you? Or that he only did the stuff you've mentioned, but did so against your will?
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    Just tell him what you just told us. Explain that you told your friends what happened and they conviced you that it was wrong, but you didnt feel like that after thinking about it and you are really sorry for sending that email and that you were out of line for lying to your brother about it.

    You cant make him change how he feels about you now, if he still likes you or not but you can try to make amends and then see how he feels and if anything else can happen.
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    I hate girls who scream rape about guys =/
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    He will probably not want to know you, and thats just what you deserve. Do you even know how much it screws up people's lives when people like you make up **** like that?
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    That's an awful thing to lie about. And if I were a guy I'd think twice about starting a relationship with you in case down the line you decided you didn't like it and acted similarly.

    If he was taking things too fast for you, you should have said something at the time. You can't, in hindsight think, 'oh maybe I should have waited a bit, I know I'll pretend that he forced me that way it's not my fault and I wont look like a slut to my friends '
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    Words are cheap- try a gesture instead!
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    How old are you? Your mates sound like idiots.
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    Erm...that guy sounds like my ex...:rolleyes:...about that age...uhm lol

    N'way IMO he's gone too far on the second date....

    But what u did wasn't right so maybe write a note explaining things to him since you are not experienced in relationships and that was a bit too far...if he cares you enough he might talk to you again...if he doesn't then a quick sorry and move on...I doubt he cares tho...
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    (Original post by Fluent in Lies)
    That's an awful thing to lie about. And if I were a guy I'd think twice about starting a relationship with you in case down the line you decided you didn't like it and acted similarly.

    If he was taking things too fast for you, you should have said something at the time. You can't, in hindsight think, 'oh maybe I should have waited a bit, I know I'll pretend that he forced me that way it's not my fault and I wont look like a slut to my friends '
    Not the best thing to of happened to you should not lead him on or given him ideas to do so!
 
 
 
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