How do I get over her?

Two months ago I was rejected by a girl I really, really liked. I don't want to say I actually loved her because I don't think I've been in love with a girl before and plus I really hope this is not what it's like. It was more like an obsession. Everyday since, I have felt only worse about it. She is in my head from morning till night and I wake everyday with a horrible feeling. I have even rejected other girls because I can't find it in me to feel anything towards them because all I think of is her. I am good-looking, 6ft 3 and very intelligent. I don't have other social problems and I have very good academic prospects. And yet I am slowly beginning to feel more and more worthless...so worthless that in fact I feel like there is no point for me to continue living. I just cannot stop thinking that she is so much better than me, mainly to do with the way I am feeling depressed everyday while she is having the time of her life. She used to talk to me but now that she got a boyfriend she wont even do that. I just want her to say something nice to me, to make me feel a little better, but she never thought of doing that. I haven't told her exactly how I feel because I don't want to sound pathetic in front of her. I thought that time heals, but in this case it's only exacerbating everything. What should I do?

Reply 1

ßlαcksωαn

so worthless that in fact I feel like there is no point for me to continue living.

hey hey hey come on buddy, this isnt really true. Take a look at the big picture, you were/are infatuated with her, a little crush. Geez you weren't even dating. It may seem like its gonna take forever to get over her now, but it'll happen in good time.
Don't think you are wothless just because of a rejection! there is so much more to life than a hung up on one girl!

Reply 2

GTi

Death

I just cannot stop thinking that she is so much better than me

You have got to stop thinking like that, or it will kill you. everytime you get rejected just think its them thats missing out not you. you can just get a next girl. shes not all that and not worth your time. move on, you'll feel much better.

Reply 3

shauny

You have a very harsh case of 'oneitis'. An obsession over one girl, which makes you see her as perfect (or more perfect than you) and very important. It's a terrible thing..

One of the quickest cures for it is to get out there and start knocking around with other lasses. Quit turning them down, go ask some out. It helps you to see women (and your oneitis girl) how they really are - are not perfect - they are just fallible humans like you and I. This'll help. A lot. She is not "better than you", she is a normal human who eats, ******s, sleeps and all that other stuff. Also, she probably thinks of you as a guy with balls now for being man enough to ask her out (or whatever you did).

Just because SHE doesn't like you, doesn't other lasses don't. In fact, they DO, you had to turn them down remember? Get over it bud, pull your head out of your arse and start living again! :smile:

In 80yrs time when you're laying on your deathbed just wishing you had more life left, do you REALLY think this'll matter?

..shauny

Reply 4

fblade

I know how you feel mate, tbh its just going to take time, focus on positive things :smile:

Reply 5

DeskJet

Music_Enthusiast

Clearly. And modest too.

How about you give me something to be happy about, hey?

In 80yrs time when you're laying on your deathbed just wishing you had more life left, do you REALLY think this'll matter?

In 80 years time I'd probably be wishing I was dead..The fact is that I am 19 and this is the time of my life when I should be happy, partying all the time and being with the girl I love. Not feeling rejected and completely worthless. The weird thing is that I know I am not worthless but I still feel it. How does that work?

Reply 6

username47781

It's not the end of the world, there are so many girls out there. Don't let one rejection bruise you, it happens to most of us at some point. Just go out and enjoy yourself, less you look the more likely you will probably end up finding someone.

Reply 7

Dream_Catcher

For everyone there is one, and she isn't yours. You will find yours and that "oneisit" will be worth it. But at the moment it ain't.

Best advise is to keep your chin up and realise that you are a nice guy and a nice girl will come along without your even trying. They do say: all good things come to those who wait. And if you can't wait get out there and find that special person.

Best of luck.

Reply 8

Sycren

hmmm Iv felt like this before aswell....I think you have to realise that she has found someone else and that you should start engaging her as a friend. Start inviting her to events with you and your friends and that way its not as if you are asking her out and so on. Be cheerful around her. If you want her to say nice things about you go bowling or something like that where ppl can congratulate you on your skills.....Im not saying that you should take her away from her boyfriend as that could possibly tear down any relationship as a friend or anything you have with her but just be with her if she needs you and be the person for her to talk to for advice and so on.

I have no idea what her bf is like he may be an arrogant twerp and so may not last long, use this time to further your relationship with her as a friend and.......................later ask her out again when she is free and you get on well.