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    My best friend is going to a boarding school for sixth form in another city. We've been friends since we were like 5,so I'm quite upset that we will now be in different places. Is it possible to stay good friends despite being at different colleges and in different cities?
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    It will work if you want it to work. Email, MSN, Webcam, Facebook - you've got plenty of ways to still talk. Perhaps you could arrange to meet once a month or something like that.
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    she'll be here during hols, but otherwise she'll be pretty far away.
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    To be completely honest, I really doubt it'll work. You probably won't even notice as it fades away, to be honest. You'll have different lives and friends, and contact will probably just become more and more sparse. It's unfortunate, but inevitable. However hard you work at it, eventually you'll just sort of grow out of each other. Like I said, you won't even notice it, you'll just sort of realise one day that she's not really your 'best friend' anymore, just a mate.

    My best friend went to a different college in the same town. We were fine at first, talking every day on myspace and MSN and meeting up every other weekend. Now, I haven't seen her in three months, and I talk to her maybe once a week at most. We've just grown apart by not seeing each other every day. She has new friends, and so do I.

    That's really depressing to read, actually, but I think it's fairly accurate.
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    It will work if you make it work, if you've been friends since you were 5 you must be pretty close and have a strong friendship. Me and my best friends are all going to different universities and we'll try our best to keep seeing eachother and talking loads and i guess at the end of it if we're still best friends it shows how strong a friendship can be
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    It will work if both of you put effort into communicating. Eg. via email, msn, phone, even letters.
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    (Original post by Joanna May)
    To be completely honest, I really doubt it'll work. You probably won't even notice as it fades away, to be honest. You'll have different lives and friends, and contact will probably just become more and more sparse. It's unfortunate, but inevitable. However hard you work at it, eventually you'll just sort of grow out of each other. Like I said, you won't even notice it, you'll just sort of realise one day that she's not really your 'best friend' anymore, just a mate.

    My best friend went to a different college in the same town. We were fine at first, talking every day on myspace and MSN and meeting up every other weekend. Now, I haven't seen her in three months, and I talk to her maybe once a week at most. We've just grown apart by not seeing each other every day. She has new friends, and so do I.

    That's really depressing to read, actually, but I think it's fairly accurate.

    but just because it didn't work out for you, how can you say it's inevitable?
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    I think it's likely that you'll grow apart too. Almost without realising, and then one day as above, you'll realise some of your new friends may now be 'closer' to you.

    But with commitment and effort of course you can still remain friends.
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    I'm sure you'll stay friends. you may grow above however you will surely still appreciate each other more when you do see each other.
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    isn't there anyone here who stayed friends with their best friend(s), despite going to study in a different city?
    It would only be 2 years, but then who knows where we go to university.
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    My three best friends all went to different colleges, and they all took a gap year while I went to uni, and if anything the friendships are even stronger, and thats three years of not going to the same school everyday.
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    (Original post by ......?)
    My three best friends all went to different colleges, and they all took a gap year while I went to uni, and if anything the friendships are even stronger, and thats three years of not going to the same school everyday.
    but in the same city?
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    errm well like others have said i grow apart from even my best friends when we went to different colleges, which was abit upsetting but people change and move on in life. However it is possible as some of the friends i made at college still were friends with people from school, just depends on the people really. Most of my mates are going to uni now, further away, they will be goin together and i'm worried that i will be left and forgotten about, i hope this doesnt happen but i will make a huge effort to keep in touch.

    so just really depends on the people and making an effort to keep in touch
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    I can unequivocally say that I have kept in contact with all my mates in Australia, and I haven't seen them in 2.5 years. If you want to stay in contact with each other, then you will!
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    (Original post by chocolat321)
    but in the same city?
    One was in the same city, but he was boarding while I lived at home so practically a different city, and the other two were in different cities.
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    (Original post by chocolat321)
    isn't there anyone here who stayed friends with their best friend(s), despite going to study in a different city?
    It would only be 2 years, but then who knows where we go to university.
    My best friend and I are as close as ever after 2 years of being in different towns and at different colleges. If you both want it to work, it will.
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    (Original post by chocolat321)

    but just because it didn't work out for you, how can you say it's inevitable?
    Funnily enough, I'm not the only person I know. I don't know of any friendships that have remained as strong as they once were after the friends stopped seeing each other regularly (ie daily). They might not fall out or lose contact completely, but to think they'll remain as tight as they are now, if they aren't going to see each other in person often, is incredibley optimistic.
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    (Original post by Joanna May)
    Funnily enough, I'm not the only person I know. I don't know of any friendships that have remained as strong as they once were after the friends stopped seeing each other regularly (ie daily). They might not fall out or lose contact completely, but to think they'll remain as tight as they are now, if they aren't going to see each other in person often, is incredibley optimistic.
    yes maybe, let's see
    guess it's the same like when people go to different universities
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    but what if we hang out during the hols? not enough?
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    (Original post by chocolat321)
    My best friend is going to a boarding school for sixth form in another city. We've been friends since we were like 5,so I'm quite upset that we will now be in different places. Is it possible to stay good friends despite being at different colleges and in different cities?
    Of course it is if you both make an effort... although its not as far away or a boarding school i went to a different college to all of my friends and live at my aunts during the week and work part time but i still keep in touch with my friends like other have suggested via phone, myspace, msn, email.. i still have a close relationship with my friends even though we dont go to the same college it just takes a bit of effort.
 
 
 
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