a question about the start of a relationship

i've never got this:

when do you start "going out" with someone? when you first kissed? when you went on a "date"?

at what age do you stop doing that thing where you "ask someone out" (meaning ask them to be your girlfriend/boyfriend) and they say yes or no?

if you are currently going out with someone, how do you personally define when the relationship "started"?

well confused. cheers.

Reply 1

sib

For me and my boyfriend... it just sort of happened... hmmm... we ddnt have a particular 'date' as such... so when it came to about a year later, we decided when our anniversary was! We decided it was the day we had our first 'proper' kiss... 27th December :biggrin:

YAY! been together ever since...

Reply 2

messynessie

Lol, that's what I count it from as well, seeing as was never 'asked out' as such...

Reply 3

dita_parlo

LOL my boyfriend was 24 when we first got together and he asked me "so are you my girlfriend then or what?" hahaha. We count our "anniversary" as the first "date" we went on.

Reply 4

pumpkin7

hmm me and my boyfriend take it from the first time we went out anyway... 16th february that was, this year.
i think that one of us asked 'so, are we together now or what?'.. and when he gave me the keys to his flat, that kind of confirmed it.. =)

haha 'asked out'.. 'yo bitch.. wanna go out wid me innit?' man, lame.

Reply 5

randomgirl

Me and my boyfriend don't really have a date for the start of our relationship. We went on dates, things kind of moved along and I remember that he called me his girlfriend in casual conversation. I took that as a good sign :biggrin:

I guess you start "going out" when you are exclusive and you both want the same thing from the relationship. Plus it should just feel right.

:smile:

Reply 6

dream_theater

to me, you start going out when one of you officially asks the other one 'do you want to go out with me' or along those lines. until then its only dating and not exclusive.

Reply 7

username43584

I suppose you sort of "see" each other for a while. In my current relationship we did that for a couple of weeks. It was obvious he wanted us to move into the bf-gf thing quite soon but I was reluctant for a while...it's nice to just enjoy without feeling the need to go too fast and define it. But a few weeks after we first went out together he asked whether it was an exclusive relationship. But only in the last couple of weeks have we started referring to each other as bf or gf.

He worked out the starting date of our relationship himself (apparently I'm not normal in not knowing exactly how long we've been going out to the nearest minute), including the "seeing each other" phase...we properly met on the 29th June and went on our first date-like thing on the 30th.

Reply 8

Fluent in Lies

Who cares, just be glad that at some point it happened.

Reply 9

HereFishyFishy

For me, it was the first date. But that's only because we got incredibly drunk and slurred that we wanted to "go out" now. I think we actually used that term too. Dear God.

Reply 10

jenna_is_ace

I hate being messed about with all the confusing crap, so with my ex I remember we'd had a nice 2nd kind of date and then I'd met up with him later that night and he was holding my hand at the club, so I just came out with it and said "so are we going out then?" blunt but successful. Glad he didn't freak out.