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    Hello all

    I've been really worried and feel like I'm letting the overanalysing consume me.
    I recently started going round to my boyfriend's house, we've only been together a few months and it has been wonderful. I've never worried about anything as we are so good together and in tune with each other in every way. he has made it known so many times how brilliant I am, compliments the little and big things and how hes so lucky to have me.

    A little background on him and housemates - they arent really close from what he has told me. But obviously are friends and get on. However my boyfriend has gone home every weekend since they moved in and so doesnt do much with them at all. He even said that hes in the living room on his own most times and they are just in their rooms.

    However, the first time I met his one housemate it was fine and was brief as he had come home with a friend. told him he had a nice name and just the usual hey how are you, nice to meet you.
    So the second time I stayed for three nights - met his other housemate as soon as i came in. He was in living room, i sat down and the three of us had a nice short conversation. but im just analysing comments i may have made, or the impression they will have of me. like being there three nights, being comfortable in their house so soon when he saw me washing up. plus, one night we got back and his housemates friends and girlfriend were here. he asked my boyfriend if we wanted to join and i think my boyfriend said he will ask me. We both agreed it was nice of them but we wanted to be alone (in private ofc) but i feel like they'll think i made him say no. but i guess the difference iswe have only been together short while, his housemate and gf have been together three years. plus we are three hours away so im hoping they would understand we would want to be alone.

    But i feel they think he talks to me too much etc which he wants to do himself, but then i think they would get its new and we are few hours away. i know im probably assuming they think all this when they haven't said anything. but im going crazy thinking about every encounter with them and what i said, how i may have come across. i know once or twice i made teasing comments about my bf to one of them in the hallway about how long he takes getting ready, but it was in reply to what the housemate said, i didnt directly do it and we chuckled about it.

    I guess im worried that they may make comments about me and make my boyfriend think different. Am i being crazy analysing all of this?
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    The first thing you should know is that no one thinks of you as much as you think of yourself. I'm not saying that to be mean, but with all people, our first thoughts are more often about ourselves and how we think we come across to others. It actually doesn't matter either way if they like you or not. They're going to be aware that a couple will want to spend time together (especially a new one) so take a deep breath and stop worrying.
    Lastly, if your boyfriend decides to listens to others' negative opinions when deciding if he likes you or not, then he wouldn't be worth it anyway. I very much doubt that is the case at all. So stop analysing, and have fun (and for what it's worth, it sounds like they do like you).
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    (Original post by _Nyx_)
    The first thing you should know is that no one thinks of you as much as you think of yourself. I'm not saying that to be mean, but with all people, our first thoughts are more often about ourselves and how we think we come across to o9thers. It actually doesn't matter either way if they like you or not. They're going to be aware that a couple will want to spend time together (especially a new one) so take a deep breath and stop worrying.
    Lastly, if your boyfriend decides to listens to others' negative opinions when deciding if he likes you or not, then he wouldn't be worth it anyway. I very much doubt that is the case at all. So stop analysing, and have fun (and for what it's worth, it sounds like they do like you).
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    Thank you for your reply. I understand that but yesterday he was like I dont think I belong here with housemates, and hes implied he isnt close to them and mentioned they are always just together and constantly take mick out of each other, and that he doesnt like that.So a part of me thinks maybe they were laughing about me and he heard something hence why he said it.
    But from what i have seen they are friends. His housemate even mentioned them playing dominos together but my bf didnt mention that which is wierd. So either hes testing me and his housemates have said see what i would say to it or he realises they dont like me.
    I want to bring it up but i dont know how
 
 
 
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