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why am I terrified of work?
When im at home doing nothing Im ok but as soon as I get a new job or start college I get depressed and have panic attacks and just hate life, I end up quiting and teh cycle starts again. I want to get over this without councelling but I started part time work 3 weeks and was anxious all morning, went calm in the afternoon and then was ok for the rest of the day, when I got home I was so pleased that Id prooved to myself I could do it. Then I went in 2 days later and the exact same thing has happened every day. This is why I quit college but how come no matter how much I proove to myself I can do it I still get anxious and horrible feelings? I think it all started when I was 17 and had some sort of unconcious fit on my first day of work, I brought it on myself by being anxious though
Id like to be a nurse or physio or something related but how can I if for 4 years now I get nasty feelings everytime I attend work or college? Im sick of it, I had councelling one but it didn't help, she agreed that its ok to be like this but its not. Ive thought of suicide but I wouldn't have the guts to do it I value life too much but at the same time hate it. My ideal atmosphere is at home in the countryside or playing sport, I know everyone likes this but I can attend football training in a good mood (though I do get really excited/anxious before each session but force myself to go) I even get the same horrible feelings when going shopping unless im with family.
Id like to be a nurse or physio or something related but how can I if for 4 years now I get nasty feelings everytime I attend work or college? Im sick of it, I had councelling one but it didn't help, she agreed that its ok to be like this but its not. Ive thought of suicide but I wouldn't have the guts to do it I value life too much but at the same time hate it. My ideal atmosphere is at home in the countryside or playing sport, I know everyone likes this but I can attend football training in a good mood (though I do get really excited/anxious before each session but force myself to go) I even get the same horrible feelings when going shopping unless im with family.
Reply 1
Anonymous
why am I terrified of work?.
Lazy????????????????????????????????????????????
Reply 2
I think a lot of people who have anxiety end up getting panic attacks because they're worried about getting them - I always feel anxious whenever I go on holiday or if I know I'm going to be somewhere where it would look strange if I had to leave early if I panicked (used to get this a lot at work and college).
Your old councellor sounds a bit rubbish to be honest - you could try seeing a doctor and asking to be reffered to someone else. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is very useful as it teaches to practical techniques for challenging negative and irrational thoughts.
Regarding things like going shopping and playing football, these might be things that you have to expose yourself to gradually. Try staying in a shop on your own for five minutes, distracting yourself by walking around and reading labels and the prices of things. Once you can do this, try going back a few days later and staying in a shop for 10 minutes.
A technique I've found useful for distracting myself if I feel like I'm going to panic is to choose a 7 digit number and count backwards in sevens. Alternatively, if you're just generally feeling sketchy you could try writing down the thought that worries you the most and how likely it is to be true (as a percentage). Then write down all the evidence that suggests the thought is true and everything that suggests it is false. If a friend believed the same thing would you think they were being irrational? Then write down again how much you believe in the thought now.
Anxiety is something that takes a long time to overcome but you can do it, and it gets easier as you go along. A year ago I literally couldn't go two minutes without worrying about how dissociated and unreal I felt but now I'm mostly okay. You really should see another councellor - there's no way therapy can make things any worse (it's not like medication!) Good luck.
Your old councellor sounds a bit rubbish to be honest - you could try seeing a doctor and asking to be reffered to someone else. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is very useful as it teaches to practical techniques for challenging negative and irrational thoughts.
Regarding things like going shopping and playing football, these might be things that you have to expose yourself to gradually. Try staying in a shop on your own for five minutes, distracting yourself by walking around and reading labels and the prices of things. Once you can do this, try going back a few days later and staying in a shop for 10 minutes.
A technique I've found useful for distracting myself if I feel like I'm going to panic is to choose a 7 digit number and count backwards in sevens. Alternatively, if you're just generally feeling sketchy you could try writing down the thought that worries you the most and how likely it is to be true (as a percentage). Then write down all the evidence that suggests the thought is true and everything that suggests it is false. If a friend believed the same thing would you think they were being irrational? Then write down again how much you believe in the thought now.
Anxiety is something that takes a long time to overcome but you can do it, and it gets easier as you go along. A year ago I literally couldn't go two minutes without worrying about how dissociated and unreal I felt but now I'm mostly okay. You really should see another councellor - there's no way therapy can make things any worse (it's not like medication!) Good luck.
I used to have something like this with my part-time job. I started about a year ago in the pub in my village, it was my first ever job so of course I was a bit scared. These feelings weren't helped by the fact I had very little training, didn't know what I was doing and managed to take an entire table's food to the wrong table so the pub had to pay for free meals for the first table. A few hours before every shift I would start getting worried about possibly making mistakes and screwing up, and the fact there was a complete bitch in charge didn't help. However, she wasn't well liked by many people so people were understanding about her effect on me and gave me moral support. After a few months (almost without me realising) I started getting calmer and not worrying so much about stuff (the bitch left as well which helped ). Now, I've become really good friends with all my co-workers and they'll always help me with stuff I don't understand.
I guess my advice is just to stick at it, no matter how hard it gets (at one point I considered faking being ill to get out of work) and to get a support network you trust. If you feel pressured and start getting panicky, breathe out slowly to get rid of excess carbon dioxide so your blood can carry more oxygen to your brain, then breathe in slowly. When you're not at work or college think of something you are really good at and write it on a piece of paper. If things get too much just take some time out and look at it, and remember all the positive feelings you associate with that thing. Do one task at a time, don't take on too much and try to remember that most people will be sympathetic. If you find sport relaxing, you could try and organise training sessions before work, or go for a run to release some endorphins ("happy" chemicals) to make you more relaxed.
Good luck!!
). Now, I've become really good friends with all my co-workers and they'll always help me with stuff I don't understand.I guess my advice is just to stick at it, no matter how hard it gets (at one point I considered faking being ill to get out of work) and to get a support network you trust. If you feel pressured and start getting panicky, breathe out slowly to get rid of excess carbon dioxide so your blood can carry more oxygen to your brain, then breathe in slowly. When you're not at work or college think of something you are really good at and write it on a piece of paper. If things get too much just take some time out and look at it, and remember all the positive feelings you associate with that thing. Do one task at a time, don't take on too much and try to remember that most people will be sympathetic. If you find sport relaxing, you could try and organise training sessions before work, or go for a run to release some endorphins ("happy" chemicals) to make you more relaxed.
Good luck!!
Reply 5
wirbelsturm
Lazy????????????????????????????????????????????
you might not believe this OP but I think the main problem here is as wirbelsturm had pointed out; laziness!!
lets look at it from this perspective: because that you are so used to staying at home doing nothing you feel you have to have this lifestyle throughout your life.
but when your faced with the harsh truth that you have to do work instead of dreaming what you want to be you make up problems like anxiety and stuff!
tell me if this helps.
hope you pursue your goals!
Reply 6
Anonymous
When im at home doing nothing Im ok but as soon as I get a new job or start college I get depressed and have panic attacks and just hate life, I end up quiting and teh cycle starts again. I want to get over this without councelling but I started part time work 3 weeks and was anxious all morning, went calm in the afternoon and then was ok for the rest of the day, when I got home I was so pleased that Id prooved to myself I could do it. Then I went in 2 days later and the exact same thing has happened every day. This is why I quit college but how come no matter how much I proove to myself I can do it I still get anxious and horrible feelings? I think it all started when I was 17 and had some sort of unconcious fit on my first day of work, I brought it on myself by being anxious though:confused
Because you haven't proven anything to yourself. Maybe you just hate education. There really is nothing wrong with that. Just like some people hate going to the cinema or walking through the Lake District, you hate sitting down and learning. That said, panic attacks are rather worrying; maybe you need to get yourself a decent counsellor, or go and see a GP who may be able to prescribe you something or refer you to a specialist.
That said, do you really want to be a nurse / physiotherapist? Why? Maybe you don't, but you don't know it yet.
Reply 7
N_n_N
you might not believe this OP but I think the main problem here is as wirbelsturm had pointed out; laziness!!
lets look at it from this perspective: because that you are so used to staying at home doing nothing you feel you have to have this lifestyle throughout your life.
but when your faced with the harsh truth that you have to do work instead of dreaming what you want to be you make up problems like anxiety and stuff!
tell me if this helps.
hope you pursue your goals!
lets look at it from this perspective: because that you are so used to staying at home doing nothing you feel you have to have this lifestyle throughout your life.
but when your faced with the harsh truth that you have to do work instead of dreaming what you want to be you make up problems like anxiety and stuff!
tell me if this helps.
hope you pursue your goals!
Yes, and then they just have pretend fits and panic attacks!
Sigh.
Reply 8
Anonymous
When im at home doing nothing Im ok but as soon as I get a new job or start college I get depressed and have panic attacks and just hate life, I end up quiting and teh cycle starts again. I want to get over this without councelling but I started part time work 3 weeks and was anxious all morning, went calm in the afternoon and then was ok for the rest of the day, when I got home I was so pleased that Id prooved to myself I could do it. Then I went in 2 days later and the exact same thing has happened every day. This is why I quit college but how come no matter how much I proove to myself I can do it I still get anxious and horrible feelings? I think it all started when I was 17 and had some sort of unconcious fit on my first day of work, I brought it on myself by being anxious though
Id like to be a nurse or physio or something related but how can I if for 4 years now I get nasty feelings everytime I attend work or college? Im sick of it, I had councelling one but it didn't help, she agreed that its ok to be like this but its not. Ive thought of suicide but I wouldn't have the guts to do it I value life too much but at the same time hate it. My ideal atmosphere is at home in the countryside or playing sport, I know everyone likes this but I can attend football training in a good mood (though I do get really excited/anxious before each session but force myself to go) I even get the same horrible feelings when going shopping unless im with family.
Id like to be a nurse or physio or something related but how can I if for 4 years now I get nasty feelings everytime I attend work or college? Im sick of it, I had councelling one but it didn't help, she agreed that its ok to be like this but its not. Ive thought of suicide but I wouldn't have the guts to do it I value life too much but at the same time hate it. My ideal atmosphere is at home in the countryside or playing sport, I know everyone likes this but I can attend football training in a good mood (though I do get really excited/anxious before each session but force myself to go) I even get the same horrible feelings when going shopping unless im with family.
that is weird I totally agree with Cthulhufiend
Reply 9
try hypnotherapy to break the negative connection you have between work and yourself.
i had hynotherapy for my insomia as i had a similar connection with my bedroom in a night time situation. whenever i used to see it dark and with curtains drawn etc i used to go into panic mode fearing i wouldnt sleep ...
anyway i had hypnotherapy and it gave me strategies to come with the panic attacks and also to break the negative connection.
i had hynotherapy for my insomia as i had a similar connection with my bedroom in a night time situation. whenever i used to see it dark and with curtains drawn etc i used to go into panic mode fearing i wouldnt sleep ...
anyway i had hypnotherapy and it gave me strategies to come with the panic attacks and also to break the negative connection.
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