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Why am I so immature and cause trouble?
Ive put this as anon as I know a few people on here
This will sound pathetic since im 22 so if you hate anyone arguing with an 80 year old don't read lol
Basically I think theres something wrong with me as Ive just been across to my nans and she told me about how the reception at her doctors rang her up and she said she didn't want to go as she has alreay been, she then said that in her day they didn't have all these diseases in people and hospitals and that doctors and nurses were English knew what they were talking about instead of being trained abroad and comming across. My mum (her daughter) is a nurse and I said 'so are you saying your daughter is a worse nurse than in your day' she said 'no your mum has done the full training and is top grade' I said shes not top grade, shes grade D' she said she is you can't get any higher. We then had an argument about it and she said 'oh your just trying to put your mum down and cause trouble, its every time you come lately you cause trouble' I said im not she said 'see your mum is more intelligent than you will ever be you can't even finish university (I had panic attacks and left)'. I said 'how do you know shes more intelligent she said cause I brought you both up and she could do a lot more things than you could when she was little'.
I was just fuming inside cause she said this but I don't know why, I had visions of threatening her with a knife and punching her and allsorts of attention seeking behaviour which is evil but I just sat there fuming and thinking rise above it and said 'thanks'. 2 minutes later she was being pleasant and talking about tv and asking when I will clean her windows, I told her on sunday then just ignored her and went.
I think most people would say I shouldn't be arguing with an 80 year old as I will regret everything when she dies but that can be said about anyone. Shes not frail or anything and is ok mentally. I didn't intend to argue I was just correcting her but thinking about it I felt better after I went, like better than when I was going
I know im immature so I just want to ask how do you become more mature so that you can take criticism? Also is there something wrong with me for having evil thought? Im kinda scared that I might kill someone someday for getting so mad.
This will sound pathetic since im 22 so if you hate anyone arguing with an 80 year old don't read lol
Basically I think theres something wrong with me as Ive just been across to my nans and she told me about how the reception at her doctors rang her up and she said she didn't want to go as she has alreay been, she then said that in her day they didn't have all these diseases in people and hospitals and that doctors and nurses were English knew what they were talking about instead of being trained abroad and comming across. My mum (her daughter) is a nurse and I said 'so are you saying your daughter is a worse nurse than in your day' she said 'no your mum has done the full training and is top grade' I said shes not top grade, shes grade D' she said she is you can't get any higher. We then had an argument about it and she said 'oh your just trying to put your mum down and cause trouble, its every time you come lately you cause trouble' I said im not she said 'see your mum is more intelligent than you will ever be you can't even finish university (I had panic attacks and left)'. I said 'how do you know shes more intelligent she said cause I brought you both up and she could do a lot more things than you could when she was little'.
I was just fuming inside cause she said this but I don't know why, I had visions of threatening her with a knife and punching her and allsorts of attention seeking behaviour which is evil but I just sat there fuming and thinking rise above it and said 'thanks'. 2 minutes later she was being pleasant and talking about tv and asking when I will clean her windows, I told her on sunday then just ignored her and went.
I think most people would say I shouldn't be arguing with an 80 year old as I will regret everything when she dies but that can be said about anyone. Shes not frail or anything and is ok mentally. I didn't intend to argue I was just correcting her but thinking about it I felt better after I went, like better than when I was going
I know im immature so I just want to ask how do you become more mature so that you can take criticism? Also is there something wrong with me for having evil thought? Im kinda scared that I might kill someone someday for getting so mad.
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Reply 1
Anonymous
I know im immature so I just want to ask how do you become more mature so that you can take criticism? Also is there something wrong with me for having evil thought? Im kinda scared that I might kill someone someday for getting so mad.
I know im immature so I just want to ask how do you become more mature so that you can take criticism? Also is there something wrong with me for having evil thought? Im kinda scared that I might kill someone someday for getting so mad.
Ignore it and give her a right load of abuse in your head. Sorted.
Reply 2
I don't know what to say really.
But regarding the "killing thing", I'm a really nice happy person, quite jolly. But a couple of years ago (and even today), if anyone so much as annoys me, I'm suddenly going on about how I'm going to cause some serious harm to them. Hahahaha, one time someone's mother didn't like me very much and I once asked around to see if you could continue your education in jail because I was willing to kill this person's mother if it meant getting rid of her. Yes, I know it's not funny, I'm being semi serious!
I've never beaten up a person in my life, never been in a fight and I hate conflict. But my friends pointed out that I have some quite violent thoughts.
Now I can't say you're going to act upon them but I know I won't and I'm hoping it'll be the same for you.
But regarding the "killing thing", I'm a really nice happy person, quite jolly. But a couple of years ago (and even today), if anyone so much as annoys me, I'm suddenly going on about how I'm going to cause some serious harm to them. Hahahaha, one time someone's mother didn't like me very much and I once asked around to see if you could continue your education in jail because I was willing to kill this person's mother if it meant getting rid of her. Yes, I know it's not funny, I'm being semi serious!
I've never beaten up a person in my life, never been in a fight and I hate conflict. But my friends pointed out that I have some quite violent thoughts.
Now I can't say you're going to act upon them but I know I won't and I'm hoping it'll be the same for you.
Reply 3
How old are you though? I think people are expected to be fully mature by 21 lol. I just started to get annoyed from the moment she went on about foreign doctors and 'super bugs' in hospitals. Then was fuming when she said I wasn't as intelligent as my mum and she had proof, I think shes right which is probably why it annoyed me so much.
Reply 4
nanananabatman
I don't know what to say really.
But regarding the "killing thing", I'm a really nice happy person, quite jolly. But a couple of years ago (and even today), if anyone so much as annoys me, I'm suddenly going on about how I'm going to cause some serious harm to them. Hahahaha, one time someone's mother didn't like me very much and I once asked around to see if you could continue your education in jail because I was willing to kill this person's mother if it meant getting rid of her. Yes, I know it's not funny, I'm being semi serious!
I've never beaten up a person in my life, never been in a fight and I hate conflict. But my friends pointed out that I have some quite violent thoughts.
Now I can't say you're going to act upon them but I know I won't and I'm hoping it'll be the same for you.
But regarding the "killing thing", I'm a really nice happy person, quite jolly. But a couple of years ago (and even today), if anyone so much as annoys me, I'm suddenly going on about how I'm going to cause some serious harm to them. Hahahaha, one time someone's mother didn't like me very much and I once asked around to see if you could continue your education in jail because I was willing to kill this person's mother if it meant getting rid of her. Yes, I know it's not funny, I'm being semi serious!
I've never beaten up a person in my life, never been in a fight and I hate conflict. But my friends pointed out that I have some quite violent thoughts.
Now I can't say you're going to act upon them but I know I won't and I'm hoping it'll be the same for you.
lmao, I got mad at my dad when he slapped me over the head and wasn't strong enough to fight him so started hitting and punching my own face, he called me a nutter and hit me even more yelling 'stop'.
Reply 5
I'm 21 in September! I know some idiots at 24 and I'm far more mature than they will ever be, unfortunately.
Reply 6
Umm yea you were being a little immature, but no one likes criticism I guess... Just count to 10 and you should feel better... it was a little harsh of your nan to say that though, maybe you should have a word with your mum and she can have a word with your nan 
Reply 7
nanananabatman
I'm 21 in September! I know some idiots at 24 and I'm far more mature than they will ever be, unfortunately.
Ditto, my sisters 30 and I swear I was more mature than her when I was 14 and she was 24... possibly why most of my family dont talk to her
Reply 8
prettygreeneyes99
Ditto, my sisters 30 and I swear I was more mature than her when I was 14 and she was 24... possibly why most of my family dont talk to her
Why what does she do? Sorry but this is my favourite thread for the next 5 minutes.
Reply 9
Hold on a minute, if the op is immature surely her nan is, you can't compare intelligence by how fast you developed as an infant. Or can you?
Reply 10
Riddy
Why what does she do? Sorry but this is my favourite thread for the next 5 minutes.
mostly just general gossiping, stirring things and causing trouble.. plus using her children as bargaining tools when trying to get round my mum.. i.e. my dad had cheated on my mum so my sister told her to leave him or she'd never see her grandchildren again.. lovely!.. plus when I was younger she got one of her boyfriends arrested for apparently punching her when it turned out she'd fallen off a chair.. she's a lil crazy actually
Reply 11
Anonymous
Ive put this as anon as I know a few people on here
This will sound pathetic since im 22 so if you hate anyone arguing with an 80 year old don't read lol
Basically I think theres something wrong with me as Ive just been across to my nans and she told me about how the reception at her doctors rang her up and she said she didn't want to go as she has alreay been, she then said that in her day they didn't have all these diseases in people and hospitals and that doctors and nurses were English knew what they were talking about instead of being trained abroad and comming across. My mum (her daughter) is a nurse and I said 'so are you saying your daughter is a worse nurse than in your day' she said 'no your mum has done the full training and is top grade' I said shes not top grade, shes grade D' she said she is you can't get any higher. We then had an argument about it and she said 'oh your just trying to put your mum down and cause trouble, its every time you come lately you cause trouble' I said im not she said 'see your mum is more intelligent than you will ever be you can't even finish university (I had panic attacks and left)'. I said 'how do you know shes more intelligent she said cause I brought you both up and she could do a lot more things than you could when she was little'.
I was just fuming inside cause she said this but I don't know why, I had visions of threatening her with a knife and punching her and allsorts of attention seeking behaviour which is evil but I just sat there fuming and thinking rise above it and said 'thanks'. 2 minutes later she was being pleasant and talking about tv and asking when I will clean her windows, I told her on sunday then just ignored her and went.
I think most people would say I shouldn't be arguing with an 80 year old as I will regret everything when she dies but that can be said about anyone. Shes not frail or anything and is ok mentally. I didn't intend to argue I was just correcting her but thinking about it I felt better after I went, like better than when I was going
I know im immature so I just want to ask how do you become more mature so that you can take criticism? Also is there something wrong with me for having evil thought? Im kinda scared that I might kill someone someday for getting so mad.
This will sound pathetic since im 22 so if you hate anyone arguing with an 80 year old don't read lol
Basically I think theres something wrong with me as Ive just been across to my nans and she told me about how the reception at her doctors rang her up and she said she didn't want to go as she has alreay been, she then said that in her day they didn't have all these diseases in people and hospitals and that doctors and nurses were English knew what they were talking about instead of being trained abroad and comming across. My mum (her daughter) is a nurse and I said 'so are you saying your daughter is a worse nurse than in your day' she said 'no your mum has done the full training and is top grade' I said shes not top grade, shes grade D' she said she is you can't get any higher. We then had an argument about it and she said 'oh your just trying to put your mum down and cause trouble, its every time you come lately you cause trouble' I said im not she said 'see your mum is more intelligent than you will ever be you can't even finish university (I had panic attacks and left)'. I said 'how do you know shes more intelligent she said cause I brought you both up and she could do a lot more things than you could when she was little'.
I was just fuming inside cause she said this but I don't know why, I had visions of threatening her with a knife and punching her and allsorts of attention seeking behaviour which is evil but I just sat there fuming and thinking rise above it and said 'thanks'. 2 minutes later she was being pleasant and talking about tv and asking when I will clean her windows, I told her on sunday then just ignored her and went.
I think most people would say I shouldn't be arguing with an 80 year old as I will regret everything when she dies but that can be said about anyone. Shes not frail or anything and is ok mentally. I didn't intend to argue I was just correcting her but thinking about it I felt better after I went, like better than when I was going
I know im immature so I just want to ask how do you become more mature so that you can take criticism? Also is there something wrong with me for having evil thought? Im kinda scared that I might kill someone someday for getting so mad.
tbh i'd probably done the same if i were you. being compared to someone else in your family in that respect is just not nice and it just seems like she said it just because you shut her up about her own daughter.
i don't mean to be disrespectful to your grandmother or anything - but if she asked me about cleaning her windows afterwards i'd have told her where to shove them. Although she is an 80 year old so doing that would not be cricket ifyouknowwhatimean...so you probably did the right thing...
perhaps i'm the immature one
Reply 12
Oh and not that Im a granny hater... but theyre not as fragile as they look so dont feel bad about arguing with her just because she's old. The amount of old people Ive seen thinking they can say and do things just because theyre old etc etc is unbelievable
Reply 13
20
You're probably just a tad narcissistic. At least, I know I've killed for less.
Reply 14
Grannies sometimes know what they are talking about, mine doesn't but they are not as weak as they look, like others have said. I would be offended too so your not too immature.
Reply 15
16
As I was reading that I was thinking what I would have said to your nan. and I sure as hell wouldnt be cleaning her windows. Cheeky nan.
I used to rise a lot to people at work. And I'd write some sarky email and then give them a piece of my mind on the phone. Excellent career move. Now, I write an email, but I dont send it. I also go outside for a ciggie (optional) and walk about. When I have calmed down, then I deal with it.
TBH, your nan is clearly deluded, and you should treat her like that. I mean that in a nice way. Your nan, I assume, isn't an authority on what constitutes excellent nursing (although being English seems to be v important). I find "Yes Gran" works really well. Sometimes correcting people embarrasses them. It could be she was just angling for a fight because she was bored. My gran does this. Spouts a lot of rubbish and then waits for my reaction. Sometimes, I give her hell. Sometimes, I just say "Yes, gran." Depends if I feel like a debate.
I used to rise a lot to people at work. And I'd write some sarky email and then give them a piece of my mind on the phone. Excellent career move. Now, I write an email, but I dont send it. I also go outside for a ciggie (optional) and walk about. When I have calmed down, then I deal with it.
TBH, your nan is clearly deluded, and you should treat her like that. I mean that in a nice way. Your nan, I assume, isn't an authority on what constitutes excellent nursing (although being English seems to be v important
). I find "Yes Gran" works really well. Sometimes correcting people embarrasses them. It could be she was just angling for a fight because she was bored. My gran does this. Spouts a lot of rubbish and then waits for my reaction. Sometimes, I give her hell. Sometimes, I just say "Yes, gran." Depends if I feel like a debate.Reply 16
Riddy
lmao, I got mad at my dad when he slapped me over the head and wasn't strong enough to fight him so started hitting and punching my own face, he called me a nutter and hit me even more yelling 'stop'.
Hardly surprising.
Reply 17
riux
tbh i'd probably done the same if i were you. being compared to someone else in your family in that respect is just not nice and it just seems like she said it just because you shut her up about her own daughter.
i don't mean to be disrespectful to your grandmother or anything - but if she asked me about cleaning her windows afterwards i'd have told her where to shove them. Although she is an 80 year old so doing that would not be cricket ifyouknowwhatimean...so you probably did the right thing...
perhaps i'm the immature one
i don't mean to be disrespectful to your grandmother or anything - but if she asked me about cleaning her windows afterwards i'd have told her where to shove them. Although she is an 80 year old so doing that would not be cricket ifyouknowwhatimean...so you probably did the right thing...
perhaps i'm the immature one
hopefully you'll be able to revolve things with your grandmother and family!
Reply 18
So hang on, you put down her daughter then she put you down? You are both as bad as each other.
Reply 19
Bubblebee
So hang on, you put down her daughter then she put you down? You are both as bad as each other.
If you read it properly the op corrected his/her grandma about her daughters career.
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