Never been kissed......

Hello Everyone.
I am about to go into sixth form. I have never had a boyfriend and never been kissed. I don't think I'm ugly, I'm not fat and I'm not weird. I'm an average person. What's wrong with me???? Why can't I get a boyfriend??
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Reply 1

KwungSun

Sugar_Plum_Fairy

Maybe you're not putting out enough. Make yourself more available.

Reply 2

probablyprocrastinating

It's all about opportunity - you can be the prettiest, wittiest girl in the world but if opportunity doesn't present itself it isn't going to happen!

Sixth form might present you with some more, but don't feel pressured to do it before you're ready just for the sake of having done it. You're still young - don't worry!

I bet you have a lot of friends in the same boat who feel just like you do.

Hope sixth form goes well :smile:

Reply 3

73337

KwungSun

Maybe you're not putting out enough. Make yourself more available.

Good advice. I also recommend making friends on social networking sites with 14 year olds named lucy. ;yes;

Reply 4

KarlZ

Was in the same boat as you - I didnt get a boyfriend in till late in Year 13 at Sixth Form. All my mates were in relationships with the exception of one or two. I beat myself up over it and didnt have that much confidence about it all, although to everyone else I appeared confident. The moment I stopped thinking about it and focusing on being with someone and just chilled out about it it all pretty much kinda happened. I went out with my mates and had fun and one night it all seemed to come together. It is hard and I know it can be a really self esteem blow but believe me it will happen! :smile:

If you see a guy you like then take the plunge and start up a conversation with him if you feel confident enough, at the end of the day life is too short to worry about rejection!

Reply 5

Go to Lincoln on a Saturday night and get drunk, it'll happen soon enough. ;yes;

Reply 6

Sugar_Plum_Fairy

Are you near Lincoln then???

Reply 7

Near-ish, though i wasn't offering my services. :p:

Reply 8

ObsidianExon

i'll give you a kiss.....x

there :wink:

Reply 9

Sugar_Plum_Fairy

3232

Near-ish, though i wasn't offering my services. :p:

I weren't asking!!!!
:p:

I'm not like that!! Prob why I have never had a boyfriend!!!

Reply 10

jenna_is_ace

Don't worry about it. I didn't kiss someone until I was 17! And then got my first boyfriend approaching my 18th birthday. Don't fret, as cliche as it sounds, I think when people tell you to stop worrying and looking for it, is usually when it happens. It did for me in anycase. I'm single again now and I still think this mindset is true. I only ever seem to get any action when I decide I can't be arsed looking for any, haha!

Reply 11

Sugar_Plum_Fairy

ObsidianExon

i'll give you a kiss.....x

there :wink:

Aaawwww!
Thanx!!:embarasse

Reply 12

Laevis

Sugar_Plum_Fairy

Aaawwww!
Thanx!!:embarasse

I thought you weren't like that :p:

Reply 13

Dionysus

Don't worry about it, you're still quite young and you have lots of time yet. Certainly when you're 18 and start going clubbing you'll find it isn't so hard.

Reply 14

monkeyhead

I didnt kiss till 17 either. I somehow managed to get with a girl at this party(I know it doesnt sound good, but neither of us had been drinking and it wasnt a dare or anything like that! Just got talking and thats what happened! :biggrin:

).

I dont know how it happened because I was fairly shy at the time...but then again it was at a time where I was starting to experience new things, new oppertunites etc.

Within saying that though, I've never really had a proper serious relationship but hey its early days yet!

Anywho its all about showing to people your there, I'm not saying advertise yourself...but more making people aware your around! So at parties, social events get talking to people who you think you'll get along with and who knows!

Also seeing as your entering sixth form, when I went through the transistion of being a "school boy" to being a Sixth former or "bigger school boy without the uniform " :p:

I noticed people had changed alot.
People I hadnt even spoken to much during my school years, had started talking. Guys were mixing with girls because they were no longer afraid to! New people, new friends, if you like new oppertunites!

So dont worry too much about it....its not like your 40 :P: :biggrin:

Matt x

Reply 15

mrs_bellamy

Don't worry about it! From my experience you get so many more opportunities to meet people in sixth form. 16 is still young, and as patronising as it sounds, you will grow up a lot in the next couple of years. I'd hardly kissed anyone before sixth form and never had a proper boyfriend, most of my friends were the same.

Reply 16

Sugar_Plum_Fairy

Leavis2

I thought you weren't like that :p:

Its an embarassed face if you looked it up!!!
:p:

Reply 17

Laevis

Sugar_Plum_Fairy

Its an embarassed face if you looked it up!!!
:p:

Well you could have just been embarassed about having to answer to accussations like that in the first place :p:

EDIT: Oh and my constructive advice would be not to worry about it at all. You're young, so just wait for the right person rather than kiss anyone just for the sake of having kissed someone.

Reply 18

small&mighty

I'm 17 and haven't yet (just about to start second year of sixth form). I have had opportunities over the past 2/3 years, but I never let anything happen because I push people away and therefore not let them get close when they start to.

But it'll happen when you least expect it to. Especially starting sixth form, as you begin to talk more to the people who've been there the whole of secondary school lol. And those in the year above you. And of course you've got the new people who start... :smile:

Reply 19