I'm fed up of most guys!

Right, I'm a girl 18 years old,I've never been in a proper relationship because I'm afraid guys will use me for one thing and will GOoooo, that would break me...

Anyway,I've been on lots of dates with many guys. I think I'm a decent girl and well most of them think I'm one of the '' nicest girls'' and can easily talk to me about anything. I've recently got asked out more during the summer holiday, and have been on some dates BUT on every dates, most of the guys are too forward like kissing me full on and trying to fondle me... I hate it and recently there was this one guy who tried to get me into bed by the second date :frown:

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These guys I date, I don't even know them to start with and they act like that on the first few dates... I just want a decent genuine guy that would like me for ME. I'm really sick of guys right now. I'm put off by guys who are forward too. ARGH.

Sorry about the rant... I've given up hope on thinking there are decent guys around :s-smilie:

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Reply 1

Adam456

Of course there are decent guys out there, you just gotta find them! i like to think i'm a decent guy! :smile:

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

I don't even dress flirty either. On some dates, I wore a jumper and jeans to make myself less attractive but they still try it on me :frown:

...I'm soo fed up of that attitude.

Reply 3

Tailz

9

Your obviously not going for the right guys, i usually ended up going out with people id been friends with anyway so i know what they're like. (Ive been with my current bf 3 years now :biggrin:

) You should try saying yeah ill go on a date with you but just as friends? Then if that goes well proceed from there?

Reply 4

emzay

Good on you for not giving in to them! Don't worry, you'll get one of the few nice guys soon enough! Just keep doing what you're doing, not getting with guys just because you can! :smile:

Reply 5

Larrisa

I wouldn't go on 'dates' if i were you.
I'd stop looking for a guy and a decent one will come around when you least expect it or don't realise it!

Try being friends with guys rather than being their girlfriend.
Consequently there's no pressure to do anything and you get to know them inside out and maybe, if you're lucky you'll fall for one of them!

Good luck!

Reply 6

jumpinglunch

13

Your picking/attracting the wrong type of guys.....................

Reply 7

Becca <3.

1

Try to be a little more open-minded. Maybe you're going for the wrong "type"?

There's someone, don't worry. :smile:

Chin up Love!

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

Larrisa

I wouldn't go on 'dates' if i were you.
I'd stop looking for a guy and a decent one will come around when you least expect it or don't realise it!

Try being friends with guys rather than being their girlfriend.
Consequently there's no pressure to do anything and you get to know them inside out and maybe, if you're lucky you'll fall for one of them!

Good luck!

i'm not even looking for them, just they ask me out...mostly friend of a friend. :s-smilie:

I was just really annoyed cos most say you have a really nice personality but damn youre body is hot.. and it just makes me CRINGE..EURGH and run off... I think I might have a phobia of intimate forward guys...

Also I do try to be friends with guys but most never accept it, thats what gets me DOWN everytime. :frown:

Reply 9

Dionysus

15

It may just be that you are very good looking. Just ask them to take it more slowly. The majority of us would happily do so. If they still push it too quickly, then you're probably right. But give blokes a chance. Of course they want hugs, kisses and sex, but that doesn't mean they don't genuinely love you.

Reply 10

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3

Have you thought about dating a eunuch?

Reply 11

fblade

14

Anonymous

i'm not even looking for them, just they ask me out...mostly friend of a friend. :s-smilie:

I was just really annoyed cos most say you have a really nice personality but damn youre body is hot.. and it just makes me CRINGE..EURGH and run off... I think I might have a phobia of intimate forward guys...

Also I do try to be friends with guys but most never accept it, thats what gets me DOWN everytime. :frown:

When they say that, run away. And there are decent guys around.

Reply 12

prettygreeneyes99

9

Hmm, not trying to sound harsh but do you give out the wrong signals? i.e. being very flirty etc? .. and where have u met all these guys? If you've met them on a night out or something then that could be why your meeting the wrong kind of guys..

Reply 13

Innuendo_anonymous

Just wait a while and im sure you'll find a nice guy eventually. Nice guys are out there, just harder to find.

Reply 14

Larrisa

Like everyone is saying, you seem to be attracting the wrong guys.

Maybe try something different eg. sports clubs? Do something which you enjoy and meet someone with the same interests?

:smile:

Reply 15

Helenia

20

They're horny teenage boys. It would be weird if they didn't try it on, frankly. They can't help it if they're attracted to you, and sure, you can tell them to stop, but you can't really assume all men are lecherous pigs because they want to kiss you. Even if you didn't let them do any of this, or they played "decent guy" and didn't try it on, I can bet most of them would still want to.

If you're looking for old-fashioned romance with only chaste pecks on the cheek for the first 6 dates, I think you might need to consider changing your tactics...

Reply 16

hazm

Theres loads of nice guys, and there not hard to find.

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

Dionysus

It may just be that you are very good looking. Just ask them to take it more slowly. The majority of us would happily do so. If they still push it too quickly, then you're probably right. But give blokes a chance. Of course they want hugs, kisses and sex, but that doesn't mean they don't genuinely love you.

The thing is... I do tell him AGAIN after the 1st date and by the 2nd, he still try it on and eventually, he's in dumpville and try to crawl back to me by being too clingy. I guess maybe I am after the wrong kinds, most are the confident types. But I do try to be open minded...but can't help who i'm attracted to.

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

OP

prettygreeneyes99

Hmm, not trying to sound harsh but do you give out the wrong signals? i.e. being very flirty etc? .. and where have u met all these guys? If you've met them on a night out or something then that could be why your meeting the wrong kind of guys..

Hmm.. I don't think I'm flirty, I easily laugh loads when they say funny things and ask lots of questions about him... But I don't do the constant touching and flicking hair...etc :s-smilie:

BUTTT most these guys that asked me out at those through friends... that I don't really know... But I try to be friends first but most act as if theyre on a date with me and pay for drinks...I always stop them and say I'm paying and remind them I like him as a friend blah blah blah...Just annoying.

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

OP

Helenia

They're horny teenage boys. It would be weird if they didn't try it on, frankly. They can't help it if they're attracted to you, and sure, you can tell them to stop, but you can't really assume all men are lecherous pigs because they want to kiss you. Even if you didn't let them do any of this, or they played "decent guy" and didn't try it on, I can bet most of them would still want to.

If you're looking for old-fashioned romance with only chaste pecks on the cheek for the first 6 dates, I think you might need to consider changing your tactics...

The old fashioned romance kind of guy I would like to be honest... I don't know how to find that kind of guy nowadays when some guys are forward nowadays.

I'm fed up of most guys!

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