regrets- making like a misery.

well i cant be bothered to use the anon function, and this will probably just be a long rant sorry..

well i'm 18 and just regret so much already not big things but lots of little things from the past. Such as not experimenting,not doing 'teen things', not going out with mates often. Shyness just really held me back, ive never had many friends or had a boyfriend and just recently missed out on getting to know this really great guy because of shyness.

I know that you cant go back and change the past and that i should just forget about things but i really cant, i just feel like ive missed out on so much fun, my parents are now pushing me to get a job and pay board/rent, i'm really struggling to get a job. I just see my life as being boring all the time. My few mates are going to uni together now, and i'm not going. I just think they will forget me and have a time of there lives at uni. :redface:

does anyone else feel like this? sorry about the rant its just a stupid thing thats bothering me and i dont know what to do now to make things more exciting...

Reply 1

lea164

I get moments like this, so don't worry you're not alone. :smile:

I'm sort of in the same position, and I think people really underestimate how shyness can affect your life espeically when it comes to getting a job, so the only advice I can give you is what works for me and to fake confidence when going for interviews. Also I think the more experiences you gain, the more your shyness will disappear, so forget about regrets you may have and go after whatever you want. Life's too short for regrets. :smile:

Reply 2

Kil-Kev

join the club, my regrets eat me aswell but the only thing to fix it is by doing things that make you happy and will take your mind off or putting right whatever you think has made you go wrong

Reply 3

$am0th

welcome to my world atm, no gf, no friends it seems.. nothing to do.. god i wish these weeks would just hurry up :frown:

Reply 4

DodgyTrousers

I think we've all been here.

Obsessing over what you've missed is not going to change it. The only thing you can do is to try harder next time. Remember, just because it went wrong the first time, does not mean it will next time. You may well be looking back 5 years from now thinking how great everything turned out. If you gently nudge things towards what you want, you will eventually get there.

Reply 5

pollystyrene07

well as you can see from the posts, you're def not alone.
i used to feel like this too in my early-mid teens when i used to suffer from shyness/anxiety. at the time, you think that it will go on forever but it doesn't if you're brave enough to face up to it. what helped me was doing things that scared me a bit or that i really didn't want to do every day. as someone has already said, the more experience you gain, the more confident you will start to feel and happiness will come with it. start valuing yourself as a person more too. write down all your good points ie. why you have friends in the first place. also, maybe consider that 1 day you will become a stronger person because of your past? i'm the total opisitte of how i used to be- i'm at uni, got a bf, friends, good social life, and i'm sure things will start to change for you too. stay strong.

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