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Need advice/someone to talk to about my 'friends' at uni, dont feel like they like me

Hey, so I'm in my first year of uni... im loving the course and the uni etc. but im seeming to have problems with 'friends' as such, on numerous occasions we have arranged to go out for a few drinks (tonight was one for example) and we all said we were up for it and a time and place would be arranged later in the day, nothing in the group chat got mentioned even though I asked because i didnt want to go the wrong place etc. I just went onto facebook and saw that they were all loving going out, being with each other having drinks etc. and i wrote in the chat why didnt anyone tell me of the details.. they replied saying that they 'forgot' to tell me and made a separate group chat from the original chat and arranged the night out. This has occurred on many occasions with different people on the same course and its got to the point where I just want to go home now, i feel like im not wanted anymore, i moved 6 hours away from home for a precise reason.. and now im not even getting treated any better.. how do i know if my friends generally like me? what more can i do? i socialise with them, i say hi to them, i co-operate in class.. ive had years and years of anxiety, depression etc because of this problem in this past and other major personal issues..and now its just coming back again and i feel like im stuck :frown: anyone got any advice or anything? all these friendships were fine, but something happened in the way they were towards me in about late october.. i dont know what to do :frown:
hmm if you're comfortable enough, confront one of them about it? it's probably best to talk to the closest friend you have among the group and they might be more willing to open up to you than when you're in front of everyone.

if not, just assess your situation. if you feel that your friendship with them is becoming toxic, it might be worth considering cutting ties.

all the best c;
Ignore them. Honestly I understand where your coming from. I am currently in my first year too and also currently going through anxiety and depression.. Make friends who make you feel comfortable and not someone who will be making you feel left out. Remember to stay strong. There's many times at uni where I just want to cry but I just remind myself to stay calm.. anyways, don't worry make new friends. Don't be begging your current friends who don't seem to want to hang out with you. Hope everything works out for youuu

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